Is It Odd Not To Angst Over Your Body?

[Guest Samurai_Kid]

I can't say I've ever been sad about being a girl.

Never bemoaned any of my features, aside from the occasional whining when family comment on them. Never been too displeased with my body; It's just fine. I'd rather look like a boy, but whatever. I'm more into "Being treated and thought of as a boy" rather then "Looking like a boy".

I do have some self esteem problems, but it's just the typical teenage stuff. I've always found myself different from other people in appearance, but that's just me. I look like my mom did when she was little; I'll grow up to be just perky.

Anyway, is it ordinary for trans?

I always hear people with their angsty, depressing stories of how they hated being in their body before they transitioned and such.

[Guest Opal]

Hi,

Well, being Transgendered can mean many different things. One person's feelings may be quite a bit different from someone else's. It does not mean that one is 'more' Trans and the other is 'less' Trans. It is a spectrum. One's own feelings can even change from day to day.

This is where the professional help from a Gender Therapist really helps to guide one on their feelings, and what path to take.

Hugs,

Opal

[Guest silentlysearching]

I can't say I've ever been sad about being a girl.

Never bemoaned any of my features, aside from the occasional whining when family comment on them. Never been too displeased with my body; It's just fine. I'd rather look like a boy, but whatever. I'm more into "Being treated and thought of as a boy" rather then "Looking like a boy".

I do have some self esteem problems, but it's just the typical teenage stuff. I've always found myself different from other people in appearance, but that's just me. I look like my mom did when she was little; I'll grow up to be just perky.

Anyway, is it ordinary for trans?

I always hear people with their angsty, depressing stories of how they hated being in their body before they transitioned and such.

I understand a bit. One thing hat caused me confusion early on was that while I couldn't stand my secondary sex characteristics such as body hair, facial hair, muscle mass, I didn't mind the primary characteristics. Now if I were given a hence to right now have srs to change the primary characteristics, I would in a heartbeat, but having it doesn't cause me any anguish. To me, it is about being accepted and able to live as a female and everything I feel I need to change is so that I can be accepted. My therapist put it in perspective when she said that if it weren't for societies notions about how men and women are supposed to look, trans people wouldn't have such a hard time. All any of us want in the end is to be accepted as our inner gender, and everything else we feel we have to do stems from that. Not sure if that makes sense, but I hope you get the idea.

[Guest Donna Jean]

.

Honey....

Gender is a wide spectrum....

Many of us MTF/FTM can't see any other way except total transition and to be perceived as our target gender....

In your case one has to admit...if you look like a girl, most people will take you that way...

It's good that you're comfortable in your body...so many people cannot say that...

Huggs

Donna Jean

[Guest Sam_P]

I can't say I've ever been sad about being a girl.

Never bemoaned any of my features, aside from the occasional whining when family comment on them. Never been too displeased with my body; It's just fine. I'd rather look like a boy, but whatever. I'm more into "Being treated and thought of as a boy" rather then "Looking like a boy".

I do have some self esteem problems, but it's just the typical teenage stuff. I've always found myself different from other people in appearance, but that's just me. I look like my mom did when she was little; I'll grow up to be just perky.

Anyway, is it ordinary for trans?

I always hear people with their angsty, depressing stories of how they hated being in their body before they transitioned and such.

There are definitely lots of people that feel this way - it makes a lot of sense. For a lot of people though the two things are inextricably linked; they can't get people to treat them like a guy/girl without looking like other people's expectation of a guy/girl. That's sad. Hopefully with a lot more people now aware of trans issues and gender in general this is becoming less of a link. Here's to hoping!

[Guest ricka]

I'm with you, Sugar! I feel good about my body. Even though I am genetically

a male I have been blessed with a female body that matches my gender identity.

So I guess I am not your typical transgendered female in this regard. I

have a naturally voluptuous figure and I would not want to look like a fashion

model. Ironically prior to accepting myself as a female and trying to be male

I dieted and exercised compulsively trying to obtain a masculine body but it

just never worked at least on an emotional level.

Miss Ricka

[Guest Annaemo]

Hi Samurai,

Its great your happy with your body . I think Opal is right. Some people with gender dystipia hate there body and feel there sexual organs are just not right for the mental image of them self. I started off the same way as you, I was not really dissatisfied with my body, I'm not over weight and did put on a lot of muscle and was really fit and healthy, if I was a lot less shy I probably could have been popular with girls too .

It just feels there is some thing inside like a voice saying 'This isn't right', maybe its like if you were keeping up a lie to make your friend feel better but actually it would be better to tell her even if the truth would make her feel bad.

Some people realise when they are very young and get help as soon as possible. Some people keep it inside them for 30-40 years or more because its just too scary or unpractical to face upfront.

Just remember you might not feel it now but it could get worse over time if you just ignore it. Now is the time to explore your feelings and try and find the best place to be, its much easier to explore them with some one who understands too like a GT or other transgender females, especially ones in your age group. Then you can carry on with a much better life .

Hug Leanna xx