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Guest Selena Soh

Hi everyone,

I just thought I should write about myself...somewhere.

Where to start? Oh well...

I am mtf, I am a teenager, and I am new to posting on forums, and I'm also shy.

I live down in Australia, and I'm quite young, so I don't always get what Americans are talking about, like shops and that.

I came out to my parents late last year, and I'm not sure if they take this seriously, though they aren't un-supportive. I have had feelings and wishes of being a girl my whole life. I had a few chats about wanting to crossdress with them, and my mum says I should dress up in gender-neutral clothes, which I tried, but I still feel like I'm wearing boy's clothes, or I just can't find good clothes. I haven't spoken to them about it much recently, though, they seem a bit grumpy. Does anyone know how to speak to my parents about crossdressing? My mum says I'm rushing, and that I'm deciding too early, and she wants me to wait until I'm 18 or so.

I don't have a girlfriend, but I'm not attracted to boys.

I think I'll just talk about "normal" parts of me now.

I like playing music, and listening to it. I play guitar, keyboard, violin, and I want to learn singing to help with my voice. I do practice at night, I'm typing this in secret at quarter to midnight. I'll get some sleep after this. :)

I like computer games, and board games. I read alot, and I spend most school breaks in the library. I also write and draw.

I don't have many thoughts about suicide; death scares me. I do feel down alot, though, recently, and I can't work out why. I think I'm longing too much. Best to make the most of this body while I still have it (double meaning, accidentally).

Funny, a few years ago, (I almost wrote "last year"!), I was at primary school, and it was the first time I'd grown my hair longish, and as it turned out, lots of people thought I was a girl. My best friend did, my mum says all the other mums did as well! lol

I am actually more used to writing stories than I am to forums, so I'll try to work this out. I hope this intro was good. I should get some sleep.

And what will my name be? I'm going with Selena for now. I think it means "moon", but I just like it.

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Guest ChloëC

Hi Selena,

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Yeah, telling parents can be tough, I finally told my mother several months ago, and I'm in my 60's. I certainly don't recommend that anyone wait that long, but 50 years ago, nobody really knew what transgendered even was, much less how to deal with it.

We always recommend trying to see a gender therapist. No guarantees but sometimes if parents get confirmation from a specialist rather than somebody they see as a teen who is going through what they think as 'normal' confusion about identity, it might help.

Oh, and Selena was the name of a moon goddess of some place, probably ancient Greece.

Hugs

Chloë

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Hi Selena! Welcome to the playground! I am new here myself... but still welcome! Good to meet you!

I don't play any musical instruments but over the past few months I have been trying to recover my singing voice and I have had much success! So if you need any help with this I would be glad to help in any way possible. Just keep practicing and I am sure you will achieve your goals! Don't get discouraged no matter what :)

I am sure you will find many inspiring and helpful people here, so come on in, welcome to the playground and greetings from the #1 Harisu Fan :D

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Guest Donna Jean

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Hello, Selena

Welcome to the Playground

I'm Donna Jean

Have a seat and I'll serve you some cookies and hot coco...

Now, I'd like to ask you to be sure to have a look at the forum rules...there's a link at the top of most pages...It says “Terms & Conditions..

And, we moderate this site to keep it safe for everyone..

It's really nice to have you here!

ENJOY!

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest miss kindheart

Hi Selena,

<<< hug >>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules. :)

We have Cross Dressers meetings -Tues 8pm est, and you are welcome to attend.

We all look forward to seeing you.

:wub: vanna

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Guest Selena Soh

Thanks for saying hi everyone, it's makes me feel better that there are people to talk to.

Also, if I make my first name Selena and middle name Raphael (I don't want to give it up) I become Selena Raphael Soh. I point that out because I realized it becomes SRS.

And again, thanks for replying, I look at forums when I have a private moment. :)

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Guest Elizabeth K

Selena - lot of Aussies here, by the way.

Write - and post it as a blog here. Let us know when you do so we can read it and comment.

Cross dressing is a thing people do, guys and gals. Guys doing it are just not as well accepted as the girls who do. But it is usually a refusal to be stereotyped into just one side of a 'binary' gender world. We all sometimes wish to be fluid, and seen as what we really are, neither 100% male nor 100% female.

To not be seen as a male at all, and being in a male body (opposite also occurs) is gender dysphoria. That takes a bit of self discovery to see if that applies. Gender Dysphoria is okay, people are born that way, it's just more complicated. I think your mom is trying to help you in your self identity and that is good. She will, of course hope you don't identify too far off the male spectrum, because being transgender can be a difficult time, but it is what it is

BUT you must be happy in your own body, well as you feel you are, actually. You cannot live a life pleasing others only to sacrifice your own happiness.

It is a delicate time for you. If the need to cross-dress is very powerful, see if your mom will allow it only at home. Going public makes a statement, and if you do wish to go that way, work on getting support, and know 'understanding' is likely impossible. And this is a gender issue, not a sexual orientation. Make that clear to everyone.

So stay with us. We can help. We are a support group and we will keep the nastiness away. Here you can be yourself.

Lizzy

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