Gender Therapist

[Guest KaseyFox]

Hi everyone!

I had my first gender therapist appointment on Thursday. He is a nationally-renowned guy who's written a bunch of books and papers on FtMs and transexuals. Thing is, he told me to come back in 3 months 'cos i've been having panic attacks ('cos of gender issues) and that i should work that stuff out. He also told me to keep seeing my regular shrink (a freudian 70-year old guy who didn't believe i was a lesbian until i brought my girlfriend in and made out with her in front of him).

So, i'm confused and don't know what to do or where to go. I mean, the regular shrink is good for non-gender stuff, but if i have to see him for gender issues, i probably will never get anywhere.

Help?

Cheers,

Kasey

[Guest Michele H]

You need to get rid of BOTH. My counselor is great - they are out there - Hopefully someone who is from Conn will have some names of counselors to try - Otherwise, check the links here for counseling services and try another one. You are the consumer - if you don't click - try again. You NEVER EVER should be placed into a position of having to make out in front of the counselor to prove a point - You might even want to consider reporting that little event. Hang in there - lots of support here.

[Guest Snow Angel]

(a freudian 70-year old guy who didn't believe i was a lesbian until i brought my girlfriend in and made out with her in front of him).

That made me laugh hard. He doesn't sound like a good therapist if he won't even believe something so simple that you tell him at face value. Drop him like a sack of rocks. I've had my fair share of bad therapists in my teen years.

[Guest Grady]

I agree with Snow Angel and Michele. Drop 'em both. There are better therapists out there.

[Guest Evan_J]

No doubt. I can only second every thing thats been said here . Get rid of BOTH. Start over.Your regular shrink should be someone who after you talk to them you feel "better", motivated even. And when I saw my gender one earlier in the week heck I felt so good afterwards I dang near wanted to start a thread just to say so These are people who are supposed to be a serious "plus" in your world.

[Guest Keira]

He also told me to keep seeing my regular shrink (a freudian 70-year old guy who didn't believe i was a lesbian until i brought my girlfriend in and made out with her in front of him)

Eek. I don't think I'd be keen to talk to a freudian psychologist about my gender issues... didn't Freud consider crossdressing and transgender feelings to be nothing more than a denial of homosexuality? o.O

[Guest Drew]

get rid of both shrinks! they sound kinda out of it. panic attacks are no reason to postpone dealing with gender issues, i've had panic attacks since i was 13 and actually dealing with things seems to help.

[Guest lorddillon]

I can't agree more with what everyone else has said - get rid of them BOTH. Its hard enough to go through this when you have support - the last thing you need is a therapist (or 2) that don't support you. Go with your gut, you are right when you say you won't get anywhere - dump them and move on.

[Guest theEND]

I agree with everybody, they both sound pretty rubbish. Even if your shrink is generally good, if he can't understand something that's a big part of you..then he's signifcantly limited in how he can help you overall.