A Shock

[Guest Isabel T]

This happned just an hour or so ago. I was in the bathroom showering when suddenly my sister walks in, completely unexpected!

The thing is, I've been experimenting a little in the past few days, using nail-polish on my nails to see how it feels to wear some light make-up, and I'd decided to keep my toe-nails pink during the day, thinking nobody would notice since I was wearing socks all day anyway.

So in comes sis, and our shower cabine only has a glass door, so it's totally see-through, wich means my little pink toes where in full view! My only blessing was that the shower edge had a little elevation and steam might've obscured the view a little.She looked at me, and we had a little casual talk as usual. I tried to keep my toes hidden from her, but despite the aforementioned boons I'm almost 100% sure she saw something. She mentioned something about it too, but I couldnt hear what it was over the noise of the shower.

I'm pretty nervous now. I hope she didnt figure out what it was..I'm so embaressed.

She didnt make a point of it at all though, if she did see something. I gues I'l find out tomorrow.

- Isabel

[Guest Ariel Mai]

That sounds really nerve racking, you must be really freaked out right now. Do you think your sister would be understanding of the situation if you were to tell her that you were trans. If she brings it up and you are not ready there are a million excuses to think of. Siblings can be super supportive if you are close. Which it seems like you guys are. I hope everything goes well, and if you need someone to talk to just inbox me I'm usually on here a lot so... yeah.

Lots of Love,

Ariel <3

[Guest CariadsCarrot]

Wow scary Isabel. It might not be as big a deal as you think though. You could use this as a conversation starter to sound her out to see if it's safe to tell her, or you could pass it off as a joke. Say someone dared you or a female friend was messing around and asked if she could paint them or something. If you want to keep experimenting around the house though it might save a lot of future stress to let her in on it if you think she'd take it well, but it could make the home atmosphere difficult if she doesn't take it well. It's a gamble I guess we all have to take at some point with telling the people we live with (unless we are lucky enough to live alone)

If you want to pass it off as a joke it may be easier to do so than you think. And even if you want to tell her you did it on purpose because you wanted to that doesn't necessarily mean she's gonna have to know EVERYTHING. More guys try things like this out than you would think in my experience. My 12 year old son went through a phase of painting his nails about a year ago (it may mean something more with him given other things he has said and done in his life but it may not and if he does take it further then well we will support him all the way and if he doesn't then that's fine with us too) and even my father who is about as 'man' as you can get (and not always in a good way) and not at all open to 'deviations from the norm' took some of my nail varnish when I was still trying to be a girl and painted a couple of his nails as a joke and walked around like it for a week!

Most people with no experience of transgender stuff if left to their own devices on something like this are more likely to assume you're going through an 'emo' phase than to make the jump to 'ok my brother is transgender'!

[Guest angie]

I started out with painted toes too.

And if you do come out to your sis by accident,you just may find

you have support.And that would be nice don't you know.Then it

could lead to undies and makeup...Ooooooo think about that.

But I wouldn't stress about it,if she say's something just say

you were playing around and forgot to take it off if nothing else.

Angie