Transsexuals Who Do Not Transition (how Do They Deal With It?)

[Guest mandy05]

I've been wondering about what happens to TS Folk who decide not to go through with their transition?

I've tried to do some research on the subject, and I am finding there is not hardly anything out there in regards to Transsexuals who decide not to go through with their transition.

The thing I wonder about most is how do they continue to suppress their feelings of being born in the wrong body? How do they walk away from who they are that easily? How do they cope with not going through with their transition?

I understand that there are some cases where one comes to a conclusion that they were probably not TS to begin with, however at the same time, I'm sure there are some true Trans Folk out there who decided not to pursue transitioning due to different reasons.

[Guest Leah1026]

I assume one of the following happens:

They commit suicide

The stress kills them

They lead incredibly bitter lives

[Sakura]

diddo what she said sooner or later it catchs up to you ppl may beable to ignore it but their is no hiding i see alot of tgirls in thier 40s and 50s i have even seen some pushing 80 any one that say they can hide it for ever is full of sh!t or are very bitter one of the two for truly dyed in the wool trans person it will find its way to the surface no matter your relation ship or your life at the time

it becomes un barable

Sakura

[Guest Snow Angel]

Here's a site pertaining to what you asked.

http://www.geocities.com/girlinside123/index.htm

(Many thanks to Star Crystal for digging it up.)

This person claims they are transgender but won't transition, and asks others to do the same. Take it at face value. I don't know how credible the person is.

[Guest Leah1026]

Here's a site pertaining to what you asked.

http://www.geocities.com/girlinside123/index.htm

(Many thanks to Star Crystal for digging it up.)

This person claims they are transgender but won't transition, and asks others to do the same. Take it at face value. I don't know how credible the person is.

Well that person is twisting facts. Like this:

Do you feel like a woman in a man's body, or a man in a woman's body? If so, the term for you is "transgendered." Some transgendered people choose to alter their bodies through hormones and/or surgery. However, this is a very long, difficult, expensive, and dangerous path to take. This is why those who transition are in the minority among transgendered people, contrary to popular belief.

That one word is the key. Transgendered includes crossdressers, drag queens, drag kings, androgynes, genderqueer, genderf*ck, two-spirits, bigender and many more. And yes most of them have no need to transition. However, transsexual people are a whole nother kettle of fish and they NEED to transition.

The author of that site sounds transgender to me, not transsexual and so I'd take whatever they have to say with a BIG grain of salt.

[Guest Rachel-Lucy]

Dont some not transition because of religious reasons?

[Guest mandy05]

I've heard some other reasons why some choose not to transition is due to the fear of losing everything and ending up out on the streets with nothing left.

However, many of you are right about it resurfacing sooner or later. My therapist has told me stories of people who try to walk away and how many of them end up coming back to her about 2 to 3 years later, sometimes longer.

[Guest Zenda]

I've heard some other reasons why some choose not to transition is due to the fear of losing everything and ending up out on the streets with nothing left.

However, many of you are right about it resurfacing sooner or later. My therapist has told me stories of people who try to walk away and how many of them end up coming back to her about 2 to 3 years later, sometimes longer.

Kia Ora Mandy,

In answer to your question...it would depend on how one 'self' identifies themself..Remember 'transsexual' is just a label anyone can use to discribe themselves[even if they are not what's medically termed 'transsexual']...Trans-people should ask themselves this… At this present moment is their 'level' of desire to live full time as their true self… 10-25-50-75 or 100% ? For all those who suffer from ‘Benjamin’s Syndrome’ sooner or later[ early teens-young adult-middle age-even older] the 100% level will be reached and if one does not act on it[counselling-therapy etc etc] then their life can be a living hell or worse…Leah's first post tends to sum it up quite well...

My disphoria really began to kick in in my late teens-in my early twenties I had spent time in psyche wards plus had my stomach pumped twice after two failed suicide attempts[the first in my early twenties] after which I was told by the psychiatrist that I suffered from 'anxiety' and would need medication 'tranqulisers' for the rest of my life...On and off for twenty odd years I lived in gender limbo...Until eventually [even with the help of mother's little helper 'valium' and my good reserve of self denial]...my true self poked through I finally decided to do sometime about it...I was in my mid forties when I began affirmed my true gender identity and in 2005 I had Gender Affirming Surgery...

Metta Jendar

[Guest doodle]

I was young living 24/7 for a couple of years in New York city doing of all things driving a yellow cab. I lived with a man for over 7 years and when I wanted to be castrated. He wouldn't let me have the money. We fought about for a week and finally i tried suicide. Eventually I wound up on the street. I got some help through social services. I started work,and found a lesbian shrink I hated and distrusted men and for the most part still do. I slowly put myself back together and promised myself that no matter what I would not try again.. There is almost nothing worse than failing at suicide. The only thing worse is trying to beat this problem. I mostly stayed stoned, and drunk. I got a masters degree, a good job and worked all the time. As long as I was totally absorbed by what I was doing or stoned and drunk I could keep it out of my mind for a while but it always came back. At this point I'm in an almost do nothing job i just show up and tell others what to do than sit around and read-not good. If i wasn't so old I would quit and find something else to throw myself into. As of nowI'm back on hrt. not drinking and feel great but my big fear is that i'm going to destroy everything all over again.

doodle

[Guest mandy05]

Here's a site pertaining to what you asked.

http://www.geocities.com/girlinside123/index.htm

(Many thanks to Star Crystal for digging it up.)

This person claims they are transgender but won't transition, and asks others to do the same. Take it at face value. I don't know how credible the person is.

After reading some of the content on this same individual's website, I do agree with everything you are saying Leah1026.

I also believe this same person has a very low level of dysphoria, and it seems to me they are using a lot of scare tactics to try and discourage others from transitioning. I realize there are risks when it comes to HRT, however I have found that most of these risks that are listed are not as great as the author of that website has made them out to be. Most people who I know who have, or those who are currently undergoing their transition have done quiet well on hormones with very few problems if any. Including myself.

Just the thought of forcing myself to remain in male form is horrifying to me itself. Staying in a male form and calling myself a woman is just not acceptable for me personally.

[Guest JoAnnDallas]

I have a friend of mine that has had BA and FFS surgery. She live and works full time as a female. She has had her name changed and sex marker changed. She has not had SRS. The only reason is the cost and time off that is needed. Otherwise she seems to be happy. Her best friend just had SRS and she was there to support her. I have known her for many years and watched her as she changed from drab to fem over that time. When she came out at work, they were OK with it and she even ended up with a job promotion too. She is planning on a Orich soon, since the cost is not that high and she can get it done locally. There are only a handful of places that do SRS.