Attire And Techniques To Start Full Time

[Guest RainBird]

Hello All

When I first transitioned and started to live full time I found my own little ways to make my change alot easier on not just myself but others too by taking baby steps. The first few months of full time living I went full throttle, which I shouldn't have done in my case, it just made it hard for my friends and myself, especially with my long delay to start HRT.

I then took a few steps back and presented a more subtle approach that was femme but suited my appearence

I started to wear Androgynous attire and 'unisex' style female clothes, I felt more confident knowing I didn't have to fear of looking like a 'truckie in a skirt' so to speak. I still wear androgynous type clothes at present, but things are getting better by the month now being on HRT and I have started to make a habit lately of going to the next step towards my more sought after clothing

I found by doing things this way I have more confidence and feel better adjusting my appearence along with my physical changes rather than trying to jump ahead of myself, now full time feels natural rather than an intimidating task.

Remember. Full time living is about you living in your desired gender, expressing yourself freely and being happy, it is not based on what others think

My good friends fully accept me and I think gradually changing rather than going to quickly has also helped them to adjust to me being a girl over time.

I just wanted to share this in case it could help anyone out there who is near the big step of living in their desired gender, but feels a bit anxious or uncertain about thyem selves or their friends

Luv ya's!

xxoo

[Guest SuzanneF]

I have slowly started to dress more feminine..nothing call too much attention to myself..just the colours are softer (and prettier of course). It's nice as I am practicing makeup nowadays too.

[Guest Nelly]

Hi,

thanks for infos.

I also think that it is better to start not so colorfull. I think you must find the right average of what you want and what is best. If I could I would wear only short skirts with high heels. But this will cause a lot of atraction and that I can not handle. So I start looking for some less powerfull outfits. But first steps for me is to get a good face and the right voice. Without that I will not leave the house

I also have to learn to walk like a girl but this I do at home.

Greetings

Nelly

[Guest Isobelle Fox]

Hello All

When I first transitioned and started to live full time I found my own little ways to make my change alot easier on not just myself but others too by taking baby steps. The first few months of full time living I went full throttle, which I shouldn't have done in my case, it just made it hard for my friends and myself, especially with my long delay to start HRT.

I then took a few steps back and presented a more subtle approach that was femme but suited my appearence

I started to wear Androgynous attire and 'unisex' style female clothes, I felt more confident knowing I didn't have to fear of looking like a 'truckie in a skirt' so to speak. I still wear androgynous type clothes at present, but things are getting better by the month now being on HRT and I have started to make a habit lately of going to the next step towards my more sought after clothing

I found by doing things this way I have more confidence and feel better adjusting my appearence along with my physical changes rather than trying to jump ahead of myself, now full time feels natural rather than an intimidating task.

Remember. Full time living is about you living in your desired gender, expressing yourself freely and being happy, it is not based on what others think

My good friends fully accept me and I think gradually changing rather than going to quickly has also helped them to adjust to me being a girl over time.

I just wanted to share this in case it could help anyone out there who is near the big step of living in their desired gender, but feels a bit anxious or uncertain about thyem selves or their friends

Luv ya's!

xxoo

This is good advice. I do the same. I have two wardrobes- one that is the boy clothes and work clothes, and one that is more "unisex" with a few more definitively feminine things. On the weekends I wear what I want to wear. Its taken time for me to find whats comfortable. And what I have found is this: if what I wear makes me feel LESS feminine, reminds me, say, that I look like a guy wearing women's clothes, then I have gone too far. Hopefully some day I will be comfortable in whatever I like, but its one step at a time.

In the end, like everything else that has to do with these issues, its has to be about being myself and not about forging another counterfeit identity, like I did for 30 years as a male. I don't want to conform to just another gender cliche', trying to please someone else's notion of what female is or looks like. I just want to be me.

And it does help others, too, I think, if you take it slowly. I think the more comfortable YOU are, the more normal YOU feel, the easier it is on everyone else, and conversely, the easier it is on your friends and family, the easier it is on you. Some kind of gradual change, some kind of compromise that gives you freedom and lets everyone else adjust is certainly the best.