Wife Accepts Me- Kind Of

[Guest Lanah]

I have been married to a lovely Japanese woman for almost 6 years now. We have 2 beautiful children and since I came out to her it has been kind of hell. I started here a few days ago and I was using my android to hide it from her. I really did not want to hurt her. However she took the phone away from me and went through a few post. She said "That's good at least you are finding happiness." I was kind of scared because I did not want it to come to this. You see Japanese are open about the transgender condition. The main difference is society. Japanese will mainly stay away from things like marriage, or "it will make a man out of me," if it will hurt other people. It is ingrained in the thought patterns from a young age. She could not understand why I would marry and have children if I knew I was trans from a child. In Japan most people just transition. I explained her the differences in society. Japan has a transgendered women that is the equivalent of a senator in the USA. And Haruna AI is a TV personality that is very open about her journey. It was as if she thought this was a phase.

Well now on to the rest of the story. I told her how I felt. How emotions are so distance that I feel emotionally dead. I opened up to her and dins out that she really does care about me. We agreed that I could let the girl in me out to play from time to time and she would teach me the things that girls learn from moms. She said my thinking is a lot like a teenage girl and we giggled about it. However she says she does not want me to become a complete woman and hinted that you know people do change. I told her that when she sees how I light up when I am free to be me she might understand a bit more. So as the conversation went on, we decided that we would stay best friends if the situation goes to a point (i.e hormones, GRS) that she can not handle. But WE WILL TRY!!

This is what broke me out of my shell and I cried, giggled, and felt like a huge boulder has been lifted off my heart. Just wanted to share this.

ありがとうございます

arigatou gozaimasu

Thank you, I really appreciate everyone who reads this. It means a lot to me.

Lanah

[Sally]

Actually she has given you the best gift possible short of a vow to never leave - she has let you know at the start of your journey just how far she can go with you, so many are not sure about any of this and send a lot of mixed signals - she has let you know that she understands the condition better than most and wants to remain your friend - both huge pluses in my book.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Elizabeth K]

This is some very good news. Your explaination was long and very complete, thank you! It seems you have a very good chance to stay together.

GRAND

Lizzy

[Carolyn Marie]

Lanah, you have a very understanding wife, and I'm happy for you.

It's important to keep those lines of communication open, share what you both are feeling, and be willing to compromise where you can.

I think you have the will and the temperament to do it, and succeed.

Carolyn Marie