Am I Transgendered?

[Guest G_Unit]

Hi everyone, it's Stacy

Well my real name is Sam and I've been struggling with the thought that I may be transgendered for awhile now. To go back to when it all started would have to be the day I went into my mom's room and tried on some of her clothes. I ended up showing them to her and after awhile she got mad because of something I did. Well when I hit my teens and I had my own car I would go out and buy bras, panties and outfits to wear in my room. Well it was one day at my doctors office that my mom, dad and my doctor were all for helping me explore this side of me. I turned them down cause I didn't want people laughing at me (this was while I was a teenager). They had agreed to get me what ever I wanted for christmas that year and that would be what I got for Christmas.

Well I turned them down cause I didn't just want girl clothes for Christmas. I also wanted normal boy stuff for Christmas. While still living at home wth the family, and everyone would be watching some doctor show that had to do with someone that wore womens clothing out in public, she would say something like "See Sam, that's what can happen to you if you continue to do what you are doing." So since then I haven't really wanted to try going out in public dressed as a woman. I'm 25 now and I still haven't. I have talked to many professionals about this. None seem to help. So I'm coming back to where I know support is for me and asking questions. So to continue, while I was in my first apartment I would continue to buy clothes and get them given to me. Wait to back track a bit. While I was living at my parents house my best friend at the time would convince me from time to time to purge myself of all the womens clothing that I had. So I did, but it was counter-active. I just went out and bought more, and more and more. So to get to where i was. I even had this girl that my best friend was dating at the time tell me my body was pretty feminine looking. Just needed a few tweaks. Well I sorta took that to heart and now i'm trying to get my body back to where it was 7 years ago.

Well now I'm in my own apartment again and my new best friend is more supportive of me dressing as a woman than most people are. Which is nice but I still think that I may be trangendered or something close to that. I do hopefully someday plan to go out all dressed and have th courage to do so proudly. But for some reason what my mom kept telling me so long ago has been on the back of my mind and won't go away. So if anyone can help me find out if I truely am Transgendered or tell me what new questions I should ask people that would be of much help.

Again. IT's great to be back where there's support for me and me being myself.

Stacy Ann.

[JenniferB]

Hi Stacy Ann

I can give you a couple definitions. Transsexuals feel they were born in the wrong physical body because their gender identity doesn't match. As an example a person is born male but knows she should be a female. The other definition is for crossdressers. These people are happy about how they were born, but have to present as the other gender sometimes. There are other types of transgender people too. So I would recommend reading about all the different kinds of transgender people.

Understand we are not therapists so don't have the expertise to diagnose you. All we can do is share our experiences. What you need is a therapist who specializes in gender issues or a gender therapist (GT). The GT will help you find where you belong on the gender spectrum.

{{{Hugs}}}

Jenny

[Carolyn Marie]

Welcome to the Playground, Stacy.

Jennifer told you truly; no one here can tell you if you are TS (TG is usually used as an umbrella term that applies to the entire spectrum), or a cross dresser, or something in between. The best bet is to see a G.T.

Stacy, your mother was trying to shame you into giving up any notions of being a CDer or being trans, and it seems to have worked. All these years later, and you are still ashamed of how you feel, and who you are. Please don't be. There is nothing shameful about it; you are simply trying to be yourself, and be happy. Cross dressing hurts no one, and isn't a sin.

There is much for you to learn, and I encourage you to read the forum posts, ask questions, and talk to people. You are still young and there is time to figure things out.

I ask all our new members to read the Terms and Conditions, as we use them to keep the site safe for everyone. Thanks!

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Mia J]

Hello Stacy and welcome to Laura's. It is nice to have you here with us.

Jenny and Carolyn gave you some really good advice. While we can give advise and support we can not tell you if you are transgendered or where you fit on the spectrum. Only your can do that.

What you might want to do is to look for a gender therapist in your area or on line and have a few sessions with them. They can be wonderful for helping you to sort out where you are.

Mia

[Cyndee]

Hello Stacy, good to see you back here hon, I remember your previous posts. You have already received some great advice above, seeing a qualified gender therapist can help answer these types of questions for yourself.

I will just add a few of my experiences to this thread. Wearing Women's clothes is a very enjoyable experience for me. I just feel right when I wear female clothes. I love to go shopping for them. When I was about your age, I felt displaying myself in public would bring me shame, or bring out some "trans-phobia" in others, so I under-dressed a lot, or would dress up in my own place. Decades later I am still getting used to the idea of being out in public dressed, as I really don't "pass". But it's really OK now given where I live and this time. I just do it and have gained confidence. I went to a Starbucks yesterday in the big city, in broad daylight, with some friends from here at LP. I was dressed in yoga pants, bright blue leotard, sports bra showing thru, ballet flats and nylons, carrying my cross body purse over my shoulder. People were very friendly to me, even though I felt I really stood out (I am 6'4"). You can go out in public as Stacy, do what makes you feel comfortable, be yourself.

Hugs

Cindy -

[Guest miss kindheart]

Hi Stacy,

<<< hug >>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules.

We have Cross Dressers meetings -Tues 8pm est, and you are welcome to attend.

We all look forward to seeing you.

vanna

[Guest harry2001]

i was like this aswell my mum found me wereing her underwere and went mad but she understands me now and acepets that i am a transgender

[Guest G_Unit]

I see a therapist but I'm not sure he's quailifed to tell me whether i am or am not transgendered. My roommate brought it up in the car once but said he wasn't serious. But i've been thinking about it ever since. I might talk to my Social Worker about seeing a gender therapist if she knows of one. But my current one might be a good one to start with cause he would have knowledge on where one would be. It's good to be back. Glad I did come back. Thanks for all the support before and now. Guess I have some questions to ask my therapist when I see him next week.

[Guest toni2007]

I doubt seriously anyone is qualified to tell you your transgendered. That's a decision you have to make for yourself. What therapist can do (hopefully) is help you explore and recognize the feelings and thoughts you have toward yourself, your desires and your behaviors. Your is a good place here to explore and reveal yourself without judgement, and maybe examine your feelings and thoughts as you find them. It's no substitute for therapy, but you could use the insights to perhaps communicate better with your therapist.

From my own experience, being able to talk about the feelings behind my gender dysphoria has been very healing, that the desires and behaviors originate from very different sources than I had prevously thought. Rather than an end in itself, my CDing has started me on a journey of self awareness and acceptance, so that I don't do it as much, but I'm much more comfortable with it when I do. I still don't go out in general public, but I do go to Tri-Ess meetings, and I would have never done that if I hadn't "come out" on this website.

Toni