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A Present From My Gt


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Guest NatashaJade

So I had a nice visit with my GT yesterday where we dealt with a lot of my recent breakthroughs. I haven't said it here yet, but my wife told me two nights ago that she finally feels like she did about us as she did before I came out to her. I really didn't stop crying for a long time (happy cry!). She's actually going to come in to see my GT with me in January, which I am pretty cool with. We could use the time there together and she has some questions as well.

But as I was leaving, I asked my GT for a carry letter, given that I am spending more and more time en femme. It is actually my goal at this point to only play the guy when necessity requires it and, otherwise, I'll be Natasha. This isn't quite full time, but it is as close as I can get right now. My GT and I finally feel I am ready for this step and after a very positive Thanksgiving weekend in L.A. (thanks again, Carolyn!!! I really owe you such a debt of gratitude for giving me an opportunity to be out in the world.). So I got this wonderful letter which I have scanned and will keep in a number of places that tells anyone who might have reason to care that I am being treated for GID and have every right and reason to be out. Plus she thinks I'm passing well enough that I would never really need it. But she had written one just like it for another client that morning who was going out of the country on a cruise and wanted to make sure she was not going to face any harassment at the pat down.

So now I am armed with a letter and a seal of approval and a new set of mineral eye make-up from Costco (I do need some new foundation...my wife has been stealing mine..grrr). I'm ready to take on the world. I've actually found a shelter for homeless transwomen here in Phoenix that I am going to volunteer at. As I am a teacher, I can help some of the girls work on their GEDs and my wife and I plan on making some meals for them as well. I see it as a good opportunity for me to give back a little to our community and help out some truly needy folks. It's a great shelter and the only one of its kind that only serves transwomen who are full time. I'm very excited about the opportunity.

I did have a question about weaves...my GT mentioned that she knew a friendly hairdresser who could fill in my hairline with a weave. Has anyone done anything like this or seen any results from this? If so, please let me know.

love to you all!!!

Natasha

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Guest sarah f

Congrats on your carry letter. I can't believe you didn't already have it because you already was passing.

Think your wife stealing your make-up is too funny. I think that just shows the relationship you two have and that is wonderful.

I don't know anything about a weave so can't help much with that.

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Guest NatashaJade

Congrats on your carry letter. I can't believe you didn't already have it because you already was passing.

You know, it's weird, but I haven't felt like I needed it because I wasn't going out anywhere beyond appointments because my wife hadn't really come around enough to be out with me. But now it is a necessity, so I asked for it. Although I may have passed before, now I am more confident and it does make a difference.

Oh, and my wife is a little thief. She is always "borrowing" my stuff or outright claiming it as her own. I only borrow her earrings from time to time because I do not yet have enough of my own to match every outfit and some of hers are really cute. But she's far worse than I am. She'll buy me stuff that she wants for herself...sneaky sneaky...

xoxo

Natasha

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Oh, and my wife is a little thief. She is always "borrowing" my stuff or outright claiming it as her own. I only borrow her earrings from time to time because I do not yet have enough of my own to match every outfit and some of hers are really cute. But she's far worse than I am. She'll buy me stuff that she wants for herself...sneaky sneaky...

xoxo

Natasha

ROFLMAO :lol: I love it that is so funny.

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Congrats, Natasha! That really is a big step forward, and it does give one a measure of self confidence,

especially in places like the mall or the theater. I worried about being in large multi-stall and

multi-wash basin restrooms, where you might encounter other women. But I've never had a problemm, and

neither will you.

That's wondeful about your wife, hon. Me and my wife share jewelry and lipstick all the time, and

it's a huge thing, really huge. The next time we meet, we have to include our wives, too, don't you

think? :D

I don't deserve any credit for your progress, hon, but thanks anyway. You're the one who took the big

step. I just provided the excuse. :P

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest NatashaJade

That's wondeful about your wife, hon. Me and my wife share jewelry and lipstick all the time, and

it's a huge thing, really huge. The next time we meet, we have to include our wives, too, don't you

think? :D

Oh, absolutely! My wife would enjoy that as would I.

