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"The Surgery...."


Guest Donna Jean

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Guest Donna Jean

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I fully intend on having the "The Surgery"....

Always have.......

I've jumped through the hoops and have my letter to proceed....

But, I'm 61 and if my health doesn't hold or anything else stops me, I'll still live as "me" and deal with it.

An Orchi is still viable, too, if the full surgery can't be done...

And.... as so many people that have no idea about us seem to think....I don't want the surgery just to have sex with men.....That is not even in the picture for me......

I just want to be as complete as I can be....

How 'bout you, boys and girls?

Do you desire the surgery? Is it in your plans?

Tell me 'bout it....

Donna Jean

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Guest John Chiv

Yes, it is in my plans. Both top and bottom. And it is for me.

As you have already pointed out Dee Jay, finances, health, what we each need personally may differ but what remains constant is that you are a woman and I am a man.

John

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Guest Miss_Construe

Yes, very much so.

Face and bottom. Not for them, but for me. That my metamorphosis may be more what I imagine. So when I look at myself I don't need to use imagination to see the woman inside. That others can see who I really am as well.

... being with a man is just the icing on the cake .... bad visual.

April

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Guest IsabelleStPierre

Greetings,

Yes, ultimately I am planning to have The Surgery. I would have had it long ago had the financial aspect be a barrier I've not been able to get over. The other problem I have is that I have almost 100 know allergies to medications, everything from pain killers, sleeping aids, and antibiotics, so I'm also worried about finding a doctor who's even willing to do The Surgery on me. As for the letters for surgery, I could have them with a phone call, so that aspect of things isn't a problem.

Someday...seems to become my mantra...

Peace, love, and contentment,

Isabelle

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Guest Donna Jean

I'm going to fly in a day before Sarah to check in and steal her spot in line :P

Yes, surgery is definitely on the agenda

Uh oh......

"Spot stealing" is not allowed!

Dee Jay

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Without a doubt, absolutely. When first started transition I was on the fence wether it was necessary. I felt I could be happy just living as a girl. I always dreamt about it, but it wasn't a reality then. Then I read the vagina thread, ( I still cry reading it) and knew I needed the surgery. Not for sex. Not so I can say I've had the surgery, but so some day my body will match my head.

I've accomplished a lot in my short 46 years. The one thing I ever really wanted is finally within sight.

Yes, I need the surgery!

Autumn.

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Guest Evan/Evalyn

yeeeeeeeeeeeeees i wants the surgery cuz it will make me feel better abouts myself

LAWLZ

but i wants hormons first soooooooooo badly

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I would love to have it. Age is an issue like Donna Jean but if I get the chance and can afford it.

At least an Orchi is a must and the sooner the better.

Mia

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Top surgery becomes increasingly necessary but would be about a year out even if I had the finances. I want T to do more fat redistribution and I have more weight to lose and my skin will need time to tighten again (Please God let it tighten at least a little. I don't like looking like a candle left in the sun!)

But the finances.... Aye there's the rub.

Johnny

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Guest Charlene_Leona

I too have to have the surgery, I can't stand looking at myself nude in a mirror.It makes me physically ill to do so.

Take Care

Charlene Leona

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I have had the Surgery in my plans from the beginning an orchi is not in the plans no matter what - I don't think it serves my purpose.

If I never have the surgery then that will be OK too - whether from finances, age, health or weight I will be me I let Sally take control a while back and that will never change.

Love ya,

Sally

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Really on the fence about this, now. Before HRT, SRS was all I wanted. Now, much of that gross male quality has gone away.

But, I'd really love to have my panties fit right.

Vaginoplasty seems like a waste of resources, however. It is definately not about the sex!

Love, Meg

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Guest Lacey Lynne

I have no plans for surgery.

Ditto that here.

Looks like I'm on The Drea Train too with respect to SRS/GRS.

Yes, I've got "genital dysphoria" to a large degree. However, I'm also a realist. I don't want to have sex with guys. In fact, I have not had sex with ANYBODY in about 12-13 years, so what the hey, right? Don't want the pain, as my pain threshold is low. Don't want to dilate like forever. Heck, I'll just end up as what amounts to a eunuch. However, I'm ending up as one chemically anyway, but what the hey. To me, personally, the risk-versus-benefit ratio just does not come up roses. Most likely, I'll remain nonop.

Ironically, I COULD have "the surgery" inasmuch as my insurance covers it, my gender will write my letter anytime I ask him to and I could swing it even without the insurance if I really wanted to. Hell, a really good SRS/GRS surgeon has his office about 3-4 miles from where I live. This guy apprenticed under Dr. Toby Meltzer who our fair city LOST because of half-fanniedness inasmuch as they would not duely accomodate him. It would have been EASY to do so, but nooooooo! Fools.

Speaking of Toby Meltzer, (and I'm NOT bragging, I'm just saying), in 2006-2007, I could have paid him in one payment, and I believe he's the most expensive of the SRS/GRS surgeons out there, or maybe Brassard is. Over the years, that money paid other things. However, I was not "out to myself" until 2008 or so, so this issue is moot anyway. Didn't get my HRT letter until very late in 2009.

For those of you who WANT "the surgery" in a big way, I surely hope you will be able to do so.

Peace to You :thumbsup: Lacey Lynne

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Absolutely, positively, maybe.

Carolyn Marie

Yep, that's it exactly!

Goddess knows The Surgery would make living with myself a whole heck of a lot easier. I am so early in all of this though I can't say for certain. I am definately planning for it in my bugeting though. I don't want to get to where it is a real option and then have to wait til I have the savings.

<3

Elena

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