Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

In A Slump Tired Dressing Up, Laser,shaving, Makeup


Guest Krisina

Recommended Posts

Guest Krisina

When I am at work I have to wear the usual work clothes. When I get home often I just wear the same clothes until after supper. I have my usual female clothes, PJs for lounging around the house too. I find after I have had laser on my face I often get into a slump. My face isn't clear and it has that look to it. I don't want the makeup and wig and I don't like going out with my face looking as it is. When it is like that and when I am tired I just don't feel like getting dressed up. It seems like over a week now. My female clothes I like it better than these male clothes I have. I just wish I could get out of the slump and my face would clear up too. It's been 10 days already! I wonder if I hadn't taken a break from shaving for a few days if my face would have cleared up faster too. I guess I am not the only one who gets in a slump about clothes and shaving their face and body too at times. Summer time, work work work, tired coming home wanting to rest and back to work again it seems. It seems like the week goes by too fast too.

Krisina

Link to comment
Guest sarah f

During the work week it is understandable when you get home to not want to do anything but rest. That is what the weekends are for to dress up and look pretty. It is ok to just kick your shoes off and just lounge for a while after work. Sooner or later the laser will take care of the face for you and you won't have that stubble anymore. It just takes time.

By the way I don't know anyone that enjoys shaving. I hate it personally. That is why I am getting laser pretty much everywhere. Not that I am lazy, I just really don't like shaving or having that shadow of the hair under the skin.

Link to comment

I have the same problem with work - I am so tired when I get home that I do not change out of my drab clothes unless we are going out but rather than being tired of dressing - I see my slump as being tired of working.

Once I have transitioned at work, the dressing part will not be such an issue but the shaving is still there.

Love ya,

Sally

Link to comment
Guest Julie T

Krisina?

Have you tried this? Your casual clothes are women's clothes, but not especially feminine all the time? Some days I just take it easy in a pair of shorts, flip flops and a Teeshirt. Of course my flip flops are jeweled, and my shirt has a sassy saying on it, like "Just put on your big girl panties and deal with it." It takes all the pressure off and you are just your true self all the time at home.

Julie

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Krisina, in my experience when living in the female world your reaction is just normal. Few natal women find the energy at the end of a work day to do more than get comfortable.

Life wears us down, We sometimes need a break, I did find that my friends sometimes had long dresses-not robes but light cotton floor length dresses usually from India-that they changed into as soon as they got home. they were cool and comfortable. Still feminine without and need for effort. Ebay has tons of them-they are usually batik and come in every conceivable shape and style. Just an idea .

I am sorry that your face is causing you distress. I'm not familiar with laser so don't really have any suggestions, You sound like you have the summer doldrums I usually get about this time. As much as I love swimming and all that summer offers eventually the heat and sun and all just get me down.

Hope you find new energy and pleasure soon

Hugs

Johnny

Link to comment

I'm presently in a dry period, Krisina. That's just a part of life. I look at it as a time to assess, recharge, see where we are, and what positive changes we can make. These periods don't last forever.

Gennee

:)

Link to comment
Guest Krisina

Long days at work, not eating enough food feeling tired, getting home just feeling lazy in the summer weather even though I'm not in the area where it's having the heat dome. I'm not terribly dysphoric about the beard shadow clearing up after laser but I just want it over with so it's one less thing to deal with. I don't feel too feminine without my wig on, the breast forms and just kind of look blah to myself in the mirror but yes wearing some casual girl shorts and shirt would be a good idea maybe drink a glass of Coca-Cola, or green tea to increase my energy temporarily perhaps? Or maybe even try getting more sleep. I think though the weather is playing a part in all of this.

Krisina

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   9 Members, 0 Anonymous, 174 Guests (See full list)

    • MAN8791
    • MaybeRob
    • Ashley0616
    • Mmindy
    • MaeBe
    • Abigail Genevieve
    • MaryEllen
    • KathyLauren
    • VickySGV
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.8k
    • Total Posts
      769.9k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,083
    • Most Online
      8,356

    Newest Member
    Amberoni
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Alex2022
      Alex2022
      (20 years old)
    2. cvincent
      cvincent
      (69 years old)
    3. Demorriana
      Demorriana
      (25 years old)
    4. forbiddenforest
      forbiddenforest
      (26 years old)
    5. LoganXB
      LoganXB
  • Posts

