Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Therapist


Guest Kaytlyn

Recommended Posts

Guest Kaytlyn

I am back after a while, Hi to all!

So I have been to four sessions with my therapist since the day before Thanksgiving. I really have had some up and down days, my wife was accepting but I am learning how much she really is not totally in board. She comes with me to my appointments and listens and sometimes says a few things. Last Wednesday my therapist and I were talking about hormones my wife was silent until after we left. She really was shaken by the talk of hormones, she probably needs to have her own therapist to work out her fears and anxiety. I guess I can't blame her for being scared by the talk of hormones. I told her it is not like I take them and walla I am a woman. She doesn't understand how they will work for me. I want to start them so badly but now I am worried about how she will react. I need to do what is right for myself but I also don't want ot cause her anymore pain. She doesn't think we should tell anybody, she thinks I should just dress at home when the kids are not there, I am trying to explain to her that this is so much deeper than just mearly dressing, I said it is like putting a bandaid on an gaping wound. Just dressing when no one else is home is not what is going to satisfy my soul. I still have internal battles if this is really right or am I making a big mistake by wanting to feel comfortable in my own skin. My therapist is great her experience in this field is awesome and she totally understands what it means to me and others. She has stated to me but I think for my wifes sake that if I just dress and not move meaningfully forward I will probably never be truly happy. On my wifes side she says she is not sure that she wants to be with a woman, but she loves me for more than my body parts. I am still so torn on what to do and how far, I really need a hug and encouragement to keep on track.

Love to all,

Kaytlyn

Link to comment
Guest Emily Ray

Kaytlyn,

I have plenty of huggs in my hug box and if I'm not mistaken a fresh shipment with you name on them just arrived. Big huggs dear. You are doing what you need to do and are being responsible in the way you are going about it. Nothing more can be expected. Your wife will or will not be comfortable with this and there is little you can do to change it one way or another.

I will pray for your family and ask for blessings to you both.

Huggs

Emily

Link to comment
Guest Kaytlyn

Kaytlyn,

I have plenty of huggs in my hug box and if I'm not mistaken a fresh shipment with you name on them just arrived. Big huggs dear. You are doing what you need to do and are being responsible in the way you are going about it. Nothing more can be expected. Your wife will or will not be comfortable with this and there is little you can do to change it one way or another.

I will pray for your family and ask for blessings to you both.

Huggs

Emily

Thanks so much Emily, I need huggs really bad thanks for the encouraging words. I know I have to do what is right for me but sometimes it becomes really hard to be assured that I am doing the right thing. I really appreciate the support here and the comfort of others. It makes me be confident that I have to do this for me.

Huggs back,

Kaytlyn

Link to comment
  • Admin

Kaytlyn, believe me, you've done everything you can to include your wife in your plans, and help her to understand what you're going through.

Some spouses never understand, or never want to. You have to decide if transitioning is what you must do. If it is, then your options

are limited. You likely won't be happy just trying to be a cross dresser. But neither I nor anyone else here knows how you feel, only

you do.

I wish you luck, and hope you and your wife can find a way to make it.

(((HUGGSS)))

Carolyn Marie

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   7 Members, 0 Anonymous, 128 Guests (See full list)

    • Maddee
    • April Marie
    • SamC
    • Betty K
    • LaurenA
    • MaryEllen
    • Abigail Genevieve
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.7k
    • Total Posts
      769.3k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,058
    • Most Online
      8,356

    Aleksandria
    Newest Member
    Aleksandria
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Conner_Sent_By_Cyberlife
      Conner_Sent_By_Cyberlife
      (22 years old)
    2. CtN1p
      CtN1p
    3. heyim_finn
      heyim_finn
      (21 years old)
    4. Jayn
      Jayn
    5. joni_girl_1988
      joni_girl_1988
      (51 years old)
  • Posts

