Therapy question.

[Guest Jordan.L]

Hello everyone, I am so confused on my gender. I use to think I was transgender, but my family disapproval of it caused me to suppress my feelings todays it and lived as a gay man for two years. However I started college a few months ago and now for some reason that I can't explain all my transgender feelings are starting to come back. The problem is that I want to get therapy so I can really figure things out but my parents ruse to pay for it. Is there anyway to find help that doesn't break the bank, because i have a little money saved up and I really need help. :'(

[VickySGV]

The college itself may be a start. Most colleges have a student health service that includes mental health isssues. College students have enough stress in their lives that they need counseling for, even about un-receptive parents. It may not be gender therapy right off the bat, but it will be a start. Next place would be a GLBT community center (again, your college GLBT Alliancej is a source of info on where) which would have referrals based on sliding scale fees. There are even some On Line therapy sources, and OH YES we have a list of GT's here on the Playground most of whom do have sliding scale or credit arrangements. Its not unusual for our feelings to be able to go into hiding, and then return with a vengence. Mine took several decades of hiding before reaching critical mass.

[Guest Mia J]

Hello Jordan,

It looks like you are at the stage where you will need to start with a gender therapist to help you sort things out.

A lot of us have been in that position.

Vicky gives some great suggestions to start out with.

We can help with some advise and talking about our own experiences but we can not replace a good therapist.

Mia

[Carolyn Marie]

Jordan, in addition to Vicky's excellent suggestion, I also suggest approaching your parents with the fact that you are anxious and depressed, and need help dealing with that. I can't see how they can say no when their child needs help with psychological issues that may effect your school work. It may not get you to a G.T., but its a start.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie