Awkward/embarassing Question...

[Flint]

It does really bug me though..especially in this..umm..specific situation..the whole phantom-limb thing..the best way I can describe it is it feel like having an internal penis

I sometimes feel a pain.....down there....randomly...Not when i'm doing anything I mean just sitting tehre...And suddenly i'll feel a pain as if i've been kicked in the testicles.........

[Guest Darrel]

I always did it the guy way too. XD In roleplays, I'd tackle a friend down and we'd take care of business! We were young so we were able to use the innocent card a lot. (We really knew what we were up to though, I won't lie XD!)

I always preferred the whole humping action, or only touching the top part. It's almost like a penis, isn't it? A small one? Poor little guy never finished developing, that's all! But I get no pleasure at all from anything below it. I tried half a pinky once because I desired to be 'straight' for my boyfriend, and it hurt so bad I cried. Never again. Obviously nothing is suppose to go there, so I'll leave it alone until it's sewn up and becomes my new sacks. XD!

But don't feel bad. I think most of us prefer to do it like other men.

[Guest Kristian]

Wow. I never knew that people with v-aginas (desired or not) did it any other way. I, too, do it like pretty much everyone else in this thread has mentioned. I've never even tried penetration. I guess it never crossed my mind, but I don't plan on trying now, since I doubt it'd go well. I still can't manage to get in tampons, and when my mom took me to the OBGYN, it was a disaster. He had to keep using smaller and smaller tools, and even with the minimum, it hurt like a mo-fo. I mean, I knew logically that there was an opening down there, but I guess I just didn't -know- it until that moment. Kinda messed up, but I dunno. I'm dense.

Anyway, about the fact that so many of us started young (I did, too, since I was at least 3, probably younger): it kind of makes sense in terms of human sexual development. In reality, most kids do explore at a very young age. When working with young children, I am specifically instructed to just let them be when those sorts of things happen. Of course, they don't know what's going on, but it's a natural part of coming to understand the human body. The difference is, most kids eventually figure out what's going on down there, are satisfied, and stop for a period of about 8-10 years, not remembering it at all later. Of course, during puberty, they come back to it, but it's for a different purpose, and in their recollection, it seems like the first time.

My theory that I've had for myself for a quite a while is that I remember because I just didn't stop. Why? I never did quite figure out what was going on down there, and since the exploration didn't really come to any conclusions like they were supposed to, I just kinda kept 'trying to figure it out' all they way until I hit puberty and beyond. Even when I learned what sex was and how it worked, I didn't put two-and-two together until years after. I had heard about m-asturbation, but I didn't understand that's what I was doing. I understood, rationally, how both things worked and where the body parts were, but it just never sank in because the way the books said it was supposed to work and the way it worked in my head just never lined up.

[Guest Eron]

This topic confuses the crap out of me.

[Guest My_Genesis]

yeah that's pretty much how it was for me too..although once I finally figured out what I was doing, I stopped for awhile..but that became difficult.

[Guest Kelly92]

I still don't understand what you mean by the "male way" lol. I've always found it hard to 'get off' on sex, which was especially troublesome with my ex (i'm ftm, but no t, or surgery or anything, and my ex is a lesbian). When she touched me it just had no effect whatsoever. I always thought I was weird or had no drive or something, but apperently not (so good, I guess?). I'm pretty new to this, and until recently considered myself a lesbian. Basically, I wanna know how I can do it like a dude when I don't have the parts. Anyone able to help?

[Guest leo]

Jut reading this and I used to hump pillows 2! Glad its normal. My penis was nearly an inch pre T so I could self gratification in a masculine way now I'm 2 months on T and self gratification in a masculine is a lot easier now my penis is bigger

[Guest Jesse0319]

Heh, I've always done it "the male way". Never thought of it like that, though. I tried it the "girl way" a total of ONCE...all I could think of was, "OMG how is this supposed to feel good?!" It was disGUSting XP

I actually had a conversation with a cisgirl friend recently...she's NEVER "done it" the "male way" before...which, just about every chick I know has tried it and loved it, some more than the girl way, so it shocked me lol

[Guest Call me DEAN]

Now that everyone mentions it, I've always done it the male way too, even before I identified as trans. The idea of putting anything down there was (and is still) plain wrong. Ew. No. Just no. Weirdest part is, I have no problem putting on tampons. It's like: oh, that thing's leaking AGAIN. There's a problem, gotta fix it. Meh. But when it comes to self-gratification, it's always been pillow-humping. It never even crossed my mind that girls might not do it that way before this post. I am, good sirs, officially retarded.

[Flint]

Wow an old thread is back! Cool

Since the age I can remember I've done it the male way. As a kid I did it a bit too much actually.... It wasn't a conscious decision, I just did it that way and that was that. It came as naturally to me as eating when hungry.