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Advantages Of Being Transgender


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Guest JaniceW

For a change of pace let's list the advantages of being transgender instead of the problems.

- No waiting in line at the restroom, just use which ever one has no line.

- Having personal experience and knowledge of how the opposite gender functions.

- Able to buy clothes in which ever department has the best sales.

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Guest Maria (Hilda)

Getting to meet me (Thats a big one, coz lets face it, I'm so darned lovely :P)

For MTFs, being able to say which hurts worse, testes of breasties pain. (Thats an advantage?)

Getting to know a shaver very personally

Knowing the alphabet in more depth

I can't think of anything, to be honest ;)

Love ya, Meereyaha

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Guest Elizabeth K

Well yes - advantages - BUT maybe at the first few months all that works, but...

Going to the restroom - it HAS to be the gender you are presenting as. Women's restrooms have longer lines even if there are more stalls, because it takes more time to sit down - and redressing is more complicated - and women always wash their hands. BUT I thnk the women's restrooms are cleaner And women talk to each other in them, which is nicer.

Knowing how the other gender thinks? Somewhat. I thought I knew what it was to be a woman, but after HRT kicked in - wow - so much more! Everything we women do has a reason.. EXAMPLES? Flipping that hair back all the time? Looks sexy? No - its because you get tired of having it in your mouth, but it feels and looks so good loose, so you up up with it. Standing with one shoe partly off? Heels hurt! Purfume? It's for you - not anyone else - smells so good! Men? Never did like what they do and how they compete - still don't that much. I just try to tune them out - let them folow what I want if they want me to like them!

As to shopping either side - I don't have male clothes anymore, so I certainly would not be shopping for them most times. BUT you have a 1000 times more selection in the women's side - and the sales are FANTASTIC. You can also ask anyone how an outfit looks on you - even the other women shoppers. And if you go in - try 50 outfits and don't buy a thing, its perfectly okay. And the clothes are so nice!

And women dress for comfort in the summer. A cool skirt is just amazing with the wind blowing on your bare legs - sandals on, toes painted. Men dress for comfort in the winter. I don't know why but it seems so hard to stay warm when you are female. Its not just the clothes. Its something to do with our new metabolism I think.

You virtually get to sit anywhere you want in a restaurant, as a woman.

People look at you and smile - men do of course, but women have a 'we are sisters' smile.

You stop cursing as much and realize your anger is much less, so life is nicer.

Being trangender also makes you VERY interesting to the medical profession! It's fun to watch doctor's paying close attention to almost EVERYTHING you say.

And you met people like yourself - people that understand you instantly! THAT is RARE in the non-trans communty. You make life-long friends.

FINALLY - you can LOVE people - really love your friends... with all your heart.

Lizzy

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If you are trans you are probably smarter, more creative and more articulate than you would otherwise have been due probably to the unique wiring of your brain.

And your life is lived with a rare awareness. We take very little for granted. Are aware of nuances in life that few see or appreciate. We come to have great self-awareness and strength and determination as well as incredible patience.

If we are lucky enough to find Laura's we develop a tolerance that makes our world a better place. A kindness and respect for others that make us truly good people. We learn to love and give and care even in the midst of our own pain. And oddly enough, I have observed that we seem to bring the best rather than the worst of both the gender we have been socialized in and the gender we truly are to our lives.

The price is high and often bitter but these are great blessing as far as I'm concerned.

Love

John

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Guest Jessica22450

passing as either gender on the net is easier, for me, i've done it since I was 13, I can pass just as easy as a girl as I can a guy, most on the internet (unless I say female in an asl with a male nick/screen name or vice versa then questions are raised) but usually as long as the name people see matches the gender you give, they won't question you.

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Another great thread.

How about taking time for yourself in the morning or before you go out?

Picking the right outfit with all the bells and whistles so you are "one" with what you wear. Looking amazing.

Smiling..a lot.

Crying...a lot. I cannot say why, but, I kinda like to cry every once in awhile.

The music and movie library is expanded because we like everything. Beyonce and Led Zeppellin! Nights in Rodanthe and Rambo III!

Having a lot of shoes. I love shoes.

