Curious Thing

[Guest Orva26]

As I'm beginning to realize, has anyone else realized that their taste in woman in terms of personality was/is kind of their taste in themselves? As in you are like the woman you've been with?

[Guest Donna Jean]

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I dunno......

For two people to be attracted to each other, there must be some common ground...So, I suppose that would be their "taste" in some respects....there is also that old adage that "opposites attract"....

I'm attracted to feminine, loving, artistic, liberal women, because those are my traits, too....

I've been attracted to women in the past that were polar opposites and those did not blossom....

Donna Jean

[Guest ChloëC]

Well, I'm a city born and bred, white collar type of person, I like to think with my head, and use my hands only if all else fails. Nailing boards together, bolting things, even hooking up intricate wiring like my computer system, I sort of wish someone else would do it. But, both marriages have been to daughters of blue collar, country enjoying, roll up the shirtsleeves, get out the rags for all the oil and grime to come, and dig in. And they both have (without really thinking it through) expected me to be a continuation of dear old dad. Mr. Understands Everything and can Fix It. My dad was in theater, and public relations, and amateur magic, maybe piano - household projects were an adventure for him, not a way of life. Yet, socially, politically, economically, athletic endeavors, and in other ways, my spouse and I connect.

But if this relationship should ever fail, and whichever way my future path leads, the next person I think about becoming in any way intimate with, the first question will be 'and what did your father do?' and if it's anything relating to blue collar, I'm outta there!

Hugs

Chloë

[Guest Polly]

I remember the confusion of -

Wanting her to like me .

Wanting to be like her ,

Wanting to be her .

Maybe this sums it up ?

Misty

[Guest Orva26]

Yup, that pretty much does sum it up Misty. Except I get the added confusion about being curious about guys at the same time!

[Guest RadioheadRachael]

I haven't wanted to be any of girls I've been in relationships with, although there are always moments of jealousy. The girls I've dated have all been different people and I like that. I've learned a lot from them. It's amazing how differently people think from yourself.

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Well - this is complicated. The women I married seemed to be something different from me, but they did have certain traits I now know were in common, all three were from a family of two girls and were the youngest. They all had fathers that were really prima donnas. They all were very very intelligent, and they all three said they would never leave me. Except for that last part (and my first wife who had no choice), it worked out fairly well. I did live much of my life through them, shopping for clothes, looking for antiques - having my children.

Now?

I'm attracted to feminine, loving, sensitive, artistic, intelligent, liberal women, because perhaps those are my traits, too....

Being a dog lover is also a plus! GRIN

Lizzy