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Another Arbitrary Date Has Arrived


Sally

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Well here I am again looking at that date circled on my calendar - what will happen to cause another delay - nothing because it already has.

I have been trying to come out at work so that I can be myself all of the time and each time I have picked a date something has happened - two of the assistant managers that work directly with me have left - at different times - making me move the date each time, my father died and that date slipped by unnoticed, now I am ready - August first.

What could go wrong and actually already did - my manager is leaving for another company - this time instead of just pushing it off again I have decided to use this as a chance for a fresh start instead of a delay - the new manager may be someone that I have never even met and this would be a chance for a totally new beginning and if it is someone I know, I can help them adjust to their new position while they adjust to the 'new' me.

So either on Monday or Tuesday (depending on her schedule) I will meet with our HR director and make my simple request for a new name tag - "This one is horribly misspelled - I spell it S-A-L-L-Y."

It is about time and besides that makes August a huge month - in this month I have my 3 year anniversary here, my 2 year anniversary on HRT and my 1 year anniversary at my job here in New Orleans - I might get my name change done this month so I can put a tight little cluster of important dates on my calendar.

I am looking forward to this with a good deal of nervousness but no self doubts - just worried a bit about a couple of the other employees - it should go well my company rates a 100 on diversity policies.

I will get a time table for how they want to handle this because they are responsible for the training of the other employees in the anti-harassment policies.

Love ya,

Sally

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Best of luck Sally !! Admire your stick to it'ness, life if full of twists and turns for sure.

Luv ya

C -

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I understand how much stress that is building inside you. Know that once you come out at work there will be a big sigh of relief.

Ironically Aug 2 is a day I set in the calendar too. It is the day I'm going full-time away from work.

I know that this is going to work out since your company is transgender friendly.

Jenny

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Sally love-your beautiful smile and sweet heart will win them all over!

As scary as this is for you it will be the final step to your real freedom and what a difference that will make!

You have my thoughts and prayers and love with you tomorrow!

Love you

Johnny

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Guest Lacey Lynne

Sally:

Hey, a pun is DEFINITELY intended here, but it seems like life is granting you "poetic justice" in the sense that many very good things are coming your way simultaneously (moreorless) after you've endured so much disappointment.

You GO, Girl !

You're a beautiful soul and much respected and beloved by the entire crew here at The Playground.

Peace :welldone: Lacey

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I got palpitations just reading that. I'm so ready and yet no where near ready.

I would wish you luck, but that would imply that you need it, oh what the heck, good luck.

Envy

Nova

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Guest Julie T

Hi Sally,

I hope your day went well.

Mine fell face-down when the HR person was on vacation. What's another week?

All dressed up and nowhere to go...

Love, Kat

Oh Kat, that is such bad luck. I am so sorry that happened.

Julie.

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Guest Donna Jean

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AWwww, POOP!

Well, Sally is about to head in shortly....lets hope that her HR person isn't on vacation with your HR person!

Huggs

Dee Jay

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Kat-I'm sorry, What a disappointment. I guess we get used to waiting but still............... I hope the time speeds by for you.

Sally - I'm here with a prayer, good wishes and loving thoughts. You know sweetheart, you are always talking about not having courage but like the cowardly lion, in truth you have it in unrecognized abundance,

Love you both

Johnny

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I am so sorry to hear that Kat.

Still it is only one week - unless she gets a longer vacation or is actually taking a sabbatical - I hope not!

I won't know for sure if mine is there until I go in around 2, I am scheduled to work starting at 3.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Donna Jean

So, Sally, it's now evening in New Orleans. Any news???

Love, Kat

I got a call from Sally who is at work......

But, it's not my place to tell....

So....you'll have to wait until Sally gets home which is about 2 hours from now....

Dee Jay

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Guest Julie T

All here

Sally did call. But it's her place to post anything. She gets off work at 9 PM and gets home about 20 minutes later. it's 7:53 here now

Julie

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Well, I am home now and I guess you want to know how things went - my HR Director was in - she is also a remarkable lady.

I am her first transgendered employee transitioning on the job - she is going on leave at the end of the month so she wants to have everything done before that - she does not want to hand it over to someone else - she wants to do it and get it right!

My store manager returns from vacation on Friday, she will talk to him then and they will start the meetings with the other managerial staff and the employees that work with me and by the end of next week ---- will disappear and it is Sally FOREVER!

LOVE YA,

Sally

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Dear, Sweet Sally. I am sorry I'm late to this thread, but it appears I arrived at just the right time.

CONGRATULATIONS!!

I know the congrats should really come on your first day of workplace transition, but in a way, telling HR and the bosses is a really hard thing to do, and a major accomplishment.

I know without a doubt that this is the right thing to do, at the right time, and its going to go just fine. You are an excellent employee, I think you're well liked and respected, and you have the support of HR. Its going to be a long couple of weeks just waiting, but it will be worth it.

I'm smiling ear to ear right now, girl. I'm so very proud of you. You ROCK!

Love

Carolyn Marie

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Congrats! , you made my day :welldone: and btw it has always been Sally only they did not realize it.

Paula

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Guest John Chiv

Sally,

I signed on finally yesterday and saw this thread, waited for you to get home, so I could be the first one to officially say Congrats! Well, after Dee Jay and Julie but anyway I digress.

Alas, I fell asleep! Yes, I was that exhausted.

So now I am awake and you have to imagine me running around yelling WTG Sally. I don't care if it is odd; I am happy for you. And I knew it would be positive even before your official update.

Hugs and Love ya,

John

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Sally-how can I express how happy I am for you? Words just can't quite capture this warm lovely feeling.

I knew that it would be this way because you are a sweet wonderful woman who is always wise as well but I understand how difficult it was. I hope one day you can see the beautiful qualities in yourself, including your amazing courage, that I do. That we all do.

It warms my heart to picture your happiness and the extra peace that will come with being Sally all day, every day.

Love you!

Johnny

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Just to give you all another update - things have been pretty crazy at work - my manager came home from vacation to a store inventory - an new manager over my department and a new branch manager over him - we talked yesterday and he said that we would have a meeting this coming week with me, the HR lady and him to set the game plan in motion - he knows what is required of him and next week his new boss will be in Dallas so he said that it would be the perfect time.

He does not seem to feel that there will be any problems.

Feeling pretty good at the moment - I'll let you know what happens next.

Love ya,

Sally

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Hi Sally,

You're rolling now! I'm so glad it's finally happening for you - it's been a long struggle to get here, and soon it will be behind you.

I hope the rest of this goes quickly and painlessly!

Love, Megan

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