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Guest My_Genesis

Well how do I start?...I've noticed a few recent threads about sex drive and T and all that, and since we all ended up talking about "taking care of business" at some point in most of these threads, I have this burning question in my mind, although I don't really know how to word it..lol...ok basically i'm trying to wrap my head around the concept of how i could possibly not have any trace of male anatomy in my body, if, when I..um.."take care of business", it's always in the way a male would do it, never a female..and this is going to sound even weirder, but it's been that way since I was around 3 years old (yes i was that young :huh:)

but not to get too detailed..actually, to avoid detail as much as possible...i'm talking about it terms of the way it's done, especially positioning and everything :blush: but yeah..just wonderng if this is something common or if it's unusual and may indicate something physical in addition to mental male characteristics..thanks if you actually read through this with a straight face lol

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Guest Sergei

lol, I know exactly what you mean. Yes I do it 99% of the time the male way. That's because we are men. To do it the other way feels un-natural. The only reason I ever even tried it the other way is out of curiosity.

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Guest raydub

i actually DID get through your post with a straight face. :)

Ive gotta pretty much go with Sergei on this one. As far as position is concerned.. for most of my life Ive handled my business as a male would. yes of course ive tried it the other way.. mostly out of curiosity..but also cause of er uuh.. well...ok..think of it as me aiming for my female-bodied prostate. i could never really get it myself but someone else has before. which is what made me think to try. aww geez.. this is way too much information about me...sigh... the things I do/say to help other people.

anyway..something else id noticed over the years is that when i tried it the other way i never really got any...results. i HAD to do it the male way to ... enjoy myself. this probably has a lot to do with me identifying AS a guy.. why not do it the RIGHT way?!

:blush:

Ray

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Guest jantonio

Yeah, I do it the same way males do. Well, it is who I am and it comes natural to me. :D:rolleyes:

I read through your thread but I couldn't help laughing. :lol:

Jose Antonio...

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Guest JayJaye

Yep, the way guys do, and now with packys and such it's so much easier! Though in the past dildos worked also as an extension of myself. Even as a kid. I too tried the girly way but really could not make it work. I used to think I was just weird. At least my waste-of-money ugly-as-sin Lola-Jake got some action yesterday.

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Guest Jack Solomon

Yeah, I always do it in a male way, I long ago found a system that is typically male in position. I agree that the only reason I ever tried the female way was curiosity but its uncomfortable and its not enjoyable (also the direct reminder is a real turn-off). The results are also poorer! Not worth the effort or discomfort.

Solomon

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Guest My_Genesis
i actually DID get through your post with a straight face. :)

Ive gotta pretty much go with Sergei on this one. As far as position is concerned.. for most of my life Ive handled my business as a male would. yes of course ive tried it the other way.. mostly out of curiosity..but also cause of er uuh.. well...ok..think of it as me aiming for my female-bodied prostate. i could never really get it myself but someone else has before. which is what made me think to try. aww geez.. this is way too much information about me...sigh... the things I do/say to help other people.

anyway..something else id noticed over the years is that when i tried it the other way i never really got any...results. i HAD to do it the male way to ... enjoy myself. this probably has a lot to do with me identifying AS a guy.. why not do it the RIGHT way?!

:blush:

Ray

lol dont worry i also feel like i shared way too much information :rolleyes:

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biologically it makes sense. um...how do i say this....you already got what you need in a way :blush: so it would make sense to um..get better results that way. i dont really "take care of buisness" unless to just to remove libedo from my body, so i feel less like a guy. wierd, i know, but it doesnt exactly, you know, feel good :blush: but it gets rid of the drive, :lol: i cant explain it anymore without laughing, but it sounds like it makes sense. i never even thought about it like that before, thats kind of interesting.

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Guest StrandedOutThere

I didn't realize at first that I was doing it "the male way". Weird.

Guys, I am such a naughty "looker" pre-T, I wonder what will happen with me. I walk around in sunglasses just so people can't see where the eyes drift. Girls are just....so....pretty. Me like.

