Earrings

[Guest SamanthaJane]

So the wife has always egged me on about getting an ear piercing, yesterday she asked if I wanted to go with her when she gets her eyebrow pierced, and I could get my ear done, (she doesn't like studs on guys, so like a captive bead type ring).

She was borderline shocked that I am actually considering it. Although I thought looked a little too much like George Michael when we slid her one loop around my lobe just to check it out, I am really tempted.

Tonight when I get home from work, I am going to explain my motivations and reasoning to her and try to make the best decision I can.

For the first time in my life I don't feel like the perceptions of masculinity need to dictate what I can and cannot do, or how I need to behave. I don't care if anyone looks at me and thinks, "well he isn't acting very manly", simply because I am no longer ashamed of who I am. I feel like I am allowed to be just me.

My other motivation is going to push for both lobes, and that is simply so I can use her dangle-y earrings when I dress up like once a month. Since I am such a part time CD, is getting my ears pierced a little too much?

Also, what can I expect as far as healing time, and after that, my ability to without one or both of them in without them closing up on me?

[Paula ult]

Samantha i have lots of ear piercings, i only use captive bead rings in my ears, doubles and a daith in one and a tragus, helix in addition to a 1" stretched lobe in the other, the healing time depends on how fast you heal, but look at 6 - 8 weeks healing time, keep the crusties off the ring, i cleaned mine in the shower and rotated them often, i would just leave them in all the time, but they will have to come out if you have a catscan, mri or surgery.

Paula

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Wow - going way back - I pieced both ears myself about 1983 I think. One time when I was in denial - 1990 I think, I let them go for about a year and they sort of closed up in the back, but easily reopened.

It took me about a month for them to totally stablize and not be sore. I could not wear earrings except at night and when alone on the weekends. It was a terrible risk for infection but it worked out. The bacteria gets in mainly from your handling the earrings with your fingers - so wash and disinfect your fingers when dealing with a new piercing. Of course- keep the site cleaned and disinfected to.

Enjoy! Nobody cares much about what you do with your ear piecings, not these days.

I hope this helps.

Lizzy

[Carolyn Marie]

Samantha, I got both ears pierced last month. Its been four weeks, and I've worn regular dangly earrings once already. I had no trouble

with infections and they were just a little sore for 3-4 days.

I wear small sterling silver studs, and while folks noticed at work, no one made a fuss, and some folks, men and women, were quite complimentary.

It was a total change for me, as I am known as a conservative dresser and I don't go in for jewelry and such. This may be Southern California and not Ohio or Mississippi, but I doubt it will be a problem. People do what they want these days and few care.

Bottom line - if it feels right, go for it! BTW, I loved wearing my danglies.

Carolyn Marie

[Carolyn Marie]

At some point the man turned in my direction - he had a bone through his nose! I immediately started sneezing.

Love, Kat

Bone allergy?

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Donna Jean]

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Samantha, Hon.....

I had my left ear pierced in 1973.......

My right one on New Years Day 2009....lol

I'm not lopsided anymore...

Oh, and I'm in Ohio and I have now problems at all...even the cows don't care!

Huggs

Donna Jean

[Guest sarah f]

I say if you are going to do it go ahead and get both done at the same time. I had mine done when I was 14 years old. That was 20 years ago. Wow I just realized that is a long time ago. I asked my mom and she was ok with it. I should have mentioned the other side of me to but was too scared.

[Guest Donna Jean]

I say if you are going to do it go ahead and get both done at the same time.

I agree with Sarah on this....

I work in a business where I deal with all sorts of contractors in the building trades...

You'd be surprised how many of those big, burly guys have two earrings!

Go for it!

Donna Jean

[Guest MWDK]

So the wife has always egged me on about getting an ear piercing, yesterday she asked if I wanted to go with her when she gets her eyebrow pierced, and I could get my ear done, (she doesn't like studs on guys, so like a captive bead type ring).

She was borderline shocked that I am actually considering it. Although I thought looked a little too much like George Michael when we slid her one loop around my lobe just to check it out, I am really tempted.

Tonight when I get home from work, I am going to explain my motivations and reasoning to her and try to make the best decision I can.