    • Jani
      I used to but now its just lip gloss every now and then, in a subdued tone.
    • Ivy
      Yeah, a lot of times I don't really have anything to add to the conversation. There are some threads I seldom post on.
    • Ivy
      I have seen some things about this.  As I remember it was not very trans-friendly. The people doing these things seem to minimize the positive aspects of transition, and maximize the potential problems. Basically, make it as difficult as possible (without outright banning it) to discourage anyone from doing it.
    • Willow
      Good morning    woke up to some light rain this morning.  Maybe I should run out with a giant umbrella to cover the car.   Ha ha ha.     I’ve had really nice cars before but never something like this.     @KymmieL I hope you got to go on your ride. Back when I had my Harley we went out for a ride almost every weekend. We would head either SW down the Shenandoah Valley or Skyline Drive which danced along the tops of the Mountains or we would head west into West Virginia and just travel along until it was time to find our way home.   occasionally I wish I still had a bike but I usually quickly for get that. The only thing I ever wanted as a young person that I never had was a late 50s vette.      
    • April Marie
      I admit to wearing make-up. Actually, I'll admit to enjoying wearing make-up. For me, it's been part of learning about myself as a woman and finding a style and look that reflects my personality.    Sometimes, it will just be a bit of mascara and a touch of lipstick. But, most often I wear foundation with setting powder, gel eyeliner, mascara, a little blush on my cheek line and lipstick. I also use an eyebrow pencil to darken my brows a bit.  Infrequently, I will add some eye shadow.   Most of my make-up is from Mary Kay although my lipsticks or from various manufacturers and eyeliners are mostly Maybelline. My wife purchases most of her make-up from Mary Kay and so we order together from our local representative. Of course, I don't have much brand experience but I'm happy with the Mary Kay products and find myself transitioning almost entirely to their line of make-up.
    • KathyLauren
      I did early on, out of necessity.  Regardless of how close you shave, beard shadow shows through.  I just used a bit of foundation, setting powder and blush.    I didn't use much eye makeup.  I started out with a bit of eye liner, but I thought it gave me a "trying too hard" look.  So I mostly didn't use any.   With covid and masking, I stopped using makeup altogether.  Why bother when no one can see your face and the mask smears the makeup anyway?   When restrictions were lifted, I didn't go back to wearing makeup.  My face feminized quite nicely over the first few years of HRT.  I'll never be pretty, but I look more female than male.  (Or I like to tell myself that anyway.)  With several years of electrolysis, and with what facial hair remains turning white, I don't have much beard shadow, so there is nothing to cover up.
    • Heather Shay
    • Heather Shay
      Do you use make-up? If so, why and what  types?
    • Heather Shay
      Pride is primarily about yourself, even when it is not you who did something that you are proud about. You can also be proud of something someone else did, who you associate with, such as your children or your favorite football team. People can feel proud of their culture, their family name, or their appearance, none of which require them to actively contribute to the praiseworthy thing1. However, the opinions of others are of crucial importance, as best demonstrated when you purposefully do something that other people praise. Pride is a social emotion, and to feel proud, you need other people’s (real or imagined) confirmation that you have a reason to feel that way. Because of this, other people can also ‘be in your head’ and prevent you from feeling pride. Namely, what is praiseworthy is subjective. Things that may be considered good in a certain (cultural) group may not be praiseworthy in another (e.g., if you grew up in a family that greatly values academics, your athletic abilities may not evoke much praise). Moreover, what is praiseworthy is relative (e.g., if you are a good runner in an athletically average school, you may regularly feel proud about your times; but if you move to a school with highly competent athletes, these same times may seem unremarkable to you). Thus, the more exclusive your quality is in your surroundings, the prouder you feel. Pride has recognizable features. Although its static facial expression (typically a smile or laugh) does not clearly distinguish it from other positive emotions, it typically results in a bodily posture, gestures, and behavior that are clearly recognizable: lifting your chin, looking people in the eye, walking confidently, or in extreme cases, raising arms above your head. In a way, you try to make yourself larger and more noticeable, as if to say: ‘look at me!’ You may also exhibit more perseverance in your activities2. People generally find it very pleasant to experience pride, as it elevates our feeling of social self-worth and status3. At the same time, many social groups, religions, and cultures (especially those that are highly collectivistic, such as the East Asian or African culture) believe that pride needs to be checked. Unchecked pride leads to arrogance and misplaced feelings of superiority (‘letting something get to your head’, ‘hubris comes before the fall’), and social groups typically do not tolerate members feeling like they are superior or deserve special treatment.  
    • Heather Shay
    • Heather Shay
    • Heather Shay
    • April Marie
      Thank you @missyjo! You do wonders for my ego.   It turns out that pastel colors were the "thing" at Kentucky Derby Day so my dress was perfect. I went with white 5" heeled sandals and a wide-brimmed fuscia hat. Dinner and Mint Juleps added to the fun of watching the (recorded) festivities and races.   Perhaps, we'll repeat it for the Preakness in 2 weeks.   Right now it's just blue striped sleep shorts with pink flowers, a pink t-shirt and flip flops. I can't tell you how much wearing  sleep-rated breast forms at night has done to quell my dysphoria. 
    • April Marie
      I can still rock 5" heels.
    • April Marie
      Good morning, everyone!!   My wife and I had our yearly Kentucky Derby Day evening. Dresses, heels, hats, Mint Juleps and a light dinner while watching the festivities and races. Relaxing and fun. I think we'll do the same for the Preakness in two weeks.   It's rainy and cool here today so it's pretty much going to keep me indoors. Ahh, well. A day of rest.   Enjoy and be safe!!
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...