Ts Related Therapy (Perhaps)

[Guest Observateur]

I have often thought about having psychological treatment - but not because of transsexuality.

I'm social phobic, maybe it's developped because I'm trans, maybe not, I don't know. I've thought a therapy would be best, because everything I tried on my own didn't work out.

However I don't want to see a gender therapist, because this problem has nothing to do with my identity, but the fact I was not treated as the person I had always been.

So, I don't have any idea what to do. I can:

1. Go to a regular therapist as a "woman" (because my health insurance says so) and do not talk about the TS, but about SP only

2. Go to a voluntary therapist (where you don't need your health insurance) as a man and talk about SP

3. Go to a regular therapist as a transman, but maybe facing that they could try to focus on the trans thing or wanting me to reflect my identity or whatever

I'm tending towards 3, but I'm not sure. I don't know if the therapist might try to change the therapy into a gender therapy because they think that this is something to work on first.

Or that they even think that I imagine being trans because I'm SP.

Which option would you choose?

[Guest Observateur]

Thanks for your response.

Yes, I'm already presenting male and pass most of the time. However, most people haven't doubted I'm "female" when they got my birthname. So, I can still pass as a woman and be myself at the same time.

I still don't know, because you're right about therapy being uncomfortable. That's why I've been carrying along this problem for such a long time without having the guts to start a therapy.

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Three

If asked why, look puzzeled and say something like,'But, this is who I am. Now back to my Social Anxieties... no, I don't think they are related."

GRIN!

Seriously - go as yourself.

Lizzy

[Guest CariadsCarrot]

I'd say go to a general therapist as yourself and make it clear before you start that being a transman is part of who you are and something you are comfortable with. Make sure they understand that it's not what you are there for and that they can work with you on that basis. If they aren't cool with that look for a different therapist. Therapy is a relationship and it can sometimes take more than one try to find the right one for anyone so don't worry if it's the same for you.

[Drea]

When going to therapy, all issues are on the table. Once you start deciding what is relevent or not to a particular issue, there is no point going to therapy. A particular issue might not be, but often one has to explore something before moving on.

The trans stuff is a very good possibility as being a factor.

As for option 1, the paperwork can say one thing and you can still present dfiferent. It is kind of like option 3 in that the fact your trans would be obvious. Maybe that was what you were thinking for option 3.

As for which option, that be your choice