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I'm happy to have found this site with like-minded people. I've been repressing my mtf transgendered feelings for quite a while until I couldn't ignore it any longer. The defining event was when I cross-dressed for my gay ex-lover for fun but it stirred very deep, lasting feelings in me that went beyond just clothes and kinky play. I'm now certain I was meant to be a woman because it feels so right and natural for me. But there are so many perils and difficulties to overcome in transitioning that it stops one from going ahead with it and yet people seem to do it all the time.

The biggest stumbling block of course is to be passable, but the more I've looked into it, the more amazed and encouraged I've been by the results of others who took the brave steps to transition. Many mtf transexuals turn out to not only be passable but beautiful. I'm lucky enough to have some feminine features/qualities and I think I might be a good candidate-but it'd turn my world upside down. I'd have to cut off my friends/family and probably go into stealth to really pull it off. I made the mistake of weight-training when I was younger so I built up a masculine physique but I think I can diet/exercise my way into a lean feminine build.

Just wanted to add as I was checking out this site I happened to see the pictures of some of the mtf members here and I have to say you gals look gawgeous! Its very reassuring for a hopeful like me to see others transition themselves convincingly. It seems like a very high price to pay to just become the woman you know you are on the inside. Not just the major effort/cost to transition, but the social upheaval/complications and the risk that in your own case that the transition turns out to be a failure (ie not being passable). Hence my struggle and I'm sure I'm not alone in grappling with these same questions. Sorry for the lengthy introduction but at least you now know my story. :)

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Just wanted to add as I was checking out this site I happened to see the pictures of some of the mtf members here and I have to say you gals look gawgeous! Its very reassuring for a hopeful like me to see others transition themselves convincingly. It seems like a very high price to pay to just become the woman you know you are on the inside. Not just the major effort/cost to transition, but the social upheaval/complications and the risk that in your own case that the transition turns out to be a failure (ie not being passable). Hence my struggle and I'm sure I'm not alone in grappling with these same questions. Sorry for the lengthy introduction but at least you now know my story. :)

Awwwwww...... you sure know how to make the gals happy upon entrance huh. :D

It depends if you want to go stealth since even that has its ups and downs... I made the decision to not go stealth due to the nature off what I am going for. So far, it's doing good though :). (which I definitely understand that I'm very lucky for doing okay right now)

It's good that you're assessing the risks and it'll help you in the long run :) We're here for ya. ;) Welcome to the forums!

Charlene

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hi Sandra :) welcome to the forums. you're definetly not alone.

Thanks Drew, that's great to know. <3

1. Awwwwww...... you sure know how to make the gals happy upon entrance huh. :D

2. It depends if you want to go stealth since even that has its ups and downs... I made the decision to not go stealth due to the nature off what I am going for. So far, it's doing good though :). (which I definitely understand that I'm very lucky for doing okay right now)

3. It's good that you're assessing the risks and it'll help you in the long run :) We're here for ya. ;) Welcome to the forums!

Charlene

1. My pleasure-I tell it like it is. ;)

2. You're right-I've been doing a lot of reading on transsexualism and the more I learn the more difficult it seems. While I'd love to keep my life as is and have my family/friends be completely accepting of becoming transsexual that is only a fantasy, since they're fairly conservative. Going stealth would be good because I'd get a clean break, no one would know me but I'd probably be lonely in the beginning. Women are lucky in this regard since society is very cruel on men wishing to change their gender. I'm glad to hear things are going well for you-I'm assuming you're transitioning also.

3. Thanks so much and I'm glad to join-it seems there's a lot of wonderful supportive people here. :)

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Hi Sandra,

Welcome to Laura's Playground. Thanks for sharing with us. Don't be afraid to ask questions. Our purpose here is to give help and support to any one who asks.

MaryEllen :)

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Hi Sandra,

Welcome to Laura's Playground. Thanks for sharing with us. Don't be afraid to ask questions. Our purpose here is to give help and support to any one who asks.

MaryEllen :)

Thanks MaryEllen, nice to meet you and everyone else. :)

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hi sandra,

i'm ready to take my first steps. i don't have many feminine qualities but will give it my all to fullfill my dreams, regardless of the end results. i wish you the best of luck in your quest.

sheila

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While I'd love to keep my life as is and have my family/friends be completely accepting of becoming transsexual that is only a fantasy, since they're fairly conservative. Going stealth would be good because I'd get a clean break,

Hi Sandra,

I always try to count the cost. Your family may miss you very much. I wish you good luck on your decision.

Eveanna :)

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hi sandra,

i'm ready to take my first steps. i don't have many feminine qualities but will give it my all to fullfill my dreams, regardless of the end results. i wish you the best of luck in your quest.

sheila

Thanks Sheila and likewise I wish you all the best in your transition also. :)

Hi Sandra,

I always try to count the cost. Your family may miss you very much. I wish you good luck on your decision.

Eveanna :)

That's a good point but I've been living so long (I'm 35) as a man that I think it'd be very shocking to come out to them as a woman. They might think I have some mental problems, which is why its just easier to leave them. There's just so many complications. I've kept my gay lifestyle (which made me realize I really am a woman) secret from them and it worked out fine. Thanks for your well-wishing nonetheless. <3

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