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A Small Bright Spot Today

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I am lucky to have a few very dear friends in my life. One of them is a GG that I have known and worked with for a few years now. She is one of the sweetest and caringest people I have ever had the pleasure to know.

Well after my experience with my wife last night I just had to tlak to someone today just to vent and get some support so I IMed her and asked if she had a few minutes to tlak, she said yes so I called her. She answered by saying, "So how ae you doing today girlfriend." That simple sentence made my day. That consideration for me was overwhelming. Right now I am having one of those tearful moments that we girls are allowed to have but men are not. It feels so good to be a woman even if I don't yet look like one.

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Sharah

How good those little things can be!

I am happy for you and happy that yo can fully feel and express your joy.

JohnJ

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Sharah.....

Girlfriend.....

Once you've accepted your self (if you're anything like me) the crying starts...way before HRT...

Of course the HRT is like throwing gas on a fire...but the crying was already there...

As a male person, I don't think that I cried twice in ten years...now almost anything can set me off...

I'm so glad that you have her for support...very important!

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Sharah,

I so agree. I've kinda said the big push in my TS life this time was when we decided to no longer have kids earlier this year, but honestly last Oct. I innocently enough signed up for a 13K walk(I guess some people run these things :) ) and most of the people I walked with mile after mile were women supporting each other. And along the route near the end were hundreds of women and a few scattered men cheering on all the late finishers. And the whole time I was thinking these are my people. And at the end of the race a woman told me that I helped her finish even though I wasn't talking because I just looked dedicated and kept a steady pace so she matched me mile after mile so that made me feel good.

But now if I stand up for myself or do something positive and my cousin sends me a 'You go, girl' text it makes my day.

Kim

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Once you accept that you are a girl all it takes is little things like that to set you off. I have many of them. It is a good thing I have a Kleenex box next to me at work.

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Once you accept that you are a girl all it takes is little things like that to set you off. I have many of them. It is a good thing I have a Kleenex box next to me at work.

Absolutely!

I keep them in my pockets, purse, on my desk, in the car, by my computer at home, next to my TV chair, in the bathroom, in my woorkshop.....

Heck, you never know when a good cry might break out! Might break a nail or sumpthin'

Donna Jean

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Sharah.....

Girlfriend.....

Once you've accepted your self (if you're anything like me) the crying starts...way before HRT...

Of course the HRT is like throwing gas on a fire...but the crying was already there...

As a male person, I don't think that I cried twice in ten years...now almost anything can set me off...

I'm so glad that you have her for support...very important!

Huggs

Donna Jean

Sharah,

I am so glad you to hear (I am just getting caught up on all your posts) you have a girl friend in which to confide in, given what your wife has thrown at you.

Crying just feels so good, short bursts, recover and reflect. Sometimes just all out balling for minutes at a time. It's really healthy, I realize just how unhealthy it was not to cry now.

Hugs

Cindy -

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Sharah,

You know that i am always here for you but work has interfered enough that I just now found this topic.

I have always been different it seems, so many of us describe the tears starting to come once we have accepted ourselves but for me it was always a struggle to contain them until I was alone - I have always cried very easily the only change for me was that I now allow myself to not hold them back.

That little confirmation of calling you girlfriend is enough to start those floods for now but fortunately after enough times they just make you smile and it will be safe to talk to people again without a fear of flooding your room.

Have a great day, girlfriend and here is a tissue for you.

Love ya,

Sally

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