Having a therapist who you can say anything to and it will be okay (I think I'll stay in therapy forever, it's an awesome release),

Tolerance, love, understanding (and) appreciation for the LGBT community and activists. We don't have to fake acceptance.

These are things that I have enjoyed no matter which way I am presenting. It only spread to the boy side as my "self" began to emerge.

Hugs,

Shari

Shari

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Guest Penelope

Once I had accepted that I was transgender I didn't have to censor my inner thoughts and feelings any more.

I feel more complete; I can now look at the world with my male and (developing) female sides.

Penny

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Guest Jennifer RachaelAnn

Meeting a group of people that are the most loving and supporting you could ever find, and knowing they are always there whenever you need them.

Being able to wear jeans or a skirt and no one thinks twice about it.

You can write eny kind of poetry and no one calls you a sissy or any variant of that word.

Being a lover and not a fighter becomes more acceptable.

You are naturally more tolerant of people and their differences.

And a couple jokeing ones:

For the guys: shaving becomes entirely optional. :D

For the girls: if a guy is attracted to you, he'll buy you popcorn at the movies. :D

That's about all I can think of.

Jennifer RachaelAnn

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to be honest, the only advantage that i can really think of is the fact that 'becoming' your true gender would have to make you appreciate it more than someone who has never had to think about it.

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Guest Donna Jean

Who else get's to experience re-incarnation without the inconvenience of dying first???

Yeah, Hon......

I have to say that having been able to experience and live both genders is eye opening...something that very few on this big blue marble get to experience...

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Living under both the umbrellas of both genders, you become more aware of problems and experiences that both the genders go through, particularly the ones that women have to cope with.

The other side of the coin is that when I moved to my new home, the receptionists attitude at the doctors surgery, changed for the better, when the girls knew that I really wanted to live as a woman. It was pretty obvious that they had seen the printout that I had given to my doctor detailing my travel down the mtf path over the previous 6 years.

Patricia :D :D

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A negative I experienced today for the very first time- I had to dig in the back yard for a while and I had to give some serious thought as to how I would get it done without ruining my nails! I have NEVER had that happen before. What a pain!

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Guest stranger

My gender variance gives me:

X-ray specs for what constitutes both gendered behavior and conformist behavior, and what it costs people who throw their energy into any sort of typicality to be that way when internally, they are not so rigid.

( Which is why I like letting my freak flag fly. People who are offended at me really should get out more often.)

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I have been a utely aware lately of how DULL the clothes are in the mens department!

GOD! Give them some prints!!!

No kidding this thought just struck me head on @ the mall last Sunday.

I never saw such dull lifeless colors in the Men's dept. All you have to do is just scan the racks, and the frequency of light returning says "boring", "dull", "conservative", "reserved". I just can't buy that stuff anymore.

Then you scan the Girls / Women's racks and the frequency of light returning says "Exiting", "Happy", "Joyous", full of life etc.

Color really does wonder for a girl.

Anyway just a rant in the middle of this thread -

Peace and joy from Cindy

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For a change of pace let's list the advantages of being transgender instead of the problems.

- No waiting in line at the restroom, just use which ever one has no line.

- Having personal experience and knowledge of how the opposite gender functions.

- Able to buy clothes in which ever department has the best sales.

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Nice to put a positive spin on things Janice in this post !

Being transgendered allows me a far greater reach into my daughters, wife's, mother's, and sister's life experiences. I can truly provide empathic and understanding far beyond a man's only perspective.

Being transgendered allows me to see and understand people better that I have known previously or I have met for the first time. I am able to "read" people even better now (even at my age ;-)).

Being transgendered has allowed me to understand my body much better. I treat my body now so much better plain and simple, and the rewards are fabulous.

Being transgendered has allowed me to be one with my soul. The spiritual aspect of self acceptance is so powerful.

Peace

Cindy -

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Guest Amanda joan

One of my favorite plus' I can wear purple everyday if I want to.

Purfume oh the wonderful smell.

Make up that make me look younger. Yeah!!

Feeling pretty.

Having him pick up the tab.

Enjoying jewelery much more.

Chatting with the ladies and sharing fashion secrets.

Playing with my hair style every morning.

Hearing shoes that make a lot of noise when I walk down the hall.

It's all good. :D

Peace & Love Amanda Joan

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