Sexuality

[Guest -Jack-]

I used to only like girls but as I've gotten older and transitioned more I've found myself liking transguys and even some gay men. I'm not sure if it's from transitioning further or if maybe when I was younger I felt like I had to be straight and to me that meant only liking girls. Anyone have a similar experience? I've also heard that homosexuality is a gene and that when you transition you could switch preferences (they talked about it on the L word) though I still like girls and I kinda doubt the scientificness of it.

[Guest GoldenKirbichu]

Homosexuality in humans wouldn't be a single gene, otherwise it would be too easy to manipulate. Most people appear to have a propensity for extremism to either regard (straight or gay) but can occasionally find people outside of those brackets attractive. That doesn't invalidate your sexuality in any way, and shouldn't be much cause for concern. You have a lot of your life left to live anyway, it doesn't really matter who you find attractive.

[Guest Chris_421]

Haha, I've been all over the spectrum. When I was younger, considered myself bi, then went to liking only girls but kept it to myself when I found a guy attractive (i think I was envious) and now back to being bi-curious at least. Sometimes I think I may only want to fool around with a guy to know what, well stuff feels like for real, so to say if you get my drift. But I actually find myself looking at guys more than girls now, with attraction wise. I just try not to get too into it or I'm lost lol.

[Guest Mitchel]

When I was younger I didn't really have any interest in anyone. I could appreciate beauty in either gender, but I didn't really find myself attracted to anyone. When I was in highschool, i was only surrounded by girls, and didn't really have any outside contact with any men. So my preferences tended towards girls. But now I feel like I could appreciate both genders, being physically and mentally attracted to them.

I tend to see a persons personality before I even notice gender, which is pretty good for me. However, I did notice that since I became a lot more comfortable with my transition that I've found myself attracted to men and transmen a little more than before.

[Guest Sergei]

I'm definitely way more attracted to men. I just physically find a male body far more attractive. I used to only ever think I would like men, but ever since I transitioned I wouldn't rule out the possibility of being with a woman. Well, I can actually more see myself ending up with a woman, just because emotionally I seem to get on with them better.

I don't think transitioning changes your sexuality, I just think it means you are far more open to different things and experiences. I think it really helps you see people rather than bodies. If you want something that solely turns you on, you can look at porn and sort yourself out. If you want a relationship you need to love the person, not just their body. I think transpeople just come to this realisation a lot more often than cispeople do. I think it's a good thing.

[Guest Snow Angel]

I'm still very physically attracted to the female body, but I'm emotionally attracted to men. I wouldn't mind being with a man. Who you think is attractive and who you would go to bed with are two different things, also! I'm not pro-hetero or anything, but being with a man just seems more right in society's eyes. For me at first, it was mostly men, now it changed to mostly women. In the end, the body doesn't really matter. I'll be with the person that treats me right and makes me feel special.

[Guest Martin]

My sexuality developed the opposite way. When I was younger, I was only attracted to guys. I think this was because I wanted to be just like them. When I started transitioning, I realized that I was also into girls. I've heard from a lot of transguys that their sexuality changed. It seems like a lot more of them liked guys when they transitioned, especially after starting T. I have absolutely no idea why this is.

[Guest Jack Solomon]

I'm definitely way more attracted to men. I just physically find a male body far more attractive.

Same here. I consider myself essentially emotionally pansexual (able to feel attraction or love regardless of gender), but with a definate preference towards men. I generally picture myself with a male partner in mind, but I could potentially see myself emotionally attracted or attached to a female romantically because the actual person rather than the gender is what's critical in cementing my attraction to someone.

Physically, I am more attracted to the male form, but I do experience some perceptible physical interest in the female body (like checking women out, etc). If I had the correct equipment I think I would be more open to 'trying it out', so to speak, with a female but I would still tend towards males for seeking a relationship. In any case, I must want/admire someone for their person to be truly what I consider 'desiring' of or attracted to them beyond the level of passing physical interest.

When I was younger, I thought I was only attracted to males because it was rare that I was actually interested in pursuing anyone romantically but I've better defined myself over the years.

Solomon