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Guest Elena

So I got to chatting on FB with one of my friends who I've known since high school this evening. After chatting for about 10 minutes, I was getting frustrated filtering my responses and said the heck with it. I mean she's a good enough friend that we have stayed in contact for half our lives even living in different states, and I make a point to stop and see her whenever I pass through AZ.

Well when she asked what was news with me, I kinda hedged for a second then told her "well it's not something I am ready to have be general knowledge yet..."

:lol: Got a nail stuck in my keyboard just then and she responded, "It's cool, you don't have to share if you're not ready."

Nail unstuck finally, "lol, it's okay, what would you say if I told you typing with acrylic nails is an interesting change, and that's just the tip of the iceberg?

Her response, "Yeah, I love the clicky sound though don't you?"

ok, this will be a good conversation, I can already tell. so I dove in and said, "well, I am working on being a girl all of the time instead of only once in a while or in the closet as it were, when I can't stand it any more. Well yeah, since I can't stand it anymore pretty much all the time..."

"ohh, that's cool. My niece, who is 12, lives as a boy. bleh, I mean my nephew, he and my son love to hang out and play together." (guessing it's pretty new, but she instanty corrected herself. not something for me to comment on anyway.)

After that we got chatting about all sorts of stuff for about 2 hours, and somehow I got talked into doing her nails for her next time I stop by cuz she always messes them up when she does them herself and her daughter is in the late teen rebelious phase and doesn't want to hang with mom anymore.

Of course now I'm stuck coming out to her SO who I have also known since high school before I visit them next time, not sure he will react as well but he will probably be cool. I know he's open minded about sexuality at the very least. It'll be more the shock factor with him.

Lol, I just know I will be hoarse tomorrow from singing too much, y'know my happy response!

Cheers,

<3

Elena

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Guest Lacey Lynne

Hey, I love it ... just LOVE it!

Stories like this deserve an awesome song, don't they? Well, go to YouTube and search for "Truckin'" by The Grateful Dead. Look for a video of them in the 1960s or 1970s doing that song. Then, crank it UP! They're playin' your song.

Like Kat above, your posts are awesome to read and always make my day. Heck, lot's of people feel this way but probably will not say so. Your longtime friend is on board. How cool is THAT? VERY cool!

Keep on coming out to people as you choose to do so. Think you're gonna be surprised at some of their responses ... in a good way actually.

Peace & Thanks :thumbsup: Lacey Lynne

Rock ON!

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Guest Miss_Construe

Elena,

It really is nice when the friends we really care about care about us too. I get so happy and even tears begin to form when people are accepting like this. It is so wonderful and I am very happy for you.

HUGS

April

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That is just so cool!

It's amazing how often we are accepted by old friends. And now you can share all the girly stuff too.

Hugs

Johnny

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Guest Elena

Y'know, the best part I think is being able to finally shut off the word filters around those lifelong friends who just love us no matter what. I just realized except for my first wife this is the first friend I've known since high school that I've told. It is also such a huge relief to have at least one friend with sooo much history that I know I will always be there.

:giggles: Saying we have a lot of shared history is like the understatement of the century. Seriously, her oldest daughter's dad is married to my best friend's wifes brother, who is married to my 2nd wifes best friend. And I've actually known my best friend's wife and her brother longer than I've known him. Hell, I introduced them to each other. My friends in AZ met each other through our whole group of friends in high school dated off and on back then and ran into each other again about a year and a half ago. Got back together, and now living together. I got calls and messages from both of them saying, "You'll never guess who I caught up with again after all these years." So now he's trying to hide the fact that he's saving up to buy her a ring. :lol: Goddess it's like this crazy small town soap opera, only it's been spread out over 5 states over the years.

All my other friends who know are from when I was in the army, and there's an old military tradition that when soldiers catch up with each other no matter how long or how different our lives are now, you always pick up your friendship right where it left off. That's why the army is called the greatest fraternity in the world. Probably why I was comfortable telling them first for that matter. I got quite a few who thought I was closeted gay actually, and one who really was closeted gay who said he had the hots for me but was scared to approach me. DADT y'know. :lol:

Ok, I think I'm rambling now, but it's happy rambling.

TTFN

<3

Elena

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Guest Donna Jean

Hey, I love it ... just LOVE it!

Stories like this deserve an awesome song, don't they? Well, go to YouTube and search for "Truckin'" by The Grateful Dead. Look for a video of them in the 1960s or 1970s doing that song. Then, crank it UP! They're playin' your song.

Rock ON!

Yup....on my profile page have the quote from that song..

"What a long, strange trip it's been.. "

I've had that there for 3 years now!

And, Elana..

All my other friends who know are from when I was in the army, and there's an old military tradition that when soldiers catch up with each other no matter how long or how different our lives are now, you always pick up your friendship right where it left off. That's why the army is called the greatest fraternity in the world.

I know what you mean....When I see Vietnam vets (with a hat or T-sirt that says that they are) I always go up to them and say the traditional greeting "Welcome home" and ask when they served...

Then I reciprocate...

I've yet to have a bad experience with that....

Congrats on your girlfriend...that is way cool!

Huggs

Dee Jay

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Update on my friends in Phoenix, finally caught up with the other half and shared evrrything with him too.

Yes he was shocked for a couple minutes. Then he started asking lots of intelligent questions about how I plan to deal with different issues (ex's, kids, money, etc.) He made a point of saying I am more than welcome to stay at their place whenever I have down time nearby with no reservations. He jokingly added that M_____ would probably be thrilled to have a girlfriend to go shopping with, since she just moved to phoenix and hasn't made any gfs there yet. Which is really funny because she and I were already talking about that we have to go shopping when I manage to stop by. :lol:

So, yay, very cool!

<3

Elena

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Guest Lacey Lynne

Elena:

Wow, you have such a cool and groovy (very outdated 1960s phrase) life!

Dang, my life isn't even remotely this good. All I can say is:

Rock ON!

Peace & Cheers :thumbsup: Lacey Lynne

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