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I came out to an old school friend yesterday. She responded 'well yeah it should have been a clue when you called yourself Ben when we were 15'!

:blush:

Gabe

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Yeah...well there was no comment other than that so it was a total non-event really. She didn't seem particularly interested but maybe that's coz it was totally not news to her.

Gabe

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That worked out well, didn't it, Gabe. Or should I call you Ben? :P

HUGS

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I came out to an old school friend yesterday. She responded 'well yeah it should have been a clue when you called yourself Ben when we were 15'!

:blush:

Gabe

LOL.......ya think?

dj

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She responded 'well yeah it should have been a clue when you called yourself Ben when we were 15'!

:blush:

Gabe

Funny how she remembered that. It must have struck a chord.

Autumn

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Guest CariadsCarrot
Well it could've meant you thought of yourself as a big clock.

nah I'm not that tall

Or should I call you Ben?

Only if you let me call you urmentrude :P

I am not calling you Ben

lol thank goodness for that. Ben is a whole different incarnation of me...like a little brother, not me at all, just sharing some characteristics.

Funny how she remembered that. It must have struck a chord.

Maybe...interesting thought.

Gabe

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Funny how we wind ourselves all up and then-nothing.

In the long run it's good but short term you have all that energy just hanging there.

I always think of Ben as a guy with a rat but unless you are a horror film buff you won't understand why :)

Gabe suits. You know I am beginning to think that outside our families being trans ids one of those "Oh, okay. That's interesting. Now how do you like my new outfit?" things. A few people really object and most just find it unusual. Some like your friend aren't even surprised.

Johnny

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Thanks Johnny.

Yeah it is a kinda 'ok what do I do with this energy now?' kinda thing. I think you're right about most peoples reactions. From the people I've told so far most have been like that. Some have said more coz they relate and I've found it has brought us closer. Some have initially had no particular reaction and then come back with questions once they've though some more. Yeah it's been family who have actually had a reaction.

Lol rat's are kinda cute but I have too much of an over active imagination to watch horror films so I'm intrigued.

Gabe

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Gabe,

No one that I came out to was surprised. Deep down they know. Once I reaffirmed my true self, memories flooded back and I remembered how I tried to tell people who I was; your friend is someone who sees people for who they truly are but it also speaks about the wonderful person you are to attract such friends.

Remember when you first mentioned the name Gabe. That is all I am going to say. You know you are very special to me and seeing you have such wonderful affirmations and experiences warms my heart.

Hugs,

John

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