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Anyone Ever Ask You If You Want To Be The Opposite Sex, Playing Around?


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Guest Samurai_Kid

They don't know you're trans, and they're just asking as a joke or an innocent question.

For example, for whatever reason my buddy asked me "If you could be a boy, would you?" I couldn't say anything to that, so I just mumbled and he took that as a "No".

If my friends were more liberal, I may have said yes. But my friends are rather anti-trans.

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Guest audrey michelle

when i was little, i always played the girl roles, haha. like in cops and robbers, i was the nurse. in indians and cowboys, i was pocahontas, haha. no one ever really said anything except my mom. shed just be like "why are you always being a girl?"

and people just assumed i was gay when i was olderr. nothing else reallyyy

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Guest Confusedaboutmyfeelings

I kinda had a similar situation like 2 weeks ago. Was out for my bday dinner and I was quiet thinking about stuff and someone asked what was up... I said personal stuff. And he goes people only say personal stuff if they are thinking of like getting a sex change... if he only knew how close he was....

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Guest Mina89

This is so weird.

Last night on my way home in usual male mode some kid (mid-to-late teens) said to me: "You look like a girl n***a."

Kind of bittersweet. Thanks, you random street kid, and screw you, too!

-Valerie

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Guest barton

Some years ago this came up in a discussion in class (history, of all things). The teacher asked us to stand if we would ever want to spend a day as the opposite sex.

I wanted to stand up sooo much, but no one else was moving, so I stayed in my seat.

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When I was little I left no doubt in anyone's mind that I not only wanted to be a boy in body but would have done anything up to and including making a sacrificial offering of my little sister to become a boy.

She can be thankful it never occurred to me then that it might work. :D

Seriously no one asked then because they knew and puberty gave me an beautiful woman's face and body so it never occurred to anyone afterward that I still wanted to be a boy and then man. Though I was very frequently accused of acting like a man.

Had to be taught, forced really, to walk and talk to match that false exterior. But they couldn't force me to change my heart or mind.

But YEA! That's all over now! And it only took a little over half a century. For all of those just beginning it is a new day now and won't have to be that long.

:D

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Guest Orva26

Hasn't really come up many times in conversation. But when it has I usually said yes and played it off joking like with, "That multiple orgasm thing sounds neat!" :lol:

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Guest Ratio

My mummers was actually the one that always jokes around about it, my friends do, too. I know it's horrible to lie, but I always smile at them and say "No." Well, I do now, anyways. Whenever I'd say yes, everyone takes it as a joke, when it isn't. Eventually, I stopped answering.

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Guest LittleKaitlyn

When I came out to one of my friends a few years ago, at first he thought that I was telling him I was MTF. That was amusing.

Yeah I told a friend of mine and he said "So you used to be a girl?" at first. It made me giggle!

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Guest DésiréeG

when i went for my surgery a few years ago, my wife and I agreed that we weren't going to say specifically why I was in the hospital, but that if any of her friends asked, she'd be honest with them. Only one person did. My wife responded that I was getting sex reassignment surgery to which her friend said "Désirée wants to be a boy?" Mocja became my favorite person after that :)

On a music site where I'm a mod, which is probably 99% male, there was a whole topic once on "what would you do if you were the opposite sex for a day" Since they all know me as a lesbian but not trans, they were quite curious how I would feel about being a straight guy for a day...

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Guest Jenth

These days jokes like this are almost a daily thing. I kinda bring them on myself, but I'm done conforming to the male gender role. Went to Karoake with a couple of managers that I work with and as a gag song they made me sing Shania Twain 'Man, I Feel Like a Woman' I have a regular that comes in and refers to me in the feminine. He thinks he's joking, I think he's awesome lol. There's been more than one day when a coworker counts gender heads and exclaims that there's more males than females and jokingly corrects herself saying that I don't really count as one of the males. Such jokes are indeed quite bittersweet, but I'll take them and the pangs of dysphoria that come with them over attempting to conform to the male gender role and the dysphoria attached to that.

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Guest Catherine H

These days jokes like this are almost a daily thing. I kinda bring them on myself, but I'm done conforming to the male gender role. [. . .]

That is kind of how I feel at school all the time. People will say something like "Look at that really hot guy!", and I will say something along the lines of "What?! Hot guy, where?" They usually laugh, but still :/ Or when they are talking about dresses, I'll say "I want one!" and they take that as a joke too :/

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