Mental Gender Matching Body Matching What Ociety Expects?

[Guest jayden18]

Hi my name's jayden. I was born 11 weeks prematurely with reifenstein's syndrome. I didn't know that til recently. I have feminine features facially. Things that are kind of hard to change like lip structure eye structure. People see a girl when they see me. My mind is very subtly masculine. But I still don't feel right as a girl. I like wearing make up and having longer hair. I don't wear fakes or girl clothing. I used to identify as goth. I was so depressed so very much about my body about how I could never be a real guy. I have always felt male but like while growing up I had a hard time living the way I did. Also mentally I sometimes question what does a guy feel like. I don't like girls. I've even expiremented I don't. My relationship with guys is quite the same with other girls. I would feel intimidated if my partner saw me as another guy. I know I don't feel right where I'm at but I don't want the alternative too much for so many reasons. If I physically was like any other guy I'd be comfortable but I'm just not. It really goes into this nasty circle. Help advice?

[Guest JaniceW]

Hi Jayden,

Welcome to Laura's. Come on in and sit, kick off your shoes and relax. Someone will be right along with the goodie cart.

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Your questions are not unusual. Truth is only you have the answers for you. We can share what we think or feel but your answers have to come from you. A gender therapist can help you sorting things out for yourself.

Hang around and read posts from others. You will see parts of yourself in the messages. You probably won't see anything that is all you, but that is because you are the special and unique person that you are and no one is exactly like you. Reply to others and you find your self seeing more of your answers as you think things through to reply.

[Guest tiffany_marie]

Jayden.

First off welcome, you've come to a great place.

I would second the gender therapist if all possible, I know that while my condition isn't exactly the same as yours, my therapist has been incredibly helpful to me in every way and has allowed me to learn more and more about my true self

I wish well and hope you find the answers you seek.