Timing Of Rlt And Hrt

[Guest Nelly]

Hello,

I read a lot about RLT and HRT but I am a bit confused about the timing of both. It look like that the timing is different in different countries. I found different information. Some get HRT before RLT others get it after RLT and others durring RLT. So what is true?

My opinion about it. On one hand, without HRT it is hard to make the RLT. As a lot of people discribe, HRT let you act more like a woman. For me e.g. I do not like hughs or talk a lot. That make it difficult to hugh everbody and talk a lot like woman do. On the other hand, HRT will have a permanent effect to the body and the RLT should show mainly for oneself that the feelings are true.

I think for myself, I could make the RLT more easy with HRT than without.

So what is the timing?

Greetings

Nelly

[Guest raydub]

I think this timing mainly depends on what is decided when you speak with your therapist. If the two of you decide that it is necessary and/or better for hrt to be during rlt then .. there's your timing.

i hope this helps.

Ray

[Guest angie]

I read a lot about RLT and HRT but I am a bit confused about the timing of both.My opinion about it. Body and the RLT should show mainly for oneself that the feelings are true.

I think for myself, I could make the RLT more easy with HRT than without.

So what is the timing?

Nelly

Real Life Test,is up to each individual man and woman.

It is when you just can't stand being the person you were before any longer.

It becomes a lie to try to present as(that)person.And so each of us makes that giant leap of faith,

and chooses to life our life honestly.Come what ever may,no matter the obstacle,we persevere,

with boundless determination.Yes,it is much easier to enter RLT/RLE once we/you,are well into transition.As you start to take on the attributes of your target gender,you can slide by unnoticed.

I went fulltime at six months into transition.My need to be true to who I am was way stronger,

than my urge to stay(him).It hasn't been easy at times.But I am one tough woman for the experiences I have had in the last eighteen months.And am a much more rounded and confident lady,having lived life as woman all this time.

Angie

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Again Angie nails it!

I am at that point (4 1/2 months on HRT) I want to start living full time. Right now I need to find a job and it is a difficult thing as I wold prefer to apply as Elizabeth so I won't have to go throught this notification thing again with a new employer, but in my field it would be very hard to do it that way. I may have to find an at home position or hang up my shingle and hope for the best.

I chose HRT as the first step. When you feminize to a certain point it seems more likely you will suceed in full time. I am full time at home, but that doesn't count. Living at home does help you fine tune your dressing and grooming skills. I had planed to finally go full time at work in June or July, but now that is on hold.

I hope this helps answer your questions.

Lizzy

[Guest JoanDS]

I've been living part-time (I now present female everywhere except work and my mother's house) for almost 2 months now, and I am about to start HRT next week.

I plan on changing jobs in the next couple of months, at which point I think I will move to full-time completely. My biggest obstacle to moving to full-time now is my facial-hair, which I am actively taking care of.

For me, I can't take the double-life anymore, and my male-life is driving me nuts, and the HRT is just part of the transition.

-Joan

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[Guest angie]

I chose HRT as the first step. When you feminize to a certain point it seems more likely you will suceed in full time. I am full time at home, but that doesn't count. Living at home does help you fine tune your dressing and grooming skills. I had planed to finally go full time at work in June or July, but now that is on hold.

Lizzy

Lizzy,

When your time is right,you will slide right into your real life very smoothly,for you are ready.

Big Hugs,

Angie

[Guest Little Sara]

Really depends on you, but I recommend starting HRT a lot sooner than RLT. Personally I started RLT 2 weeks before hormones, but this wasn't a therapist decision or anything like that. I decided, on my own, to do it. I couldn't live the way I was.

I didn't pass much at first, but once I grew breasts I was fine.

[Guest Evan_J]

Liz, girly-woman, is that pic you? You can RLT whenever you'd like, as Billy Crystal once said: "you look marvelous."

[Guest angie]

I didn't pass much at first, but once I grew breasts I was fine.

Lordy babygirl do I know the feeling.

I do think that starting my life experience so early in transition helped me find my

natural feminine groove easier.By having no choice but to present female,having

absolutely not one stitch of male clothing,I had to face the world daily,no matter

the circumstance.It was only a dream I would be so comfortable in the female so soon.

Angie

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

As a lot of people describe, HRT let you act more like a woman. For me e.g. I do not like hughs or talk a lot. That make it difficult to hugh everbody and talk a lot like woman do. On the other hand, HRT will have a permanent effect to the body and the RLT should show mainly for oneself that the feelings are true.

I have to play devil's advocate here. HRT doesn't allow you to act more like a woman. HRT takes care of physical and chemical changes to the body, the psychological changes are through your therapy sessions and personal reflection/realization. You may feel compelled to act more like a woman once you've started HRT but it's not the estrogen causing that, it's you allowing your true self to finally surface.

Oh and I don't know many women who hug a lot, so don't feel obligated to act that way if you're not comfortable with it. It's all about your personal comfort zone.

and the talking...well, that just comes with time as women typically are more communicative and talk and share, etc. with others. It's how we bond. As you progress into your RLT and become immersed in female life, you'll catch on and it will all come naturally.

The best part is when you're with other women who don't know your past (or do and don't care because to them you're a woman) you become privy to all kinds of women-only conversations that you had no idea existed when you were living as a male. Like I walked in, and was asked to join, on a conversation about crotchless panties one day in a break room. Now if it was a guy walking in instead of me, they would have totally changed the subject to something else.

[Guest Angelgrlsue]

I have not transitioned full time yet, infact I'm just part time at home. To live full time as a woman I would go on HRT first before the RLT. With my age and the poisoning testesterone has done on my face I definately would go on HRT for awhile before even attempting a RLT.

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

I've been living part-time (I now present female everywhere except work and my mother's house) for almost 2 months now, and I am about to start HRT next week.

I plan on changing jobs in the next couple of months, at which point I think I will move to full-time completely. My biggest obstacle to moving to full-time now is my facial-hair, which I am actively taking care of.

For me, I can't take the double-life anymore, and my male-life is driving me nuts, and the HRT is just part of the transition.

-Joan

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Boy do I hear you on the double life, ive not even started my HRT (hopefully friday) and I am going bonkers doing the double. Will have to continue with it untill early July when I can get my carry letter since my shrink decided to take most of june for vacation .