Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Feminization Ideas


Guest StaceyC

Recommended Posts

Guest StaceyC

Looking for some feminization ideas or things i can work on. I am 39 and started laser hair removal on my face. I won't be seeking HRT for several years and I'm only out to my spouse at this point. Are there someother things that I can do to look and express my feminimity without being too "out"?

Link to comment
Guest MissErika

How "out" do you want to be?

I'm hardly out at all.

I'm in the military and cannot afford to lose my career.

I still dress as a woman at home and my daughter also know that I am going to become a woman.

I would just worry about dressing up at home, and making sure that your wife is going to be ok with your transition in the end.

HUGS

Erika

Link to comment
Guest Emily Ray

Before I went full-time I wore a bracelet that had my name on it. I was single so it didn't cause any problems. Another suggestion I have heard is to wear an anklet. Piercing your ears is a possibility as well as your naval.

Huggs

Emily

Link to comment
Guest Krisina

I wear womens undergarments, socks, belt sometimes, wide collared shirts, and if you were comfortable with it tight jeans mens or womens.

I'm a little older but like you I've begun the laser treatments on the face. I'm loving it.

Link to comment
Guest Lizzie McTrucker

Clean up your eyebrows?

You don't have to go as far as thinning them out or shaping them, but cleaning up any stray hairs above or below would be a little start, as well as trimming them back so they're not really bushy. Easy tip for that is to just take a fine tooth comb and a small pair of scissors, like cuticle trimmers, slide the comb down on your brows as close to the skin as you can, and trim off any hairs that poke out through the comb.

Also if you have something resembling or approaching a unibrow, trim it!

Link to comment

Hi Stacey,

I've been using clear nail polish on my fingernails for a while now - it makes them look good and feel terrific. Of course, toenails can be any color you like as long as you're wearing shoes.

Also, practicing your walk, gestures, and voice do wonders for feeling more feminine - when you have the privacy.

If you're not doing it already, make sure that you never go to the bathroom standing, and, also, try tucking 24/7 - that flat look does wonders for me!

I'll shut up now!

Love, Kat

Link to comment
Guest Miss_Construe

Experiment with a few things and don't be afraid to try many options.

I know that the list below contains many things that really shouldn't be gendered, but many of these have helped me keep sane when I was forced to be male.

- Clear nail polish

- Discrete accents

- Music selections

- Movie selections

- Body hair removal

- Body Lotion

- Facial cleansing cloths

- Baths

- Spa trips

- More color exploration in male oriented clothing

- More fashionable clothing choices

- Little longer hair style

- Androgynous style accents

- Find a woman's group to join or to hang with occasionally (GLBTIQQA friendly of course)

- Yoga

- Dance

- Tai Chi

- etc.

Amy

Link to comment
Guest Elizabeth K

Stop cutting your hair, start electrolysis or LASER, begin practicing your voice, and learn to tap into the real you which will lead you to what you want to be.

Lizzy

Link to comment
Guest Besomyka

Looking for some feminization ideas or things i can work on. I am 39 and started laser hair removal on my face. I won't be seeking HRT for several years and I'm only out to my spouse at this point. Are there someother things that I can do to look and express my feminimity without being too "out"?

33 here. I'd like to say I let my hair grow long, but my Mother suggested that back in 1994. I'm beginning to wonder if she knew something...

Other than hair, I've shaved my legs and arms. I wear a clear polish on my fingers, and I paint my toenails which ever color I find more appropriate at the time. Sometimes it's a bright green. My wife painted them a metallic purple a bit ago, and now I'm using a steady red. But whatever.

With my hair long I normally pull it back into a ponytail, but I tie it higher on my head on occasion if I want to feel, for myself, more feminine.

So far, no one has ever commented on the shaving (some people do that for sports anyway) or the polish. They can't see the later, mostly.

Link to comment
Guest JessicaLynn

I didn't see anyone mention shaving your legs. That was always the biggest thing for me before I came fully out. Give that a try, it'll do wonders for you I'm sure!

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   2 Members, 0 Anonymous, 104 Guests (See full list)

    • Roach
    • Betty K
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.8k
    • Total Posts
      769.7k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,076
    • Most Online
      8,356

    AmandaJoy
    Newest Member
    AmandaJoy
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Alexa Amorosa
      Alexa Amorosa
      (48 years old)
    2. Bluestem
      Bluestem
      (39 years old)
    3. CharlotteSW
      CharlotteSW
      (26 years old)
    4. Daisy91
      Daisy91
    5. jriddle1990
      jriddle1990
      (30 years old)
  • Posts

