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Guest Joanna Phipps

Well ask and ye shall receive, yeah, well this time I revceive the news that 

1) she does not wish to be with a woman

2) I no longer excite her

3) in her mind we are just friends

So after all this time, and the battles through my transition  just as thing start looking up my world caves in

I sit and cry, and wonder 

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Oh Joanna-I am so very sorry!

Nothing I can say will really help but I want to tell you that we are here for you. We care and we understand your pain.

Hugs

JohmJ

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Guest Donna Jean

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Jo, Honey......

I understand.....

I guess that like any gamble, we know what we stand to lose going in....

I'm so sorry...

I'm here....I know what your having because I have some of the same...

LOVE & HUGGS!

Dee Jay

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Joanna,

I am so sorry to hear news like that. It just plain sucks. We all change in many different ways from the time we marry our loved ones. I guess some are unwilling to accept change and would rather move out than to accept.

My heart goes out to you and to all that have spouses or loved ones in this phase of a relationship.

Cris

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My heart goes out to you, Joanna. I'm so sorry, hon.

I know how hard you've tried to keep things together, to take her feelings into account, to meet her needs.

Sometimes, maybe most of the time, it just isn't enough. You tried, though, and that's what counts.

You never gave up, she did.

I'm here for you, hon. Hang in there, and let those tears flow. It's better that you let your feelings out.

Love

Carolyn

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Joanna,

I am so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you. I can totally understand what you are feeling right now and I only hope it passes quickly and you can get on with your life.

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Guest Joanna Phipps

Guess im gonna be coming back here for a while till i get this behind me... well one thing is for sure it has accelerated my surgery schedule. I have a Docs appt on tues an im going to open the surgery convo then, I have fulfilled the RLE requirement longtime since

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Guest Elizabeth K

Joanna - let her go if she wants to go. It's a choice you have to let her make. You will also be letting go in a way that you will come to realize is going to be better for your mental health as well.

We married MTF do not have a track record of surviving though our marriages, especially after it is clear we will have our SRS.

It's okay, it is part of the price we sometimes pay for becoming ourselves. Terribly tragic but it is what happens.

Lizzy

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Guest ~Brenda~

Dearest Joanna,

One of the toughest experiences to endure is the fundamental loss of one's life as the result of coming out. I know exactly how you feel. I can only offer you this my love... Time and Life has a wonderful way of healing. I know this is small comfort to you now, but as time goes by, you will see what I am saying.

For now... (((HUUUGSS)))

Love

Brenda

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Guest KimberlyF

I know this is tough, it stings, it's a personal rejection by someone you deeply care about, but honestly I've stated here before that all I can hope for and all I can ask and expect from my wife is that at the end of all of this we get to where you're at.

3) in her mind we are just friends

It would be as selfish of me to expect my wife to become a lesbian as it would of her to expect me to stay in this body. It would be as selfish of me to expect my wife who really is at times trying but not be able to live in a relationship she never signed up for and deal with something I've been dealing with every day of my life and need to move on to a different relationship and the rest of her life. I can not ask her to do something she doesn't want to do in her core.

Now that you know her feelings and where she stands, it doesn't sound like she's rejecting you in her life, just in her bedroom. Maybe you can work as you,the couple, as friends? We can all use strong friends in our lives.

And keep looking at the positives like you're doing. I too put transitiony things on hold (why do we do these things?) because of my marriage trying to get things to work out. And then there was a fundamental change in my relationship and I have a Drs appt on the 27th and I believe I'm gonna bump up starting Estro by about 3 months give or take a day.

I know there are tears and I know it's not easy, but I think this will really end up being a good thing in the long run for your life. Get your surgery, finish the journey and then wait for the rest of us.

Kim

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