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Guest Tayloratethecake

Hello! Just thought i'd say hi!

I figured out i was trans 8 or so months ago, since then everythings gone a bit crazy!! I decided to join up so i can hopefully learn more about myself and chat with others.

anyway

yeah

awesome <3

I like the name Taylor, although it may be subject to change sometime in the future... probably should have left it out of my username but never mind :huh:

hugs and love!!!

Taylor

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Hello Taylor and welcome to Laura's. We are happy to have you here.

Things can get crazy after you figure it out.

Here at Laura's we try to provide a safe space where you can get advise and share experiences.

How ever we are not therapist. A good gender therapist can help you decide just where you fit in on the gender scale.

Please take some time and look at the terms and conditions so you can see how we operate on the forums.

Have a look around and post when you are ready.

Mia

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Welcome to the Playground, Taylor.

I like your name, but if you ever feel like changing it, let a Moderator or an Admin know and, as long as your requested name isn't taken, its yours.

Please feel free to post in any forum and ask any question. We are here to help in any way we can.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Tayloratethecake

Thanks mia and lyn <3!

I just got back from the psychiatrist, it took them 6 months to give me this appointment, glad im finally being refered on to the gender clinic now! I was worried at first but it all went smoothly. Feels good to be making progress ^_^

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Hi Taylor

Welcome to Laura's! You've found a great place to be yourself and explore your feelings.

Congratz on the successful visit with the psychiatrist-that is such a major hurdle behind you!

By the way I like your name.

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I enjoyed your introduction and look forward to your posts!

Johnny

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Guest miss kindheart

Hi Taylor,

<<< hug >>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules. :)

We have MTF meetings-Mon & Sat 9pm est, and you are welcome to attend.

We all look forward to seeing you.

:wub: vanna

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Guest musicalice

Heya Taylor :) welcome from another Brit!

Congratz on the psychiatrist thing :) I did that about three months ago now. Isn't it lush to have someone tell you you're probably sane? :D Get ready for the even longer wait now <_<

Looking forward to reading your posts :)

Alice.

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Guest Tayloratethecake

Heya Tasha! Debbie! John! Alice! <3

Isn't it lush to have someone tell you you're probably sane?

Thats exactly what i thought! I feel alot more confident since the appointment.

Get ready for the even longer wait now

I know! it makes me sad :(

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Guest DebbieS

Well, I hate to say this but where we are certainly, you are probably not going to get that until you talk to actual trans people who have been through what you are going through. The whole system we have over here tends to function (in my opinion) as a kind of process thing. You go along to you appointements and go through the whole NHS system but all you are effectively getting is the nod or otherwise, to go on to the next phase. Only us historically trans people can really count as specialists (again....in my opinion). If you want to chat about stuff then I have no problem,

Debbie.

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Guest DebbieS

No problem. Feel free to pm me or get in touch whenever you want to.

I have a small circle of about 20 trans friends and we are all at different stages. It's good to have peeps you can chat to for support.

Bye for now.

Debbie

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Guest jenna.jones

Welcome!

I'm fairly new here myself. Knew what i wanted to be all my life..didn't tell anyone til lI was 29..that was 4 days ago. I feel you with the confusion. If you ever need someone to talk to drop me a line.

-Jenna

29 y/o MTF pre-trans

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Guest DebbieS

Hi again Taylor

I hope you had a great Christmas. I certainly did, although I now need more squash sessions to get rid off all those extra pounds I put on during the festivities. In fact I have just organised one 10 minutes ago with a young FtM friend who beat me for the first time last week, bless him. While he is getting stronger, I am getting weaker. Oh well. :wacko:

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Hi Sugar!! And a warm, warm welcome to our family here at Laura's. You will find so much support and understanding here and a great cheer-leading section as you make your journey to becoming the woman you were born to be.

Miss Ricka

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