Post Op Sex

[~Nova~]

My surgery is a long way away but I'm already considering the what Ifs.

I'm married. Well, according to the courts I am. I made a vow and I don't plan on breaking it. My "roomie" is staying with me and for that I could not be more grateful. She has made it clear, she is not a lesbian. I'm grateful to have her in my life and as stated I will always be true.

With the knowledge that I'll probably never be penetrated, I'm questioning if I need the surgery. Is it worth going thru all that knowing I'll never get to, um, use it.

I could get a an orchi and tuck, but I would never get that smooth look or feeling.

Thoughts?

Autumn

[Guest Julie T]

Autumn

You and your wife can research this, I think. Although your SO says she is not a Lesbian, she can still be intimate with you after you have vaginaplasty, and it is not anything other than whatever the two of you decide to do, no labels. I agree, if you want the SRS in only order to have sex by penetration, don't do it. If you have the SRS to be complete, there is the answer. I will never know a man, as my partner is also a TGirl and I love her unconditionally. I vowed to her I would only be with her, forever. But both of us? We both want SRS to be complete. We know there is a lot of possibility there for intimacy afterward? and I think that is all I need to reveal.

Julie

[Guest NatalieRene]

Oh my gosh! Julie is right. Don't have a life changing surgery just to see what it is like to have sex as the other gender. By all means to want to have sex in a way that feels more natural is fine. For me the act of the male role in being intimate has always been so alien that I never pursued it. There is much more to the surgery though then just the act of being intimate and you don't need to have intercourse to express your feelings towards your partner.

I personally cringe each and every time I see the male plumbing on me. Which means every time I go to the bathroom and get changed I am faced with the reality of where I came from and what i went through and most troublesome the knowledge to a intolerant group of people that if they knew I was trans they would think of me as just a guy in woman's cloths. The surgery can't fix the last as nothing cures stupid but it can take care of my being haunted by my genitals several times a day every day.

Don't go through SRS just for a sexual thrill. The thrill will fade and after that when you settle into just being a woman will you miss your penis? Only you can answer that for yourself. Just make sure you are honest with yourself when you answer.

[Guest ~Brenda~]

With the knowledge that I'll probably never be penetrated, I

What knowledge?

Never say never

Love

Brenda

[~Nova~]

The answer isnt sex, it's completeness. The thread "what's it like to look down..." makes me cry every time I read it.

I dont hate my penis. I used to actually like it. Now, not so much.

Thank you ladies. It's all clear.

Autumn.

[Guest kelise]

With the knowledge that I'll probably never be penetrated, I'm questioning if I need the surgery. Is it worth going thru all that knowing I'll never get to, um, use it.

Autumn

Only you can answer this question.

For me sex was never a consideration as to need for SRS. I wanted to be whole. I wanted to not think about the bulge in my pants. I wanted to wear a bikini and not need duct tape. I wanted to look in the mirror after stepping out of the shower and not cringe. Penetrative sex is just a bonus!