A Time Where You Were Read

[Guest audrey michelle]

okay, soo i was just thinking and curious if anyone had any moments where they were read/clocked/outed. i know it can be hard and discouraging but im also curious as to how you dealt with it on the spot and how you recovered from it later. this can be both for mtf and ftm. it doesnt have to be a public situation but a situation where you were presenting as your true self and someone who didnt know questioned you on your gender or whatever. this could also potentially help others learn how to move on from being read

heres mine. i was approached by this guy at the gym and i usually avoid situations like this [dont really feel the need to get attached and then explain my situation to someone] but i gave in and talked to him. we exchanged numbers and then met a couple of days later for coffee. the date went fine and we talked and whatnot and then departed. anyways, the next day, we're texting and then he suddenly texts me going "how long have you been a girl?" and i wasnt sure if he worded something wrong so i replied with "what?" and hes like "are you a transsexual?" and i was honest and said that i am. he said that it wasnt a problem and he then asked what equipment i was working with down below and i am pre-everything so i told him the truth. that was a problem for him. he responded with "i thought you were a beautiful woman when i saw you. you look good as a woman. but then i heard your voice and thought you were a boy" which i thought was funny/odd because he didnt question me the first night we met and talked face-to-face. i mean, i know i can alter my voice to make it more feminine and stuff but i guess i didnt care that day, loll. anyways, i wasnt offended by him reading me because he did the easy work for me [me having to come out to him] and he wasnt too phased by it because we made several other plans but he was just a shady character so i kind of let him go, haha

anyways, your experiences, stories, moments, whatever? advice id give on this is: dont let it discourage you. take it as you have to just work harder and eventually youll get there. dont let it stop you from being happy. and try not to care for someone else's stupidity and ignorance...its not worth dwelling on

[JJ]

Since I haven't been really read as male yet except perhaps once I don't really have any anecdotes for you

I did have a word of caution. Old worry wart here I guess but I am glad you met him in a public place and hope that your phone number is all that you exchanged. There are some really bad people out there trolling for trans girls. Especially ones as attractive as you are. JessicaLynn's experience is a perfect example of how viscous some of them can be. Please read it if you haven't

http://www.lauras-pl...=0

Stay safe please and good topic. I hope you get a lot of interesting replies.

Hugs

John

[Paula ult]

Early on in my transition the daughter of an employee at a place i was getting electrolysis was giving me the once over, i just looked at her and smiled, she was about 7, she probably asked her mother later if i was a boy or a girl.

Another time early in my transition i was at the grocery store, they had people handing out samples, the woman about 30 years old asked if i wanted to try some, i said no thank you, as i continued doing my shopping i had the feeling i was being watched, i looked around and the woman that was handing out the samples was following my every move with eyes as big as saucers, that was really creepy.

At Walmart about 8 months ago i was in the checkout line, a couple teens were in the next checkout, i caught the one boy looking at me, i just looked back and gave him a smile, when i talked to the cashier he quit looking, i figured if he was questioning my gender, when he heard my voice it proved i was female to him and he never looked at me again.

Confidence and a big smile does wonders, of course dressing to blend in and a decent voice helps too.

Paula

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

*sigh* yeah...

I had just finished dropping off some resumes at plus size stores so before I headed back home I parked towards the back of a movie theater parking lot to indulge in a bad habit of mine. While I was outside, looking around and standing into the breeze so my hair wouldn't get caught on my nicely painted lips, this homeless guy came up to me to bum one of my cancer sticks. I totally broke character (after he kinda startled me because I didn't know someone had come up behind me) and my voice broke back into male mode. That's when he clocked me. However, when he asked my real name I told him my real name was Liz (because it legally was). I think that kinda confused him..or he thought I was lying.

That happens from time to time. I get comfortable in my role and my voice slips back down. I've been getting better at remembering not to do that.

[Guest doodle]

I get made every now and than . now I'm going to my union hall for shop steward training. I have gone twice and have 8 more classes to go . The first class I had to speak and I was so scared that my voice cracked and I saw a women on the other side of the class look at me. last week a women gave me a look in the restroom. I have thought of coming out to the class but my GT said not to. I should just try and be myself. yikes.

Kelly