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Guest Nikki A

I have been struggling with this for a while now. I am scheduled for bottom surgery for june 19 2012. I am also below the minimum weight to get the surgery. I'm scared to eat more than my 300 calories a day. but if I don't gain weight, then I lose my dream of surgery <.< I'm lost and I can not handle this on my own at all. It has me crying every night.

hugs, NIkki

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Guest Jaded1

I do not know you, nor your situation but when I read 300 calories, my alarm bells went off. Have you talked to a doctor/nutritionist? If not, you really should. 300 calories is WOEFULLY low for any grown adult and although I know you are trying to watch your figure but at that level your body is in starvation mode and will start to consume itself. Not only that but when going into any surgery you want to be in top shape and at that level you are severely impacting your bodies defenses to fight off infection.

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Guest Donna Jean

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I totally agree with Jaded!

You're wasting away and 300 is not enough for maintenance!

You need to talk to your therapist/doctor about this....

Surgery or not....you're wasting away!

Donna Jean

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Guest Nikki A

I can't eat more or my stress skyrockets. I've heard all the bad things my eating does, but the stress of eating more is too much for me

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Guest Jaded1

Do you have a therapist that you visit regularly? Have you spoken to any medical professionals about this? I am nowhere near an expert on the topic and won't pretend to be but I know enough to know that in your situation something has got to give, either some way of you dealing with/managing the stress of eating a balanced and healthy diet or your body giving up the fight and then we have little to nothing to talk about as you won't be here anymore. Sorry for being so blunt but sometimes bluntness is a necessary evil.

I know a girl is not supposed to be asked such things but what are your stats? Age? Height? Weight? Also, where are you getting these calories from? Counting calories is great but is meaningless unless you know where those calories are from. 300 calories can be two cans of coke or can be two spring green salads with tomatoes, chicken and light dressing. I don't think I have to point out which has the proper nutritional value.

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Guest Nikki A

I'm 19, I am 5'7" and I weigh 118.33 lbs as of five mins ago I almost only eat greens. I can't do anything greasy or with meat in it. I am seeing a therapist and I brought it up but she was not concerned

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Guest Aly Kat

I'm 19, I am 5'7" and I weigh 118.33 lbs as of five mins ago I almost only eat greens. I can't do anything greasy or with meat in it. I am seeing a therapist and I brought it up but she was not concerned

I'd bring it up again or find an additional therapist.. maybe one specializing in eating disorders? Being scared of eating is not healthy :( and now it's interfering with your transition. And at only 300 calories a day, your health might take a turn for the worse before you even make it to next June.

Good luck & congrats on posting here. It's a good first step on the road to recovery!

Alison

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Guest sarah f

I'm 19, I am 5'7" and I weigh 118.33 lbs as of five mins ago I almost only eat greens. I can't do anything greasy or with meat in it. I am seeing a therapist and I brought it up but she was not concerned

Nikki I was not denied my surgery because of weight and I am not that much bigger than you are. I am 5'11" and weigh 128 lbs. Don't worry about that for your surgery. I am worried though about how much you are eating. I know you know it is bad for you and we can't force you to eat but know that the weight might not keep you from surgery but being sick from not eating will. You have to do blood tests and eating the way you do can't be good. There are ways to eat more food without all the calories if that is all you are afraid of. You need to have enough food to sustain your body. Don't let this keep you from your dreams.

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