I don't deserve any credit for your progress, hon, but thanks anyway. You're the one who took the big

step. I just provided the excuse. :P

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

But I needed a helping hand to take that step, so I will give credit where credit is due! :P

love

Natasha

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Natasha your posts are always so good for those who read them. They just make me feel good. The fact that you have worked out your relationship with your wife is just so awesome.

And now you need and have your carry letter too.

Congratulations on all of it!

Funny little story about borrowing-I was admiring the red fleece shirt my future son-in-law was wearing and jokingly asked if I could wear it if I lost weight. He laughed and said it was my daughter's and he had borrowed it. When I looked closely and thought a minute I realized it was one of mine my daughter had borrowed before I gained weight.

Hugs

John

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Guest TracieV3

So I had a nice visit with my GT yesterday ...

I did have a question about weaves...my GT mentioned that she knew a friendly hairdresser who could fill in my hairline with a weave. Has anyone done anything like this or seen any results from this? If so, please let me know.

love to you all!!!

Natasha

Natasha, I am glad to hear that your girlfriend is so accepting.

When you plan to help homeless transwomen with getting their GED, which direction in jobs do you suggest when talking to them?

I don't know about hair weaves, but I have found that Kirkland's minoxidil skin topical treatment has in the last six months given me back most of the hair I lost, about a centimeter and a half. Including a small bald spot I had. And it is cheap as well.

Tracie

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Natasha, I am glad to hear that your girlfriend is so accepting.

When you plan to help homeless transwomen with getting their GED, which direction in jobs do you suggest when talking to them?

I don't know about hair weaves, but I have found that Kirkland's minoxidil skin topical treatment has in the last six months given me back most of the hair I lost, about a centimeter and a half. Including a small bald spot I had. And it is cheap as well.

Tracie

My wife is a wonderful person, my true soulmate. I always knew that given time, she would come around.

As far as jobs go, I can't say. I think we all need to follow our own path, but these are folks that need to get on their feet, so it's important for them to think jobs first and careers second.

I've tried minoxidil, but I had a bad reaction to it. But thanks for the recommendation!

xoxo

Natasha.

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Guest Emily Ray

Natasha,

I loved reading about you and your wife so much I'm smiling ear to ear. It is funny how your wife will buy you stuff that she wants to wear because for so many years I would buy my girlfriends clothes that I wanted to wear. I see it can work both ways and that is so cute.

Huggs,

Emily

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1. My wife is a wonderful person, my true soulmate. I always knew that given time, she would come around.

2. As far as jobs go, I can't say. I think we all need to follow our own path, but these are folks that need to get on their feet, so it's important for them to think jobs first and careers second.

3. I've tried minoxidil, but I had a bad reaction to it. But thanks for the recommendation!

xoxo

Natasha.

1. That is really nice to hear. I wish you and her all the best.

2. I meant jobs. And I have health problems that I am trying to sort out, and I thought I could ask for some suggestions myself. It is hard enough in good times for a transsexual to get a job. In this depression it is even worse.

I have a few options, but it is always a good idea to get another suggestions.

3. What was the reaction? The only side effect listed from that stuff is dry skin if applied topically. As such, I thought it was a safe bet to suggest.

Tracie

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1. That is really nice to hear. I wish you and her all the best.

2. I meant jobs. And I have health problems that I am trying to sort out, and I thought I could ask for some suggestions myself. It is hard enough in good times for a transsexual to get a job. In this depression it is even worse.

I have a few options, but it is always a good idea to get another suggestions.

3. What was the reaction? The only side effect listed from that stuff is dry skin if applied topically. As such, I thought it was a safe bet to suggest.

Tracie

As far as jobs go, Tracie, I would look for companies that are progressive and have liberal hiring policies when it comes to gender. I cannot recommend anything specifically because it's a matter of skill set and what is available locally.

The minoxidil just made my scalp feel...uncomfortable. It was unpleasant.

xoxo

Natasha

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