Terminology

[Remus]

What's your favourite terminology? By which I mean, if you were to be called, or call yourself, any of the following~

- boy

- man

- guy

- dude

- mate

- gentleman

- sir

- Mister

- bro

- fellow

- cowboy

- "illegitimate child" (the 'B' word, when used as a term of endearment)

- muchacho

- chico

- homme

- hombre

- garçon

- herr

- caballero

- monsieur

- señor

- [any other nationalities]

- transguy

- transman

- FtM

~ what are your favs? For instance, I don't necessarily feel like "man" fits me, but "boy", "guy", "chico" and "monsieur" give me happies.

So yes, what are your favourites? Any you just don't "feel", or love to bits?

[Guest Timothy]

My favorite is "gentleman" because it implies chivalry, but there's others I like too. "Man," "bro," or "dude" used casually in a conversation makes me feel great, because it's friendly and shows that whoever I'm talking with knows me for who I really am. I also like "fellow," "sir" and "mister." And "garçon" because I speak French at home so that'd be really great to hear. But the only ones I actually hear are man, bro and dude.

Slightly off topic: one of my friends who I haven't come out to said the word "girl" didn't suit me. That was awesome.

[Guest Liam]

I would call myself a guy, a man, or a trans man (the space is intentional). If I was feeling playful, I might call myself a boy, too. In terms of what I like when other people refer to me, any of the aforementioned is fine, as well as "dude." "Bro" is sometimes okay, depending on who's saying it, but sometimes it just sounds awkward. And I don't really like "sir" because of the status implications that it carries.

Honestly, though, I'm past the point where any of these terms makes me feel *good* - at this point in my life I pretty much expect that people will use masculine terms to refer to me, and I get upset when they don't. However, there was definitely a point in time when pretty much any word on that list would have made me ecstatic, just because it meant that someone was gendering me correctly.

[Guest HoWeVeRmine]

Guy... dude... and bro haha like the person before me.

I also like "gentleman" because it makes me feel all fancy and strong and that I can be with my perfect lady or fellow gentleman one day =D

Also, one that isn't on the list that I'd like to be called is "mijo" because I swear I'm going to stab my dad with the nearest sharp object if he walks away clean calling me "mija" >__>

Not boy, that makes me sound too little... But I like "young man." And "sir" and "son" when used with strangers, etc. Eh.. I'm just rambling now lol.

Also, transman I don't really like because like I said I'm not very old but transguy works and so does FtM. These one are a little more awkward sounding though, regardless if I wish they didn't have to be.

[Guest ShortyT]

I'll take a "dude" please, here's a dollar, keep the change.

[Guest seanjamie]

I like the mate, man and bro when used in relation to other young guys on the street/out in public. (these ones definitely make me smile )

However to call myself a man just sounds odd, too old maybe.

Guy is good .

I also don't mind transguy,ftm or transman.

[Guest harvester52]

I would have to say... I like "bro", "sir", "mister"... quite a few actually. I don't mind transguy/transman if I'm in good company, i.e. my LGBT support group.

[Guest Avery F]

I'd go with 'gentleman', 'man', 'mate', 'sir', or 'mister'. My favorite wasn't on your list, though - it's 'chap'

[Guest Exeter]

I have to say, I like 'boy', 'mate', 'gentleman', 'sir', and things like 'lad' or 'chap' 'dude' is okay too, I suppose, and 'young man' is all right.

I guess I like younger terms best, as I feel very much like a 'boy' still, rather than a 'man' yet. I like formal terms of address as well, as they convey refinement.

[Guest mary/jason]

bro, dude, transguy (when referring to myself), sir and just guy. when i pass as a man, right now im a boy, ill be called a man. eventually lol.

[Guest Benethlib]

I know that it's used for mixed groups, too, but I still like hearing 'lads' when out with a group of guys. 'Mate,' 'pal,' 'buddy.' And even though I wouldn't refer to myself as a man, I often like hearing that one from other people.

Basically, anything other than 'miss' or 'ma'am.'

[Guest Cowboy]

Well obviously I like to be called Cowboy

But I like "man" (some say it makes them feel old, but it's actually used as a slang term for "dude" around here too) "dude" "bro" "mate" is fine, considering it's a bro-like term used in a lot of other countries, "guy" "gentleman" getting "sir'd" is always nice. "Mister" makes me feel too old lol.

and of course "transman, transguy, and FTM" as long as they're not used as insults.

