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I came out to my best friend last night.


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So, I came out to my best friend last night, and I'm surprised to say he took it really well. I knew he would accept, I just didn't know he would be that cool about it. I basically consider him my brother, so it was really important that he knew. But I don't know. I guess I expected it to change our friendship a little, but we continued talking we always do. It was really nice. :)

lol. Honestly, I was preparing for him to think I'm kidding, and that I would have to convince him I wasn't. Kind of my fault, though. I tend to send him pointless random texts like, "Dude, I have superpowers! Let's fight crime!!!" or "Meet me at the cemetery: It's ghost hunting season." On a quick side note, I feel like after telling him, I'm questioning more whether or not I am trans. It's been kind of on and off this whole week, but I seemed to spiral later that night after I told him. Is this weird? I may post something about this in the regular forums later.

Thanks everyone for reading! :)

-Izzy

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Hi Izzy,

I know what you mean. I've been disappointed that some have accepted it so easily and then we just carried on like nothing was different. I know that's the result we want, but I can't help thinking a little special attention would also be nice.

Go figure, I guess we might be a little complicated sometimes.

Hugs,

Shari

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It could be a couple of things. They may need some time to digest what you said and will talk to you about it later.

If your the joking kind or seem to say off things at time they may think you are just playing with them again.

Or, they may think that yes this is who you are and have always been and it does not matter to them because they are your friend no matter what.

Mia

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Guest Donna Jean

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Honey.......don't stress.....

You had a good outcome......you may want to think about seeing a gender therapist to help you with your feelings...

Huggs

Dee Jay

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Guest Izzybell

ii know, I'm doing my best not to worry until I find a gender therapist. The therapist I am seeing right now I thought was a gender therapist (it said she was on the insurance website, buti guess that was an error) but it's cool because she's helping me with my OCD and helping me find a GT. :) Now I just have to wait to see if any of the people I called on Friday call back during the week. Fingers crossed!

-Izzy

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This is a roller coaster ride for sure with the good things like being accepted by a friend followed by those doubts and fears so that we are up one minute and down the next. But just hang on -the ride does begin to smooth out with time.

Congratz on how your friend too your disclosure. In the long run that will be far more important than the spiraling.

Johnny

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I spiralled a bit after I told one friend. Didn't help that it was a day before my final exam! Just let it be, and watch the general movement, not every spot of turbulence. I'm glad he was cool with it anyway! :)

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Guest Izzybell

Yeah, I've just been feeling like I may be happier as a gay male for the last week or so, which scares me for some reason. :(

Sorry. I know this isn't the part forum to talk about this sort of thing. Anywho, thanks everyone for the responses! ^_^

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