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In A Slump Tired Dressing Up, Laser,shaving, Makeup


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Guest Krisina

When I am at work I have to wear the usual work clothes. When I get home often I just wear the same clothes until after supper. I have my usual female clothes, PJs for lounging around the house too. I find after I have had laser on my face I often get into a slump. My face isn't clear and it has that look to it. I don't want the makeup and wig and I don't like going out with my face looking as it is. When it is like that and when I am tired I just don't feel like getting dressed up. It seems like over a week now. My female clothes I like it better than these male clothes I have. I just wish I could get out of the slump and my face would clear up too. It's been 10 days already! I wonder if I hadn't taken a break from shaving for a few days if my face would have cleared up faster too. I guess I am not the only one who gets in a slump about clothes and shaving their face and body too at times. Summer time, work work work, tired coming home wanting to rest and back to work again it seems. It seems like the week goes by too fast too.

Krisina

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Guest sarah f

During the work week it is understandable when you get home to not want to do anything but rest. That is what the weekends are for to dress up and look pretty. It is ok to just kick your shoes off and just lounge for a while after work. Sooner or later the laser will take care of the face for you and you won't have that stubble anymore. It just takes time.

By the way I don't know anyone that enjoys shaving. I hate it personally. That is why I am getting laser pretty much everywhere. Not that I am lazy, I just really don't like shaving or having that shadow of the hair under the skin.

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I have the same problem with work - I am so tired when I get home that I do not change out of my drab clothes unless we are going out but rather than being tired of dressing - I see my slump as being tired of working.

Once I have transitioned at work, the dressing part will not be such an issue but the shaving is still there.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Julie T

Krisina?

Have you tried this? Your casual clothes are women's clothes, but not especially feminine all the time? Some days I just take it easy in a pair of shorts, flip flops and a Teeshirt. Of course my flip flops are jeweled, and my shirt has a sassy saying on it, like "Just put on your big girl panties and deal with it." It takes all the pressure off and you are just your true self all the time at home.

Julie

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Krisina, in my experience when living in the female world your reaction is just normal. Few natal women find the energy at the end of a work day to do more than get comfortable.

Life wears us down, We sometimes need a break, I did find that my friends sometimes had long dresses-not robes but light cotton floor length dresses usually from India-that they changed into as soon as they got home. they were cool and comfortable. Still feminine without and need for effort. Ebay has tons of them-they are usually batik and come in every conceivable shape and style. Just an idea .

I am sorry that your face is causing you distress. I'm not familiar with laser so don't really have any suggestions, You sound like you have the summer doldrums I usually get about this time. As much as I love swimming and all that summer offers eventually the heat and sun and all just get me down.

Hope you find new energy and pleasure soon

Hugs

Johnny

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I'm presently in a dry period, Krisina. That's just a part of life. I look at it as a time to assess, recharge, see where we are, and what positive changes we can make. These periods don't last forever.

Gennee

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Guest Krisina

Long days at work, not eating enough food feeling tired, getting home just feeling lazy in the summer weather even though I'm not in the area where it's having the heat dome. I'm not terribly dysphoric about the beard shadow clearing up after laser but I just want it over with so it's one less thing to deal with. I don't feel too feminine without my wig on, the breast forms and just kind of look blah to myself in the mirror but yes wearing some casual girl shorts and shirt would be a good idea maybe drink a glass of Coca-Cola, or green tea to increase my energy temporarily perhaps? Or maybe even try getting more sleep. I think though the weather is playing a part in all of this.

Krisina

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