Opinion

[Guest Blake1988]

OK so I have a question and want everyones opinion.

Here it is: Is it considered crossdressing if a guy wants to wear girls socks everyday and then pantyhoses and tights every once and a while?

Also what are your favorite outfits to wear or like whats your Daily ruitine of what you do

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Hi Blake. You are whatever you are - and don't worry about labels. Cross dressing can be anything - and yes - a desire to show a bit of your feminine side is usually the motive, and many males do. A female dressing in boots and shirts may be wanting to show a bit of her masculine side, but it is somehow more acceptable for her.

So come on in and talk with us.

I crossdressed for 50 plus years but it turned out a bit different for me as I got some advice and was diagnosed transgender. So I guess my answer would not be appropriate - I am full time now.

Lizzy

[Guest ChloëC]

Hi Blake,

What you described is basically cross-dressing. Cross-dressing does run the gamut from just enjoying wearing one piece of clothing of the opposite gender all the way to wearing and appearing in public in complete clothing, perhaps even mannerisms, but still with the thought and understanding that you are still your birth gender.

As Lizzy wrote, for some, wearing clothes of the opposite gender is barely looked at (my one young adult daughter happens to love wearing one of my old miltary fatigue shirts with the insignia still attached. Is that cross-dressing? Probably, but fully acceptable in public), but for others it can be a problem.

I happen to enjoy being on the more fully appearing part of the spectrum (or scale, or whatever it's called today), so I don't have a favorite piece of clothing, except when I get something 'new', then that's my favorite until I go back to some older stand-bys.

As for a routine, it really depends on how much time I have or want to spend on my responding to my needs or desires. An hour or less can often get me close to that place in my mind I like to visit, or maybe overnight if the situation presents itself.

Hugs,

Chloë

[Carolyn Marie]

I agree with my colleagues, Blake.

One piece or the whole dang closet, its crossdressing!

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Elizabeth K]

BUT

The point is????

Labels - I am a Southern Belle - YES... I love that label.

And I am a natal born - male bodied female - in transition male to female, but with apparent bi-sexual tendancies (all that in my therapist's records) - I really don't agree with all those labels.

My PFLAG group calles me a lesbian whom also happens to be transsexual. OH MY

I crossdressed for 50 plus years - in a techmical sense - but it appears I was not a crossdresser.

And I was rather androgynous for a little under a year while transitioning - but I was not technically identified as ANDROGYNE.

So I started out marking TRANSEXUALL on Laura's (I think) then changing to MTF - later just 'female.'

So what am? Just me...

Lizzy

[Guest Donna Jean]

I crossdressed for 50 plus years but it turned out a bit different for me as I got some advice and was diagnosed transgender. So I guess my answer would not be appropriate - I am full time now.

Lizzy

Same answer as Lizzy here........

Donna Jean

[Guest Andrea2010]

Well let's look at it from the other point of view. Is it considered crossdressing for my wife to wear jeans and my flannel shirts? Maybe. Personally I dont think socks an/or pantyhose is crossdressing in my mind, after all hose are supposed to be good for circulation or some such (heard it or read it somewhere) AND on cold winter days I love having thigh-highs on under my jeans or whatever pants I'm wearing (they keep my legs warmer). Me? Yeah I'm a crossdresser, panties and bra everyday in public, and a bit further at home (lingerie, skirts, couple mini dresses) and Gosh darned proud of it.

[Guest ChloëC]

Andrea, I understand exactly what you're saying. The problem is that one person can wear certain articles of clothing that are labeled for the opposite gender and others think nothing of it, and in fact, don't even know they're not thinking about it at all. While if another wears clothing articles that are not of their gender, people notice immediately and begin forming opinions.

Is one a cross-dresser and the other not solely because some people form opinions and others don't? Is cross-dressing based strictly on what others think is appropriate wear or behavior? Sadly, it pretty much has become that way. The first barrier I think we have to break through is helping people see that the wearing of clothes should be a personal decision and not based on what others think or feel appropriate. And by showing that cross-dressing is being done in a large fashion, to me, should be a first step in understanding that there is bascially nothing wrong with the actual cross-dressing.

The interesting thing is that I would guess a lot female (not ftm as I originally wrote) cross-dressers don't in any way ever even consider they are cross-dressing. Yet, it wouldn't surprise me that a significant number of them have definite opinions about mtf cross-dressers. I have a strong opinion on why that is. But it's like the divide between transgendered people and LGB people. If one can't see the vast similarities, how can we possibly agree that this kind of discrimination is wrong and come up with a plan to reduce or eliminate it.

Hugs

Chloë