    • Mmindy
      Good for the other participant. What's involved in a reprimand? At our age, what are they going to do? Withhold snacks...   @BirdieI'm sorry you have to put up with such discrimination's. I'm proud that you're standing up for yourself.    Hugs,   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • MaeBe
      You’re so nice! Thank you. ☺️
    • Ashley0616
      I love that picture!
    • Vidanjali
      Associating LGBTQIA+ with pedophilia or "grooming" is a conspiracy theory as old as the study of psychiatry (mid-19th century) when early "scientists" theorized that homosexuality was caused by childhood trauma of having been molested by older men. Some of us have moved on and become educated since those days, but conspiracy theories have an uncanny staying power...the "power" of ignorance, including the titillation of scandal. There is some psychology about people being attracted to outrage and fear. Life is naturally dynamic and uncertain. Unless you have developed a transcendent mastermind, most people have some level of discomfort with that. Therefore, it is weirdly comforting to target a particular thing as a threat and to make a big fuss about it, whether or not it has any credence. And it is comforting to be one among a mass who are equally outraged about a thing, whether or not the thing is real. It is also boosts the ego to speak with vehement "authority" about a thing that is a known trigger for the masses. Like Vicky said, Dunning-Kruger Effect.   However prominent a movement there is or not of pedophiles claiming that their perversion is a sexuality (I have heard of that, but never as it being a major influence), it is the case that much of the viral spread of disinformation associating LBGTQIA+ with pedophilia is due to online trolls. Surely, there are loads of 'em. But here's just one reported story. https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/tech-news/posing-gay-men-twitter-troll-goes-viral-attempts-falsely-tie-n954721  
    • Birdie
      Another interesting day at the day-centre....   Another participant called me "sweet cheeks" and we both got reprimanded for inappropriate behavior. 🙄
    • Amberoni
      She stood at the world's edge, awaiting judgment Isolation judged to be an insufficient burden The skies above required a hand, precisely two To keep the heavens high and keep the vaulted sky from crushing you She bent her knee and gritted teeth, awaiting weight Mentally preparing mind and body for the grimmest fate. Her head was bent, the firmament so hard to hold, Her back against the wall and braced against a fall And all that matters is she never ever drop it There she stands.  If they weren't full, her head would be in her hands. Heroes they came, from far and from wide to gawk at the girl who held up the sky.
    • Jet McCartney
      This is a lovely look for you!
    • VickySGV
      Lets get this topic back on track folks.  Please spell out your acronyms for your specific meaning of the letter combinations and then re-read your own typing before hitting the send button.  We are here to be supporting each other and not stomping on someone's last nerve.  In the past we have used our DWF (Dirty Word Filter) to interpret certain acronyms and then the members were begging us to delete the posts for them one or two leaving with injured feelings.  Community Rules 7 (about posts being in clear English and Rule 8 (being suitable for people under 18) can come into play here. Thank you.
    • Abigail Genevieve
      I could be described, I suppose, as a RWNJ.   A little stereotyping seems to be going on.  Don't complain about Trans stereotypes if you turn around and stereotype others.  A lot of RWNJs are actually decent people and get called that by people who pick up on one or two alleged beliefs.  I would rather single out influential individuals of whatever camp and call them to correction.   Trans folk are a small minority, even as small minorities go.  There are probably a lot more RWNJs running around than there are trans folk.
    • Ivy
    • Ivy
      They cut a lot of trees here as well.  A lot of them toward the coast end up chipped up and sent to Europe to burn in power plants.  That bothers me, seems like a dumb idea.
    • Ivy
      Most likely.   Unfortunately this was expected.  I expect it will be the norm in any GOP controlled state that hasn't already done it.  So much effort expended against so few.  I certainly haven't seen my area being overrun by trans kids.   And yeah, I fully expect them to go after my HRT next. I think those that are railing against us are much more dangerous than some non-binary high school sophomore.
    • April Marie
      Her name is Sunny and she is so much fun. But, as you said @KymmieL, it is a challenge with a new puppy. Thankfully our 13 year old Lab is taking the addition in stride and being supremely tolerant.  
    • Ivy
      It should be the league's business whether it allows trans women to play, not the park's.   (They seem to be inclusive - good on them)
    • Mirrabooka
      Sticking my neck out here, but that's what I see the RWNJ's doing all the time! They always need someone or something to "fight". Everything is a contest to them; there's always a battle to be had, an opponent to defeat, a dragon to slay, then another, and another.    *Sigh* if only they'd put their energy into working with people instead of against them.
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...