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Came Out To Mom Today


Guest Gwendolyn Elizabeth

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Guest Gwendolyn Elizabeth

I have been living at home for the last three weeks having started the process of divorcing my wife. A few incidents around the house had led me to believe that my mother was starting to get some idea that there was something going on. So today after dropping the kids off with my wife, mom and I had a talk on the way home. She really had no clue. I told her how this was something that I had struggled with for a long time. And that coming out of long term depression has finally cleared my head enough to realize that these feelings are the real me. i went on to tell her that at first i thought it was just crossdressing, but that as I learned more, I came to the conclusion that I was something else. I told mom how I feel so much happier when I am being Gwen. I don't know exactly where my path is going to take me. She did basically ask if I had tried to "fix" this. and I tried to explain to her that this is not something you "fix" that this is something built into the brain and that it is easier to change the body to than to change the brain. At the end she said that she still loves me and that she is not going to disown me or kick me out. This is very much out of my mom's realm of experience and she is still trying to soak up and process what we talked about. So at least there might be some hope for acceptance

Gwen

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Guest JaniceW

Gwen,

Welcome to Laura's. Your mom's reaction sure indicates that she loves you, she will need some time to adjust to the new you.

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Guest John Chiv

Gwen,

How brave of you to take this step. Your mom gave an answer that is unconditional love. The way you explained things to her and the fact that she listened and assured you is very hopeful.

John

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hi Gwen,

Gosh, that name really strikes a chord with me (I own the movie "A Girl Like Me" and just got finished watching it for the upteenth million time). Anyway, I digress.....

Welcome, Welcome, Welcome Gwen. You and I have so very much in common. I too am divorced, and I too have come out to my mother ( well actually to the whole family, but that is another story for another time ). Like you, I have been crossdressing for an eternity. Ironically, it wasn't until the last 10 years did I have any understanding as to why.

I am not going to barrage you with a whole lot of talk right now, but just to simply say......

Welcome Gwen :)

Love

Brenda

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Guest Elizabeth K

Rugged start! I went through the divorce part and it was not easy. It's good you found us and we can help by just being here. Please stay with us and let us know how you are doing?

Lizzy

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Guest Lacey Lynne

We are very glad to have you.

Relax. Enjoy. Post.

You are among friends. We believe that you've "found your crew" here at Laura's Playground, because it is filled with people very much like you. Your post is excellent and thanks for joining us.

Lacey

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Guest CariadsCarrot

Hey Gwen, I have to say I love that name. It's my grandma's name so I have a very soft spot for it.

WTG on telling your mum and for sticking to your guns and calmly informing her of the facts when she started down the 'fix it' path. I'm glad she's accepting even though its such a new concept for her and I hope she's even more support as she learns and educates herself on the subject.

Gabe

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Guest Gwendolyn Elizabeth

Well Mom is still trying to come to grips with all of this. We talked for a bit last night and she is still thinking my thoughts and feelings can be and need to be "fixed". So im going to need to spend a little more time with her on that. Please let me know if any of yall have any suggestions of good reference material I can use.

BTW, I do want to thank you all for the kind welcomes and encouraging words

Gwen

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