Would your children share your father's last name?

[Guest Jess25]

Hello all,

This issue has kinda bugged me for a bit, and I was wondering what people's opinions are.

Like, if you transition fully and live as a female, would you pass your family name on to your children? Societal norms would say that, as a woman, no your husband will pass his name on. But then I know that trans people fall in love with all sorts of other people, and sometimes the societal norm will just not apply.

Myself, I have many cousins, so I'm not too worried about my family name "dying out" or anything like that. What bothers me is that I am the only son my father has, and if I don't enter into a conventional relationship I may not pass on his name (I know my sister will not). This isn't a big worry of mine, but I am curious if others have felt similarly.

[Guest Donna Jean]

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Honey.......

That may be an issue in your head, but not a reason to base transitioning on.....

I'm getting ready to do my name change....names can be changed to almost anything....

Don't stress too much.....ok?

Huggs

Dee Jay

[Guest Jess25]

Thanks for the support.

It's not really something I'm basing my transition on, just one (of many) small fears I may have to confront if/when I tell my father. To tell the truth I'm a rather stress-free person, and I usually don't let things bother me. This was more for curiosity's sake, but I appreciate you worrying for me

[Guest Mia J]

We are too stuck in "social norms" There are many cultures in the world that use both family names and I like that idea. If you have children at this time I would leave it as it is and let your children decide when they are old enough to decide for themselves. If you are going to have children why not give them both last names.

Mia

[Guest filmgirl92]

When my aunt married my uncle she kept her last name but they don't have children. My cousin's husband took her last name and I assume if they were to have kids they would have her last name.

All my cousins with my last name are female and the two boys (and one girl who's husband took her name) are my dad's sister's kid so they have a different last name. My half brother has two girls who have his last name and I too am afraid the family name is going to die with me. When I have children, someday, I'll want them to have my last name and I am not worrying about what society thinks. This is a new generation and were only getting more liberal. Traditionalism isn't really dying it, more families are just doing what's best for their families.

[Guest Jess25]

Uh Filmgirl, I think you may have meant to post that second one on another thread?

Anyways, you all have given me a lot to think about. I'm sure whatever I choose for my future children, I will have talked to my partner extensively about it. As far as my father goes, I doubt this will be a major topic whenever I out myself to him.

[Guest filmgirl92]

Haha yes I did, sorry for some reason my computer seemed to be acting weird with posting tonight. Can a moderator please remove that post from this thread?

[Michelle 2010]

Removed as requested since in wrong topic.

Michelle

[Guest filmgirl92]

Thanks

[Guest Riana]

I always liked the idea of giving the children the name of the parent with the same gender, but that only works for straight couples of course. Giving them both names works too but which name goes first? I have a friend from Spain and he has both parents' names, as is customary there, but his father's name is first. In the Netherlands, a married woman often carries her own name in addition to her husband's. And I noticed today that in the webcomic 'Kevin and Kell', the husband took his wife's name.

There is also the convention they use in Iceland, which is much more traditional. They don't use family names in Iceland, instead the children are named after their parents' first name, usually the father. The children of John, called Mary and Peter, would be named Mary Johnsdaughter and Peter Johnson there. More recently, people in Iceland are naming their children after the mother as well.

[Guest Ariel Patterson]

I would want my children to have my SO's name. I am one of 5 children and there are enough males to carry the name. I do think more men should take their wife's name. I feel it shows a man's devotion and love to their SO. I would totally be okay with my SO taking my last name. Just as happy as if I were taking his/hers.