Bathroom/shower passing?

[Guest Talon]

Hey everyone.

I have a question I have been wondering about, I guess mainly for those of you who are living full time as your preferred gender and going to school, college etc.

I watched the documentary Transgender Kids quite a few times. I think it is great. But for those kids, who are out full time and in school, it made me wonder how they cope with things like showering after phys ed etc. I am just curious to hear if you are familiar with the policy of schools all over the place. Like, will they let you go to shower a few minutes before everyone else, what reason will they give the other students etc.? Or do they just shower together? And what when you're older and play college sports etc?Have anyone here had to deal with it and how did you do it?

I am just wondering. I had this thought that maybe you could argue that it was some religiously related thing. For instance, at many schools students who are not allowed to show themselves naked in their religion get to shower alone. But if you don't have that religion, you'd have to pretend in all other regards too and that's not really a great solution.

I don't mean to cross any lines by asking this but I am just very curious. I also would like to hear how people are dealing with it because I am going to college myself soon and if I choose to play any campus sports the issue will present itself.

Thanx!

Talon.

[Guest _Guest_]

In a lot of shower moments, every seems to mind to themselves anyways. With a hand or two covering up and a private area to yourself, they'll just think you're insecure and not of the opposite gender. I feel asking the coaches for special privileges would only bring about dislike and greater peer curiosity.

[Guest Lacey Lynne]

Great question, man. While I'm a transwoman and am majorly too old for school and/or college, I CAN tell you this much, and I believe you'll find it very interesting and applicable to your question.

For years, I've used both co-ed locker rooms and co-ed showers with no problem whatsoever. In fact, I thoroughly enjoyed both experience time and time again. Of course, this was at clothing-optional resorts which I've frequented and loved for nearly three decades now inasmuch as I'm a card-carrying (A.A.N.R.) nudist and free spirit.

My point? Those other men and women, teens and kids in the locker rooms and showers with me had no special training, no prior screening and no hassles of any kind. They learned the rules of respect and decency before paying their grounds fees before entering those facilities and just did it! It really IS that easy! Literally, in the blink of an eye, decades, centuries and maybe millenia of social conditioning just evaporated away.

So, how does this pertain to you and your question? Well, just know that it IS positive to have co-ed locker rooms and co-ed showers where people wear nothing but a smile, are peaceful and respectful. I know. I've done it ... many times.

Schools and colleges need only go to the A.A.N.R. website, look and learn that their fears are needless ONCE PEOPLE'S ATTITUDES BECOME ENLIGHTENED! It CAN be done! Look, when I was your age, there was no such thing as a family restroom in a mall or a gender-neutral restroom anywhere and anytime for any reason. Believe me, we've come a long, long way since then. We can go further still. You may want to turn the administration at your school on to the website I mention here.

Peace Lacey

[Guest Talon]

Lacey, that IS interesting! Thanks for sharing that! I will certainly try to affect the administration. Furthermore, I can't be the only person at school who'd like a co-ed locker room. It's very cool if you inform people about general rules before they enter. Then it's like a world of its own in there where you're just supposed to do what you gotta do n peace and quiet. I really, really like that thought!

So yeah, THANKS a bunch! I'll certainly use this!

Talon.