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Ok so Ive been kinda having an aggravating time lately.

1) My therapist was not very qualified or comfortable with dealing with trans issues. So she told me she that she could not write an hrt letter because she didn't feel comfortable with knowing that she was a part of completely changing ones life.

2) Search for new therapist continued with 4 fails. One never called me back after 4 messages. The second won't accept new patients till at least December. 3 & 4 said they were not willing to see me.

3) HUGE blowout with my wife. Good and bad. She finally got to tell me how how she thought I was about bat poop crazy for doin what im doing. BUT, she still supports my decision because she has seen how unhappy I am in life and wants to help me so we can at least have a good relationship for our childs sake.

4) I finally found a gt! (yay me) BUT I have to drive 4 hrs away from home to see them. They do do therapy through skype though. So that is in the works. This coming friday I will be driving to see them.

5) Im really having a difficult time at work. We've been working 50+ hrs a week and Its such a stressful environment that Im really getting tired of working there. The only reason i stay is for my profit sharing come march. That should really help financially, and I do believe I deserve it.

6) Ive started working on getting into college and applying for scholarships. Hopefully something works out there.

7) I found a local electrologist that has experience with trans. clients. Did I mention local? Podunk nowhere is never local.....or is it?

Anyway thats kinda what I have been up too lately. My doctor has been reluctant on continuing my anxiety medicine, they keep pressuring me to inform them of the reasons of

my anxiety. As much as Ide like to tell her I can't really do that. I have friends who work there and It would cause much unneeded drama right now if they found out. So im looking for a different doctor also.

Always seems like a struggle. Lol Not that it hasn't always been anyway. Guess just the reality of the struggle not ending as soon as Ide like it too remains a constant reminder of why I push on.

Have a great day everyone, and don't forget that your in a fantastic boat. (Even if it don't have a paddle, lol)

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Hi,

Thank you for your update. Nice that you found a GT, despite the hassles. Perhaps the GT can do something to help with the anxiety meds so you do not have to come out to your MD, nor switch MDs.

Overall, things sound positive, other than the workplace meatgrinder situation.

That is very interesting regarding the electrologist in your area. Does this mean you might meet local Trans people. This might be a great source for who to go to for prescribing meds and stuff. Had one in this rural area, but her business declined and she sold out a couple of years prior to starting my search. :(

Wish you well on things. Hope it gets even better!

Huggs,

Opal

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  • Admin

Kind of a mixed bag, eh? Well, that's better than a bag of poop, anyway, right? ;)

I hope the G.T. works out for you. Be glad that your first one was honest enough to tell you she couldn't help you. At least

you didn't waste any more money on her.

I also wish you well with your wife, and hope that things even out over time. It could definitely be worse, hon, and even under

the best of circumstances its no picnic. You're doing all right.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Donna Jean

1) My therapist was not very qualified or comfortable with dealing with trans issues. So she told me she that she could not write an hrt letter because she didn't feel comfortable with knowing that she was a part of completely changing ones life.

Is she serious?

That is the therapists whole purpose...to help change someone's life...sheesh!

You certainly do have a lot going on...you hang in there...ok?

You'll make it!

HUGGGGGS!

Donna Jean

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Guest EvenClose

LOL Donna Jean, yeah guess she was. Cause she pretty much said "Hey here's a referral from me, good luck to ya."

All is well enough though. I keep hearing its a marathon, but I'm wondering if that includes a 6th gear?

Ill let yall know more friday once I get back. The trans clinic should be qualified....(Hence the name right?)

OH and more WONDERFUL NEWS!!! Ok not really, but since my insurance covers 100% OF NOTHING!!!! I think i found insurance, away from work and not much more expensive,

that covers transition completely!! The insurance through my terrible job is "self funded".. Since that means that my employer basically decides what they pay for and what they don't.....They decide to pay for.......NOTHING!! (Yay big round of applause for fail job.)

So since I feel the same way about my job as they do me. (take a guess eh?) I think im gonna not pay them to not pay for anything and take my cold hard cash out of their fail pockets and put it to good use. :)

I'm really starting to understand the hard fact that people realllllllllly just don't get it. Lucky for them though, I DO!. lol

Anyway gang, keep on truckin. Ill try and do the same.laugh.gif

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You'll have to mention how that goes!

I also live in the state of Misery, lol... and I was also looking at the GT in KC. I've never seen a therapist for this, so I'm very curious how that goes. Unfortunately, it'll be a bit of a drive for me as well.. but meh.. could be worse.

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