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Guest NatalieRene

Thats just the first time I've ever broken down and cried. I asked him why he was yelling at me. I couldn't stop crying long enough to even get it out. He said it was because he thought I was trying to tell him how to do his job and was sick of good looking woman thinking they can just come in and expect to get special treatment. To make me feel better he came back with my strawberry smoothie and told me it was on him.

I don't understand it. One second he's yelling at me, the next I'm crying, and then just as quickly I got a free smoothie. What bothers me most was that unlike every other time I've cried I've been able to control myself long enough to get to a bathroom or my car. But today I barely made it out of the door.

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Guest Donna Jean

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Natalie.....

Fact of life #217:...Men don't like it when women cry...

They lose their steely control, go soft and just want it to stop...

They become plyable.....

Work it, Girlfriend!

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest NatalieRene

I feel like I'm a kid all over again learning everything now. I've never gotten that reaction before. If I had done something like that around men before I would have been hit in the arm and told to man up not given a free drink.

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Guest Donna Jean

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Natalie, Hon......

When Becky was here visiting me...we went to a resturant...

As we were leaving a man was coming in the door and I stopped to let him through...

But the man stopped and held the door open...

Beckey poked me and said "We're supposed to go!"....

Oh....

We have to learn old things in a new way.....

Whole new world, Girlfriend....

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Guest AshleyRF

LOL... I suppose I'd of handled it differently. I'd of looked him dead in the face and said "listen donkey, make me what I am telling you to make or I will come across the counter and beat you with the blender". Then, after it was all said and done, I would have cried about it, probably to a few of the guys in my life who probably would have been waiting for him in the parking lot when he got off work. God being a woman is great!

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make me what I am telling you to make or I will come across the counter and beat you with the blender".

:lol:

Of course, Ashley, if it was full of strawberry smoothie, how would you ever tell if he was bleeding?

Anyway, just kidding. I never advocate assault with a loaded blender. <_<

Carolyn Marie

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Guest KimberlyF

Guys are dumb sometimes. And they're always trying to mark their territory. And this is me living as a guy. But they smell what they perceive as weakness.

I work construction... as an electrician. But over the years you do a little of everything. My FIL managed a factory. He filled out paperwork. I was putting some lights in his sons garage and he was going to tell me how to run the pipe.

When we first moved into this house he had to help me fix the broken hot water heater. Every pipe he worked on leaked. None of mine did. He was telling me what to do the whole time. Anytime anything breaks in my house he fixes it while I'm at work.

It took me a while to figure out he was trying to emasculate me. He has zero idea how literally impossible that is.

Now he mows my lawn every week. Sometimes I'll tell my wife to let him know if he missed a spot :)

I've been thinking of leaving a bucket and a sponge out next to my car and seeing what happens.

Kim

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Guest NatalieRene

LOL... I suppose I'd of handled it differently. I'd of looked him dead in the face and said "listen donkey, make me what I am telling you to make or I will come across the counter and beat you with the blender". Then, after it was all said and done, I would have cried about it, probably to a few of the guys in my life who probably would have been waiting for him in the parking lot when he got off work. God being a woman is great!

LOL Wait you can do that?

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Guest NatalieRene

LOL...probably not!

Donna Jean

Really? Does it work with money too? Can I go into my bosses office turn on the water works and tell him that I need a raise will I get one or if I'm offered one and want more can I do a sniffle and ask if that's all my raise is for can I get more?

If I don't get the raise I can go to my higher up boss and claim he sexually harassed me and they'd believe me?

I'm not going to actually do these things because I think they are morally wrong, but seriously that can't possibly work like that. It's so messed up.

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Guest KimberlyF

Really? Does it work with money too? Can I go into my bosses office turn on the water works and tell him that I need a raise will I get one or if I'm offered one and want more can I do a sniffle and ask if that's all my raise is for can I get more?

If I don't get the raise I can go to my higher up boss and claim he sexually harassed me and they'd believe me?

I'm not going to actually do these things because I think they are morally wrong, but seriously that can't possibly work like that. It's so messed up.

No. Tears do a lot but as soon as you say sexual harassment, playtime's over they stop talking to you and lawyer up.

Kim

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Guest NatalieRene

No. Tears do a lot but as soon as you say sexual harassment, playtime's over they stop talking to you and lawyer up.

Kim

That was more of a extreme example said in a jokingly way, sort of like satire. I would never try or suggest that be done. I would seriously hope that wouldn't work anyways. It just seems strange that other men would not even take into account that they are only hearing one side of a story and go beat up some other random guy because their girl friend or someone they wish was their girl friend came over cried and whispered things in the their ears.

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Guest KimberlyF

It just seems strange that other men would not even take into account that they are only hearing one side of a story and go beat up some other random guy because their girl friend or someone they wish was their girl friend came over cried and whispered things in the their ears.

OK...I'm old fashioned I guess in that I have no problem with a guy standing up for a girl at certain times and her word should be enough. But it should be based on trust and she shouldn't lie about things or manipulate guys to have it done. I wouldn't want anyone beat up over a smoothie. I'd call and wouldn't lose any sleep if they lost their job, but I wouldn't want anyone hurt over it.

Kim

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Guest NatalieRene

OK...I'm old fashioned I guess in that I have no problem with a guy standing up for a girl at certain times and her word should be enough. But it should be based on trust and she shouldn't lie about things or manipulate guys to have it done. I wouldn't want anyone beat up over a smoothie. I'd call and wouldn't lose any sleep if they lost their job, but I wouldn't want anyone hurt over it.

Kim

I'm inclined to agree. I'm not a violent person and wouldn't want anyone being violent in my name. I was just shocked that is even remotely a plausible outcome to the events I experienced earlier this week.

It's nice to know though that if i really need help that people will be willing to help.

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