Slumber Party!

[Guest Nostros]

Hi girls!

Few days ago I had the most awesome day. My classmate invited me over at her place for a slumber party! She lives alone in a flat, and it was just the two of us there. I had the best time, because she let me try out all her clothes!: D And she has A lot of clothes... She knows about me, so it was just fine with her and she treated me as her girl friend. Later that evening we watched American Idol and ate popcorn, and talked about guys and stuff, and all kinds of girly topics. and then she let me sleep together with her in her bed as girl friends! That meant a lot to me, and I was happy just being accepted for true Me :-)

Here are some photos from that day:

Tell me if you think I could pass dressed like this at any all. Personally, I think I wouldn't.

[JJ]

Seriously-you pass. Easily. You are a cute girl and the expression and smile just radiate it.

Glad you got to have such a wonderful time!

Hugs

John

[Guest JaniceW]

I have a huge smile across my face right now after reading about your slumber party. As for passing, well after you start T, opps sorry I thought you were an FtM sorry about the mistake. PS You do pass as a very pretty young lady.

[Guest 91curiouskitten]

I like the second pic ^^ really cute!

[Guest tiffany_marie]

How fun!

I had a couple female friends way back when I was in high school, who knew that I did things like dress on occasion and painted my nails (it wasn't a well known secret with parts with my inner circle at the time)

Anyway none of them knew I was transsexual at the time, heck I didn't even know myself until recently. They just thought that I had a fetish of some sort.

What I'm getting at is the following, in my yearbook one year, 9th grade I believe my friend Amanda wrote that I should spend the night with her so we could "paint our nails, play makeup party and do our hair"

Wish now I had taken her up on it!

As a final note, add me to those saying that you easily pass.

Looking good girl!

[Guest Donna Jean]

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How very cool......slumber party.....

I'd love that, but, I'm past my prime...maybe if I had a couple of girls my own age to do it with....

Uh.....

"Oh, Lizzy...Sally...."....lol

Yes, you look really cute...easily passable in a physical way!....

Huggs

Donna Jean

[Guest Maria_B]

See, I told you.

It wasn't just me being nice

You are gorgeous girl! <33

Don't forget it.

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Cute

lizzy

[Guest HoWeVeRmine]

I think you're just beautiful! I love girls with short hair! : D

And the only thing that seemed a little off was the way you were standing in the pictures. A lot of the girls I know will usually pose or something for a picture with like a hip leaning out and a hand on it or something, but everything else in your physical appearance was very passable. I wouldn't think twice about it if I didn't already know that you're trans.

[Guest Nostros]

Thank You so much boys and girls!:_) I only wished I could think about myself as "passable", but I just don't have the confidence and don't know how...=( Any suggestions on what helps You think beautiful about yourselves?

[Sally]

Dear Nostros,

I loved the story about the slumber party and I am glad that you had such a good time, you are indeed very passable, cute, beautiful and all of the other adjectives that the others have used to describe you.

Now you have asked the world's hardest question which has the world's simplest answer - The confidence has to come from within, that is the trick but here is your answer - think back to how you felt when you were with your friend - you were not thinking about about 'do I pass' you were just enjoying yourself and feeling good about yourself and you felt good - the big problem is holding on to that feeling all of the time.

You need to believe that you should have been a woman, you are a woman and that is what matters, not a movie star, a runway model, truck driver, meter maid - just a woman, we come in all shapes, sizes and looks - be you and that is all you need to do.

Believe in yourself!

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Emily Ray]

There is only one way to get that confidence and that is to go out in public as yourself and see how the world will treat you like the Girl you are. Having a man rush ahead to open a door that you are both approaching for you will do miracles. Women have eyes in the back of our heads and we know when we are being checked out. It has given me incredible confidence being out and about as myself.

You are very pretty and while you are afraid that you might not be, there is a part of you inside that has always known you will make a stunning woman. Hold onto that little scrap of confidence and it will grow.

Next time you do a slumber party with her plan a trip out in public after you have gotten dressed. You won't be disapointed.

