Openminded And Ready To Learn

[Guest joseph0508]

Hello,

You can call me Mrs. T. I'm a mom of three beautiful boys. My third child was born 3 weeks ago. His name is Joseph. When Joe was born we were told he had Ambiguous Genitalia (Hypospadious). For five months we thought we were having a baby girl. You can imagine how surprised we were when the doctor said I think she has testicles. This has been a very different experience for us. My job as my little blessings mom is to find as much accurate information as possible so I may prepare for our journey ahead. I'm not sure what the future holds. We have had many test done to find out as much as possible about Joe's gender. It appears that he is all boy internally. However, externally things are not defined . I want to be opened minded and allow my son to understand himself as much as possible. Others have stated that he may not be all boy in is mind? To be honest he has not told me yet, what he is thinking. LOL! Maybe my questions are premature but, I want to treat this with knowledge and understanding as he grows. Please pardon any ignorance I may have on the topic , this is my first experience. So I come here searching for answers. I come here to listen to others stories . I come here to support no matter how different or normal my son may be.

Mrs. T

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[MaryEllen]

Hi Mrs. T,

Welcome to Laura's Playground. Thank you for sharing with us about little Joseph. You have legitamate concerns but I wouldn't rush to any quick judgment. If you were to have him surgically altered at this tender age, it could very well be a tragic mistake. I would wait a few years and see how he develops. You'll know soon enough whether he shows girl or boy tendencies. As soon as he lets you know what sex he is, then you can have surgery performed to bring him in line with his true sex. Hope this helps. Good luck.

MaryEllen

[Guest CharliTo]

You're not alone as far as being a parent of an intersexed child. Still yet, I'm sure the child will greatly appreciate it if you can give him a part in deciding. Take your time, and hope you learn a lot in the forums

Charlene.

[Guest Just_Call_Me_Nick]

Hi Mrs. T,

Welcome to Laura's Playground. Thank you for sharing with us about little Joseph. You have legitamate concerns but I wouldn't rush to any quick judgment. If you were to have him surgically altered at this tender age, it could very well be a tragic mistake. I would wait a few years and see how he develops. You'll know soon enough whether he shows girl or boy tendencies. As soon as he lets you know what sex he is, then you can have surgery performed to bring him in line with his true sex. Hope this helps. Good luck.

MaryEllen

Yes I agree to this greatly....it would not take long to figure it all out....

Amazing looking baby.....adorable!!!!

Nick~

[Guest Drew]

Hi Mrs. T,

Welcome to Laura's Playground. Thank you for sharing with us about little Joseph. You have legitamate concerns but I wouldn't rush to any quick judgment. If you were to have him surgically altered at this tender age, it could very well be a tragic mistake. I would wait a few years and see how he develops. You'll know soon enough whether he shows girl or boy tendencies. As soon as he lets you know what sex he is, then you can have surgery performed to bring him in line with his true sex. Hope this helps. Good luck.

MaryEllen

agreed 100%

also, he is an adorable baby

[Guest raydub]

Wow.

...im kinda.. shocked.. amazed.. astounded. I think you are definitely doing the right thing, trying to find all the information you can. And its just...GREAT that there are supportive parents in the world. As you may find here.. we have the full gammit of experiences with parents.

Mrs T. You have a BEAUTIFUL baby!

Congratulations and welcome! I hope you find all the information you seek.

im such a sappy dude.. you almost made me cry.

Ray

[Guest Jack Solomon]

Hello, you sound like a great mom. You do have some legimate concerns and it's great that you're taking such time to understand your son. It's very possible he may be very happy as a little boy, and it's also possible he may be more androgynous in how he see himself but happy with a boy body, or he may be a little girl in a boy body. At this time, it's hard to tell what the future holds, but like MaryEllen mentioned, whether your child has a boy or girl gender and tendencies should become apparent with a little time. Your son should instinctually know (and therefore demonstrate that he knows on some level if in any way he's unhappy with his physical sex) one way or another in a few years.

Your baby is very cute. I think he has very intelligent eyes.

Solomon

[Guest Keiichi-kun]

Welcome to the forums Mrs. T and I must say your baby is so cute. Although I am no expert when it comes to this I believe you should not do anything surgically to him until you are certain of your son's gender. It's great to meet a wonderful mother like you:)