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Told My Mum


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So I finally got around to coming out to my mum. I wasn't planning it or anything either. I just got home from work yesterday and thought, 'Screw this, I'm calling my mum.' So I did. It was awkward as all get out for me, which meant that I wasn't making any sense and kept confusing her. :blink:

But eventually I got it out and she seemed pretty okay with it. We still have a lot to talk about, but that can wait till the next time I head out to visit. Personally, I think I was freaking out about the whole thing more than she was.

But I did it! It only took me five months to work up to it, but I finally did it. :D

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Good for you, i think that this should take a huge weight off of you.

Love the Tom Baker avatar!

Love ya,

Sally

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Thanks guys. :blush:

I visited my mum over the weekend and we talked about things for a bit, along with my two sisters who were also over. Things were surprisingly not as awkward as I'd thought they be, it was all pretty casual actually. They asked about names, my plans, etc. My mum told me about how my step-dad had been a totally annoying distraction with his questions while she was on the phone with me.

My sister had the same story with her husband (she had called my mum after reading my 'I come out to my mum' status update on facebook). She told me he said, 'I'm not surprised. She's more masculine than most of the guys at the prison,' (where he's a guard)

All in all, they were pretty cool about it. Heck, my mum joked that I should have gone ahead those egg donor things when I'd had the chance. Which prompted my sister to add that I should ask if I can donate the whole ovary. :rolleyes:

And then the conversation went off on some other weird tangent, which tends to happen when you get the four of us together. All in all, I'm pretty happy how things went down. I know that there are some people in my family who might take issue with it or take a lot longer to warm up to the idea. But that thought doesn't seem so bad now. As one of my friends put it, I'm not really close to that many of my family members and don't care what most of them think. So why should coming out change that?

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Congratulations on coming out to the family. Altogether it sounds like it went very well.

That has to be a real relief.

I like the avatar too.

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