Telling Dad

[Guest Tay-Tay]

Ok so im going to call and tell my dad about it mainly because i can t wait and because at least one of my parents have to know so im gonna call him or email im not sure yet tonight and tell him about me being a FTM

[Guest Seth]

No phone calls or emails. Say it to his face.

[Guest raydub]

whether you call, email, or wait on face time...all depends on the kind of relationship you have with the person. my dad and i generally communicate better via email, cause in-person is always extra super awkward unless we're joking around about stuff. when i told him, i pretty much eased him into it.. half and half. told him about it in person.. which did NOT strike up a conversation (he's just not that kinda guy) --then that left room for me to go into a couple specifics in an email and maybe ask for feedback. then some more talk about it in person.. etc.

just my experience.

Ray

[Guest Tay-Tay]

i told him and he is kewl with it and i told him through e-mail because he is not here and he took it alright he even started to call me son in the e-mails.

[Guest StrandedOutThere]

i told him and he is kewl with it and i told him through e-mail because he is not here and he took it alright he even started to call me son in the e-mails.

Sounds like a pretty positive reaction! Good deal.

[Guest Jack Solomon]

i told him and he is kewl with it and i told him through e-mail because he is not here and he took it alright he even started to call me son in the e-mails.

Hey, that's great Tay-Tay. I'm glad it worked out.

Solomon

[Guest Mr. Fox]

I think that is the most positive reaction I have observed. Never before have I had hearsay of a case in which the parent starts calling their child by the correct pronouns right away. Congratulations.

Adrian

[Guest JayJaye]

congrats, dude!

I plan to come out after several months on T and when my name change is legal. I plan on doing it by letter. It will NOT be well received by family, I'm afraid, so this way I can explain more and give them some references and they can talk when they're ready. In the meantime my best friend online knows and my daughter already knows and I'm starting to make friends in the trans community (thanks, guys!).

I'm not sure what I'm going to do at work, probably give my manager a letter and the name of a consultant who has already agreed to talk to my work about my transition (it's what he does) so that's cool. I hope I don't get fired but our employee manual states no discrimination based on sexual orientation, which is not the same as transgender I know, but our state law covers trans under sexual harrassment (i think, i'll have to check the reference again and make sure I mention it in my letter). I won't be able to hide it at work after I legally change my name. And it shouldn't be a shock as I've been presenting more and more male each week I go to work, and my work is known for informality and gossip, so I can make jokes about it to diffuse people's anxiety.

I'm not as scared as I was. I so need to transition before I go nuts!! I hate this limbo-land.

Jay

[Guest raydub]

Dude! that's the probably the coolest thing ive ever heard.

congrats Tay!

aww.. gettin the guys all teary-eyed and stuff. im stoked it worked out for you.

Ray