A bit of truth on being a transsexual or questioning trans and how planing has helped me and could help you

[Guest accura]

hello My name is accura

Im here to tell you a bit of truth about being a transsexual or even a questioning trans look im going to be blunt so don't get offended if you think im being mean. This is not intened to be mean or to get you to back off being a trans i just want to give you a little bit of you should think about this before you go on through it. Now first of all im going to give you the bad news or should i say a bit of truth behind transsexuals.First of all there is still hate crimes on us transsexuals do not have a easy life we have to fight for survival. There is no justice if you do die during or after your transition. Yes we can die during are transition I'm not going to lie about that even after. if you wish to learn more about transitioning then read this link.

http://www.transsexual.org/basicsoftransition.html

survival is key if you wish to be a successful transsexual. for all of you who think that being a transsexual will make your life better it doesn't this isn't a magic pill this isn't done for fun it a last resort for all transsexuals or questioning. Look if you life sucked before it's still going to suck afterwords the only way to get away from it is to move to another state or city where no body knows your past. Im going to tell you a bit about me i know im a true MTF but i had made sure i made a plan for my future wherever it took me. now your probably wondering how can i make a plan if i haven't even started HRT. for people who don' know it means hormone therapy. Now before i tell you let me give you a few negatives that could happen to you some of these happened to me. First of all when you tell people or make the come out to your parents you could have some complications or u could have it to where your parents won't accept you. If you tell your friends make sure you trust them 100% friends can become a bitter enemy if he/she realizes your changing your gender i know you can't escape that but you should at least know. i expect it to not happen but i could. when you are out in public in your new clothing rather you be a MTF or FTM think of everyone as not trust worthy there is always someone out there who may think that your a easy target to kill or mess with. speaking of bulling or messing with others it will more than likely happen. i have a learning disability so it's hard for me to live life but i also got bullied all of my life because of my disability or because i acted or they knew i was female. now i would love to say that it gets better but it doesn't unless you go somewhere that doesn't know your past and start over again. most of what i said is scratching the surface of how hard being transsexual is. now im going to go on a bit of how i planed how i would prepare for me being a female as well as up to whenever i think i may get SRS.

1. Do your homework(what do i mean by this i mean get information talk to others who are like you rather in your city or even here at lauras playground live transgender chat)

2. Come out ( tell your parents and friends who you trust 100%)

3. Prepare for the wait ( Rome wasn't built in a day and nor will your transition it could take a minimal of 2 years but it could go up to 5 years)

4. Experiment ( Dress up as a female or male go out for a day see if you feel ok in gender you want to be)

5. Ignore ( if your friends ask you questions like why you in that ignore them or try to shy off the question don't tell them your transsexual cause it could cause some prob)

6. Hormone therapy ( this should be kinda of self explanatory)

7. Real Life Experience aka RLE( live life as a female for a few days out maybe even a week then years)

8. Sexual Reassignment Surgery aka SRS ( you should know what this is if not Google it)

9. Future ( what is your future going to be ???)

that's how i came up with my plan now i understand that this is not all true but it can happen and always never forget to seize the day or Carpe Diem

Hugs

Accura

[Guest]

Hello Accura,

Welcome to Laura's Playground!

You've painted an honest picture of what transition means to you, possibly brutally honest, but very clearly stated.

Can we help you with your transition decisions? If you have questions along the way, there will always be someone here at Laura's who understands and has experience to lead the way. Please ask!

Can you help others here? Of course! Please join in! There's work to be done, there are others taking the same steps. What can you tell them? Your story!

It's good to see you here - I do hope you can join in!

Love, Megan

[Guest accura]

hello nice to meet you yes id love to post my story but i would much rather wait till i get through my transition now as for help id be willing to help anyway possible but im mainly on live chat

[Carolyn Marie]

Welcome to the Playground, Accura. Nice to have you with us.

It does seem like you've done a lot of homework about this, and I commend you for that. It's better to have as much information as you possibly can, when considering something as serious and life changing as transition is. You are absolutely correct that transition will not solve your problems, other than your gender dysphoria, and will present quite a few problems you don't have now. But the goal is to live life in the correct gender, and the benefits of that are very often worth the risks, problems and cost.

You made one statement that I disagree with:

when you are out in public in your new clothing rather you be a MTF or FTM think of everyone as not trust worthy there is always someone out there who may think that your a easy target to kill or mess with. speaking of bulling or messing with others it will more than likely happen.

The dangers of being out and about in your true gender are certainly real, but the world is not so full of dangers as you might think. You are far more likely to be injured in a car accident as be injured in a fight with some transphobic jerk. If you take proper precautions, you can just as easily go through transition, and the rest of your life, without encountering serious problems. If you are constantly in fear, life will be very unpleasant.

I look forward to reading more of your posts.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Krisina]

Although you have a list there about transition what people do or do not do is entirely personal.

Some HUGE parts are missing from the list.

Seeing a gender therapist is one of the most important.

Seeing a gender therapist is the best way to work through a transition process.

Laser and electrolysis. Without clearing the beard shadow there is a bigger chance of being read.

Most people are good, there are some ignorant people and red neck people out there but they are not the majority. Safety in numbers when you go out, going with a girlfriend. Girls go in groups often for safety too.

Educate people who are ignorant. I don't look at people as if I cant trust them and I might get killed when I go out. Those are worse case scenarios that happen and more likely if people aren't prepared with the help of a gender therapist.

Krisina

[Guest accura]

thanks for the info most if not some of this is outdated information and i understand that this may leave a few things out

[Guest Mia J]

Like Krisina said the most important early step is to see a gender therapist. They will actually be able to help you work out a plan that is streamlined for you.

I also agree with others here that not everyone is out to get you. I have found very few people who want to cause a problem and I try to avoid going to areas or getting into situations where there may be those type of people around. Most of the people are very accepting and supportive and at this point in my life they assume I am a normal CIS female.

While 20 years ago it used to be common for a transsexual to move to a new location and just start out there as their true self, that is not very common anymore. As more people get educated about GID, transitioning in your own city helps you have a support group of people you already know. Sure, you may find some friends and family that do not accept but in most cases you will find at least some understanding and support.

Mia

[Guest accura]

thank you and i realize that i do have a therapist who i see but that's for the info