Can You Accept Your Gender Id Without My Orientation?

[Guest jayden18]

well I have always had this problem like I have always struggled with my orientation and I have been made fun of for my gender identity. My parents have been supportive of my gender identity instability but how can I comfortably transition without dealing with my orientation? Any advice?

[Guest JaniceW]

Jayden,

Our sexual orientation and gender identity are separate issues. Think about it for a minute, a man can any one of many sexual orientations and so can a woman. You are right in that you do need to figure out what your orientation is for you but it does not change your gender identity.

Your gender identity is who you see yourself as and your orientation is who you are attracted to. Unfortunately the labels that society uses for orientation are all caught up on what the gender of you and your desired are. If you were born a male and are attracted to females then you are labeled as heterosexual, ut if your gender then changes to female does that mean your orientation changed> No! But the label that society uses will change.

[Guest kelise]

Janice is right. Two separate issues. But I look at labels as my belongings. Nobody decided I was a lesbian after I transitioned except me.

[Carolyn Marie]

The ladies are correct, Jayden. A G.T. will help you explore both issues, but confusion over your sexual orientation should not

keep you from transitioning, if that is what you ultimately decide you want and need to do. As a matter of fact, I know of several

people here who say that their orientation changed over time. That doesn't mean they didn't always have that orientation, just that

they repressed it due to societal pressures or other internal issues.

There are no rules with this stuff, Jayden. There is only how you feel. That can, and often does, change with time, knowledge, and

experience.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Donna Jean]

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Honey....

Gender is who you are.....

Orientation is who you like....,

Simple?

Donna Jean

[Guest Elizabeth K]

The gender and the sexual parts of us are very personal parts of our self identity. I wrestled with the gender dysphoria forever (50 plus years) but the sexual orientation was never an issue. I am attracted to what women are, I love how we think, I love our bodies. I don't care much for men because I was so badly treated when I thought I had to compete with them.

As a natal male, loving women made me heterosexual, and that was an approximation.

As a Tgirl, loving women makes me Lesbian? Again an approximation.

So I conclude, labels don't apply.

Lizzy

[Guest jayden18]

I must have put it wrong. What I meant is like. I feel like I can accept that I feel more like a man. It's just I don't feel like if I were a guy it would be easily believeable. And like before I always felt like no guy would want me if I did live as a guy. From my past much of the time I was intimidated by other guys I didn't socially make it because of my sex problem. I just don't know how I could find happiness and still be what I want to be.