Yeah...I think I might be the one that girls' mothers warn them about. ;)

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huh... I never considered the idea that it would work any other way... I just figured the whole female part of the anatomy was basically for conception purposes only.

MK

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Guest My_Genesis

lol well obviously when i was 3 i didnt realize it :P

lol sunglasses? It's not that bad for me..or maybe it is and I'm just not paying attention..

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Guest raydub
Guys, I am such a naughty "looker" pre-T, I wonder what will happen with me. I walk around in sunglasses just so people can't see where the eyes drift. Girls are just....so....pretty. Me like.

Yeah...I think I might be the one that girls' mothers warn them about. ;)

I cant WAIT to hang out.. its going to be a FUN-filled weekend. There's plenty to look at in the A.. especially with it being hot out. We'll have to make an impromptu trip to buckhead. ;)

STOKED!

Ray

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Guest StrandedOutThere
I cant WAIT to hang out.. its going to be a FUN-filled weekend. There's plenty to look at in the A.. especially with it being hot out. We'll have to make an impromptu trip to buckhead. ;)

STOKED!

Ray

Oh yeah! Sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet!!!!!!!!

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Guest JayJaye
SO confused.

What's the male way if we have no penises?

Um, being on top of something (like a pillow) and humping it...

Or wanking a dildo as if it's yours...

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Guest JulianCarsen

i was wondering what the male way was too.

thats how ive always done it...since i was like... really little.

nothng else worked so.

haha glad thats figured out.

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SO confused.

What's the male way if we have no penises?

well technicly you do :blush: clitorus literally means "little penius". its made from the same thing as the head of the penus. this is why it is so sensitive. i didnt mean it as in thats the guy way, cause it works for any woman, but i just wanted to point out that women have a penius. its just not developed.

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Guest Sara N

I found this topic quite interesting.

Umm...how do I say this. <_< I do it in the "female way". The thought of doing it in the "male way" makes me squirm. Like skyy mentioned, a lot of times it feels like I’m releasing energy just for the sake of releasing it. Also I despise dealing with the "mess" afterwards. The greater the mess, the more I feel worse :(

But if the mess is minimal, I feel somewhat satisfied :)

Imagination can go a long way.

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Guest Sara N
i always did it the male way without giving it a thought. it just never worked the female way...i could never get any results :blush:

I know what you mean. I just naturally started doing it the female way. When I learned what the male way was, Ugg..It just seems so unnatural to me that I dread to even try it. I can't say I'm happy with the results I get considering how my body reacts, but it works.

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Guest Jackson

This topic is pretty interesting.

I never thought of it before, but I do it the male way too.

It would be interesting to see if everyone's preferred way trends the way it's going.

I made it through without smiling and laughing too, but then I'm too serious sometimes anyway.

Again, just my two cents (give or take inflation)

Jackson

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I'm a little confused by this...

bioguys don't usually self gratification by humping a pillow :/

so when you're saying the guy way, you just mean in such a way that you don't penetrate or really make direct contact with your hands to your sex organs?

I can't get off at ALL touching myself...since I was super little I'd hump pillows and stuff. I stopped a few years ago because it just seemed weird. :/

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Guest My_Genesis
i always did it the male way without giving it a thought. it just never worked the female way...i could never get any results :blush:

well for me it's been the male way since i was like 3 years old..when i started..lol..ive never tried the female way and i probably never will..it just kinda seems disgusting and wrong for me to do it that way :huh:

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Guest JayJaye
I'm a little confused by this...

bioguys don't usually self gratification by humping a pillow :/

so when you're saying the guy way, you just mean in such a way that you don't penetrate or really make direct contact with your hands to your sex organs?

I can't get off at ALL touching myself...since I was super little I'd hump pillows and stuff. I stopped a few years ago because it just seemed weird. :/

Some do. ;)

No, it's not so much the humping but imagining you're on top actually penetrating a girl as you do it.

Jay

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