[Guest BrandonIThink]

I like man, dude, bro, guy, and sir, depending on the situation. Also, since I started passing more often I look and definately sound like I'm about 12, so I get 'hey buddy' a lot, in that slightly condecending way people talk to children, and I honestly don't mind that either - if it suggests that you think I'm a guy, cool, but the previously mentioned are my favourites.

Mate would be pretty awesome, but people around here never use that for anyone unfortunately!

[Flint]

Gentleman, sir, Mister or man.

I don't like boy, it makes me feel like I'm taken less seriously. I only don't mind boy if it's in a jokey way amongst friends. However due to my current problem with looking young I often get referred to as boy. Although sometimes people refer to me as "Young man" which is much better. In fact the other weekend a woman said "Let this young man past" referring to me. I smiled inside. (didn't wanna walk past with a huge freaky smile on my face!)

I'm not one for 'transman' or transguy. I refer to myself that way sometimes on this forum, merely because this is a trans support forum. But generally I much prefer to not be referenced as a 'trans' guy. It feels to me like while they're saying I'm a guy or man at the end that the trans thing is like saying...not totally a man. Maybe I over analyse. But that is how i feel about it. I only use it to referring to myself when I'm describing something to do with being trans and i might say "being a trans guy myself" and all that. But generally I hate the term.

[Guest Gauvain]

I rather guy, dude or bro for some reason... xD

[Guest joey]

I would have to say...

Guy, dude, sir, or awesome.

[Guest N.Chaos]

I love being 'sir'd. It makes me practically giddy, to be honest. I love broseph/broheim/all those browords, because I think they're funny. My absolute favorite is my best friend calling me his brother, though. Makes me so, so happy.

[Remus]

...OK, I really forgot some good ones, sorry! *facepalm*

Have to agree with 'young man' and 'lad', love them! 'Chap' you don't get much around here, but it's one I could definitely get used to.

How did I forget 'young man', honestly...

[Guest Twist]

I call myself a guy, cause boy doesn't fit and man has always seemed like an awkward proclamation, but I may be basing that on scrubs (I'm a man! And a man does not wear a purse!)

I've always found the whole "bro" "man" "dude" thing kind of awkward, a way to put distance into the things you're saying (like, people don't actually say that to people they're really close with, right?) because it makes you seem manlier and less involved and whatnot, but I have some friends who are like that and aside from the intrinsic awkwardness (admittedly, there are situations in which it isn't) it's cool. In a way it's like "you're uncomfortable being open around me? You must think of me as a guy!"

And not especially anything I like, but pre-t (and even sometimes now) I got called "buddy" quite a lot by strangers

[Guest BrandonIThink]

(didn't wanna walk past with a huge freaky smile on my face!)

LOL isn't that just the worst situation? When someone sirs you, and then all of a sudden you can't stop looking like you just won the lottery, and they're looking at you like ....? XD

Also, to add to my previous post - I also really enjoy 'young man.'

[Guest barton]

Guy, dude, or sir work for me. 'Illegitimate child' is also one that comes up sometimes, especially from my friends when I'm being a smart alec or just plain evil.

[Guest Carter L]

I dislike being called a boy, but boy works fine for me. Otherwise, I love any male terms. I'll never be a boy because I was a girl and I'm okay with that.

[Remus]

This was one I'd actually been really wondering about as well...then kinda completely forgot to include...

Bloke. Like it? Hate it? My parents say I'll "never be a bloke", which, while I know they mean it as "you'll never be a guy", never bothers me as much as it would if they used pretty much any of the other terms, because I just don't see myself as a bloke in the first place. A 'bloke' to me is your stereotypical big beefy man in a wife-beater with a pet crocodile called Bruce - which just ain't me (cool as a pet crocodile called Bruce would be ).

Anyone else happy as one of the lads, a young man, boy, dude or even gentleman, but just not a bloke?

[Guest Ezzy]

Sole, Uce (Cultural thing ) and bro i like.

My favrte one though would def. have to be 'Son'.

Cant help but smile whenever i hear that one. Even though im still pre t

its nice to know my parents are comin round an startin to use proper pronouns.

[Guest Doodlen]

My fav is just plain old "guy".

Also "man", but not like "you're a man" but "hey, man". I'm not old enough to be a man Although at work they always call me The Manly Man and say I'm the manliest guy there. Which I kinda like cuz I'm not out yet.