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So, I pass in public 100%, but I feel profile pics can be judged more easily since they are static and show more detail... do these attached pics look too masculine? There's a guy I really like that I've been talking to a lot on a social media site and I'm afraid of not passing... especially since a lot of my posts show up on his page =\ I'm really self-conscious about my nose and chin

Thoughts? Which picture is better for a profile pic (if either)?

Thank you!

Alison

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I'll try to be as objective as I can: while it is true that your nose and chin may indeed look slightly masculine, they are absolutely not a give-away. I have seen cis-gendered girls with stronger facial traits, and no one would question their gender.

If you are extremely worried about those traits, then maybe you should go with photo A: the intense light draws attention to the eyes, and thus away from these traits.

However, as John already mentioned, the happy and confident look on photo 2 works really well. I should add that the picture looks much more natural/spontaneous. IMO, these details (the confident and natural look) quite overweights the minor issue of slightly masculine traits, so I'd recommend using photo 2.

In any case, remember that aesthetic tastes are different for each individual, so nobody can tell you which of the pics will work best to draw that guy's attention.

And, to be entirely honest, I have to say that I envy you and wish I could pass as well as you do on those pics ;)

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Guest Aly Kat
You are smiling in that one and look very happy and confident.

Yeah I'm leaning towards 2 as well... my camera kinda spazzed out during the first pic and it turned out rather pose-y and overexposed

...remember that aesthetic tastes are different for each individual, so nobody can tell you which of the pics will work best to draw that guy's attention.

truth! the last guy I went out with for a bit said my nose looked "cute"... I always got mad at him when he said that and raged, "I hate it!!" =) This kinda made me realize my insecurity probably has more to do with rejection than passing =\ =/

And, to be entirely honest, I have to say that I envy you and wish I could pass as well as you do on those pics ;)

thanks, but I'm sure you're beautiful!

I looked more male that you back when I used to present as female.

thanks...? =) I checked out your profile & tumblr thing and you seem kinda awesome

~

love love love! if anyone else has input that'd be cool. I've been feeling really blah lately in my rle and this helps. I'm 22 & have been on hrt for about a year and a half if anyone doesn't know me and is curious.

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Sheesh, and Lacey wanted to give ME the hottie award! I bow out, not even in the running.

I could give you a photographers analysis, but Johnny already said everything I would have. And go figure I like #2 for the exact same reasons.

<3

Elena

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Guest Aly Kat

oh come on girl.....

you are beautiful!!!!

Erin

aww thanks <3 I guess I just have self-confidence issues

Sheesh, and Lacey wanted to give ME the hottie award! I bow out, not even in the running.

I could give you a photographers analysis, but Johnny already said everything I would have. And go figure I like #2 for the exact same reasons.

<3

Elena

you are too kind!!! :) thanks for the friend request

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If I just stumbled across your photos somewhere, I would think you looked like a beautiful, sassy woman who would probably be fun to be around. The last thing I would ever think is "man." In fact, I would never think "male" in connection with your photos.

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What's this about masculine? Nonsense! You look very beautiful and feminine! Personally I like the 1st pic, but both are definitely passable! I can't see how anyone would think otherwise :D

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You like a guy you found online? Make 100 PERCENT SURE that the guy in the photos you see on their profile are REALLY THE PERSON THAT OWNS THE PROFILE!! Make SURE your not talking to a fake creep... Just MAKE SURE!!

Also, I like both of your photos...

Again, PLEASE MAKE SURE THE PERSON ISINT A FAKE!! PLEASE do that....

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

Take care...

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