    • KayC
      My experience is very similar to yours, Sally.  When I first started to socially transition I thought 'blending in' was the best approach.  It did not work AT ... ALL.  I was misgendered so often. So now I try to feminize as much as my wardrobe (and time) allows.  For 'girls' my age I believe I am far more fashionable than other women.  So, lately I have been much more successful at 'passing'. But also like you, I am not really trying to fool people.  I expect they assume I am Trans and I just hope they respect my femininity and my humanity. 
    • missyjo
      congratulations easyE. :) I'm guessing with declared endgame will hover m maybe reconsider end game as they, we go along   congrats dear. I'm happy fir you
    • VickySGV
      Actually, they did back at the times of the AIDS pandemic in the 80's.  Some of my slightly older than I am Gay friends were beaten up and thrown out of gender correct restrooms back then. 
    • Abigail Genevieve
      I'm not sure the past is a sure guide to future needs.  LGB have no dog in the fight on public restrooms, for example.  That is T only, and only some T at that. 
    • Betty K
      When I appear on the radio and podcast it will be in discussion with a political scientist who will discuss those aspects. I’m focussed on the implications for kids and why the recommendations are flawed. But yes, I will probably briefly paint the political background.
    • Davie
      GFY, @Betty K. Don't forget to write about the motivations for the Cass Report, and who paid for its conclusions. "Cass Met With DeSantis Pick Over Trans Ban: Her Review Now Targets England Trans Care." — Erin Reed  And now its back to America, 'surprise, surprise.'
    • Vidanjali
      Hi @Sol. Great to hear from you and your updates are all encouraging. Wonderful all the support you're now getting from your family and to hear you sounding so positive and hopeful. Career as an archivist sounds like a great path - sensible and not too specific, but endlessly fascinating at the same time. Not only do museums employ archivists, but so do many other institutions such as historical societies and universities. Your university may have its own archives which you could visit and learn about. Take care & be well! 
    • AmandaJoy
      Hi @KathyLauren no worries!   I’ve only ever gotten a two-year degree in programming, and that one was just because I existed in the U.S. Air Force as a coder long enough to qualify for all of the technical credits, then I just took CLEP and DANTES tests to get the rest.   Most of my work has been in the security arena, lots of C/C++. Worked as a Red Hat hacker for a few years, and spent a few more years in gov’t spaces.
    • KathyLauren
      Hi, Amanda.  Your story sounds quite familiar, though my pesky body part didn't need the attention of a urologist.  You are in good company here!
    • KathyLauren
      Oops.  Sorry, @AmandaJoy, I see you have already posted an introduction. 
    • KathyLauren
      Hi, @AmandaJoy.  Welcome to Trans Pulse.  Be sure to check out the various forums and join in any threads that interest you.  We'd love to read all about you in the Introductions forum.   -----   I started programming in Dartmouth Basic in high school back in the early 1970s.  I did my degree in Computer Science.  After a brief stint in the "government flying club" (RCAF), I worked as a programmer-analyst and systems analyst for about 25 years.    I am retired now, but I still enjoy programming.  I write a lot of the code for my astrophotography observatory.    
    • Sol
      WOW HAS IT BEEN A WHILE SINCE I'VE UPDATED!!! Welp, I'm updating now, and it's been a lot of changes.  1. My mom is starting to come around a little (I think). She does refer to me more as her child now, and even offered to help me cut my hair so I think we're making a little progress. I'm still planning on going on T later and I'm gonna start saving up to buy trans tape (I can't wear binders because I have GERD), so hopefully the progress stays. My dad, sibling, friends, and my paternal grandparents have all been super supportive and I'm really lucky for that. My sibling also goes out of their way to introduce me as their brother and it makes me so happy :D 2. I've been socializing a lot more! Mostly on Discord, but I've made some new friends and I'm really happy about that!  3. I'm on birth control! I still need to go to the gyno but my GP got me on the depo shot and it's been working for me so far! My dysphoria has gone through a lot of ups and downs, especially around periods, but that source is pretty much gone now and I feel way better. I do have more dysphoria centered around my chest now but that's pretty easily fixed with baggy shirts most of the time.  4. I know 100% now that I'm hoping for a uterine ablation (cauterizing the uterine tissue so it doesn't grow) at some point in the future and it's likely something I'll have to save up for but from my research it's a lot less invasive and safer than a hysterectomy so I definitely recommend it if people are able to access it. I also know that after that, I want to save up for a reduction to combat the chest dysphoria, and I still like having it sometimes so I'll keep a bit of it (I'm shooting for an A cup, I'm a C cup currently).  5. I've been writing more and I've even got some ideas for art projects! I also got an Archive of Our Own account where I post my finished writing, and I'm starting a book project at my mom's urging (she said she wanted that as her Christmas present so I'm gonna try, might not get it done this year though). I haven't gotten to write much lately but I'm hoping to change that this month.  And finally, 6. I'm gonna be a college junior and I have a career path to pursue! I'm gonna be an archivist, hopefully working for a museum (not too specific on where, I just like museums).  So yeah, a lot of stuff has happened and it's been pretty good! 
    • AmandaJoy
      Hi Thea!   Professional coder since ‘90, hobbyist since ‘83. C/C++, C#, Java, Ruby, Python, Ada, COBOL, Fortran, various flavors of BASIC. Love C, but it’s mostly been about Python recently.
    • Ivy
      Welcome Amanda
    • Ivy
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...