For the first time in my life I don't feel like the perceptions of masculinity need to dictate what I can and cannot do, or how I need to behave. I don't care if anyone looks at me and thinks, "well he isn't acting very manly", simply because I am no longer ashamed of who I am. I feel like I am allowed to be just me.

My other motivation is going to push for both lobes, and that is simply so I can use her dangle-y earrings when I dress up like once a month. Since I am such a part time CD, is getting my ears pierced a little too much?

Also, what can I expect as far as healing time, and after that, my ability to without one or both of them in without them closing up on me?

If you can get away with doing both, that's great. My job wouldn't let me do it even though the taboo is not so great anymore. Still, I found some great earrings at a place called Cliptomania.com. I have several hoop and dangle earrings. I love the weight and the clips are totally hidden.

Good luck either way!

[Guest Katie Anne]

I had my left ear pierced in 1974 and my right in 1993. Since then I have had both ear lobes pierced again, twice, That's three holes per lobe. I frequently wear large hoops in the first hole. My hair is very long, but the hoops must show particularly when I have my hair in ponytail. I have only had someone comment once. That was a woman of near my age, i.e. middle 50's asking if I thought she was too old for multiple piercings. I did not. I wear earrings 24/7 except for Judo and Aikido practice and that was the sole comment. Most of the men I know have their ears pierced. Many wear large earrings. I really don't think anyone under eighty thinks that a man having his ears pierced is any more feminine than having over the collar hair. Do ot any enjoy.

Cheers, K.A. McCloskey

[Guest paddy]

I had both my ears pieced some 6 or 7 years ago after I had decided that I wanted to be more than just crossdressing and intended to try to live as a woman full time.

Earrings are just apart of my normal life these days, although I have not yet acquired any danglies.

I just love having my earrings in all the time,and when I am wearing studs, I quiet often leave in for a week, 24/7.

Patricia :rolleyes:

[Guest Krystyna_Marie]

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Samantha, Hon.....

I had my left ear pierced in 1973.......

My right one on New Years Day 2009....lol

I'm not lopsided anymore...

Oh, and I'm in Ohio and I have now problems at all...even the cows don't care!

Huggs

Donna Jean

You rock, Donna Jean I am single pierced now, did it myself with ice, alcohol and a safety pin, longing for a chance to do ear number but not professionally acceptable.

Kisses - KM

[Guest sarah f]

Okay I am reading this and realized we don't know if you pierced your ears. Update please. We are wanting to know.

[Guest Donna Jean]

You rock, Donna Jean I am single pierced now, did it myself with ice, alcohol and a safety pin, longing for a chance to do ear number but not professionally acceptable.

Kisses - KM

Why? Are you a nun?.....lol

I work with a ton of tradesmen...macho construction types...lots of them have head jewelery of all types...

PM me if you want...ok?

Huggs

Donna Jean

[Guest SamanthaJane]

Okay I am reading this and realized we don't know if you pierced your ears. Update please. We are wanting to know.

Well, about that... I kinda chickened out a bit. Spoke with a few friends, and I've always had a thing about making physical changes on a "whim". I am still going to weigh the options and consider it, but I am wanting to know where on the ol' spectrum I fall into before I move forward.

It was just a tad frustrating since I was actually at a point where I was totally comfortable with being a typical crossdresser, but now that I have read a couple books, and have had more freedom to explore this side of me I am back to being a little unsure if I'm not perhaps further from the "Polarized" CD side of the spectrum than I thought. I am going to pick up some clips as MWDK suggested.

In other news to make up for bailing on this opportunity I took a trip to the store and picked up some disposable Venus razors and shaved my legs for the first time ever. (Told the wife I was thinking about doing it beforehand, she was kinda shocked that I actually did it.) I got some good advice from the Chat regarding exfoliating and preparation, and upkeep.

I absolutely LOVE how it turned out, (pictures in the gallery of how they look) they feel & look great, and even in my jeans the day after, feeling the material brush against my legs is so exhilarating. I am surprised at how cold my legs are without the hair, I didn't expect that at all. I will make sure to keep the "floor" fan setting in the car warmer when the wife & I ride together in the future.

So, basically I was a little hesitant in posting because I didn't want to disappoint you all, but hope I made up for my chicken-out with a different kind of success.

Love, Sam