Huggs

Emily

[Guest ChloëC]

You've been looking in the mirror and at pictures of yourself practically all your life, and you've had people telling you - both things, that you're male. It's pretty easy to get into that mindset that whenever you look in the mirror or at a picture, all you see is what you've presented to others in the past. Did your slumber party friend look at you as male? Everything you wrote said, absolutely not.

What you have to do is stop thinking of yourself as male and start thinking of yourself as who you really are. And I hate to say it, but every time you put on male clothes, when you present as male, you will only be re-inforcing that image onto your self and everyone around you.

So, spend as much time as you possibly can presenting yourself as who you are - female. That means, go out, meet people, do things, shop, eat, visit, travel, work in the yard, clean your place, take out the garbage, wash clothes, go the library, the grocery, get gas for your car. Basically, just the every day things that you do, do them all as yourself. It's that image you have to beat back, and the more you present as you, the more that image will begin to slink away and not bother you anymore and your correct image will shine to the front, so everyone can see.

btw, I tend to prefer longer hair on females (and me when I'm dressed) but those are very attractive pictures of you, the style goes quite well with your eyes and your smile. Those really work well together. In those pictures you are presenting as female.

Hugs

Chloë

[Guest Nostros]

You need to believe that you should have been a woman, you are a woman and that is what matters, not a movie star, a runway model, truck driver, meter maid - just a woman, we come in all shapes, sizes and looks - be you and that is all you need to do.

Believe in yourself!

Love ya,

Sally

Thank you, Sally!:- ) (hug)

You are very pretty and while you are afraid that you might not be, there is a part of you inside that has always known you will make a stunning woman. Hold onto that little scrap of confidence and it will grow.

Next time you do a slumber party with her plan a trip out in public after you have gotten dressed. You won't be disapointed.

Huggs

Emily

Haha yeah, maybe I should try it out - going out in public That probably would boost my self-confidence... But I do "go out in public" now too - I mean all my clothes are woman clothes, but they're kind of unisex style, so I just look androgynous with them. It's funny actually one of my classmates sometimes wear the exact same clothes that I wear, and one time we came to school dressed exactly alike, and I came up to her and joked with her about that maybe she is trying to be like me:D

You've been looking in the mirror and at pictures of yourself practically all your life, and you've had people telling you - both things, that you're male. It's pretty easy to get into that mindset that whenever you look in the mirror or at a picture, all you see is what you've presented to others in the past. Did your slumber party friend look at you as male? Everything you wrote said, absolutely not.

What you have to do is stop thinking of yourself as male and start thinking of yourself as who you really are. And I hate to say it, but every time you put on male clothes, when you present as male, you will only be re-inforcing that image onto your self and everyone around you.

So, spend as much time as you possibly can presenting yourself as who you are - female. That means, go out, meet people, do things, shop, eat, visit, travel, work in the yard, clean your place, take out the garbage, wash clothes, go the library, the grocery, get gas for your car. Basically, just the every day things that you do, do them all as yourself. It's that image you have to beat back, and the more you present as you, the more that image will begin to slink away and not bother you anymore and your correct image will shine to the front, so everyone can see.

btw, I tend to prefer longer hair on females (and me when I'm dressed) but those are very attractive pictures of you, the style goes quite well with your eyes and your smile. Those really work well together. In those pictures you are presenting as female.

Hugs

Chloë

Thank you Chloë!

Well, I'm trying to take my "male image" down small bit by bit, In hopes that eventually, maybe 3 years from now, there won't be any bits I don't like about myself left. Everything I do daily is pretty womanly - Mainly because I go to cosmetology school, so everything we learn and do there is feminine. And when I get back home I usually have some girl friend come over and we have a tea party and just talk about everything, and then I do her a hand massage and do her nails (I'm already a manicurist), or we just watch some movie ^__^ But yeah there is still quite a lot of self-acceptance I need to do for me...

Thank You for you nice comments and compliments guys! I really didn't expect such a good and positive feedback! You made me feel so much better... really. Thanks! (hugs all)

-Luka

: )

[Guest Erin Girl to Be]

OMG !!!!

you look sooooooooooooooooo cute!!!!!!!

Erin

[Guest Aries]

Yep So true!